Why do many couples collapse when chatting? But you can communicate with friends of the opposite sex in depth?

This is a very meaningful topic, which highlights two levels of problems and deserves our in-depth consideration, especially those who have married a trivial marriage, which is closely related to this issue.

First, we always leave the worst to the closest and favorite people.

This is not a new saying, but many people perform every day. Give the worst temper, the worst words and the worst emotions to the people around you.

Especially between husband and wife.

Because I know each other's habits and know a lot about each other, I also know roughly where the bottom line is. When communicating at ordinary times, more "should" is deeply imprinted in my mind.

The other side should understand themselves, the other side should handle this matter well, the other side should understand their painstaking efforts, and the other side should ...

Everything should be. And if the other party can't do what he thinks "should", there is nothing to talk about, and it will collapse as soon as it is talked about. This is the problem that couples can't communicate-they can't put themselves in others' shoes.

Second, we tend to be emotionally antagonistic.

People with inner pain often like to talk to someone and tell others what they are talking about, especially after finding a loyal "listener".

The other party can listen attentively to what they say, analyze it slowly later, and give a lot of "useful" suggestions after summing up.

Especially with some "hit it off" members of the opposite sex, there is simply a feeling of meeting and hating each other.

In fact, others just listen to your story, don't care, and don't take it to heart. The "big truth" said by the other party can be told to others by yourself.

Even more ridiculous things, their own stories, may be told to his friends by the other party in the form of jokes.

What I haven't confided is that the problems between husband and wife are getting harder and harder to solve.

So, if couples really want a good life, they will:

When communicating, we often put ourselves in the other's shoes, or if we can't talk any more, we will pause and discuss it when everyone calms down. Maybe, after we calm down, we don't need to discuss it. The problem has been solved.

On the contrary, the contradiction between husband and wife is getting more and more serious, which is mostly related to the frequent communication between one party and the other opposite sex. It is sad and irresponsible to let an ignorant "warm-hearted" decide the housework by himself.