The child was laughed at by his classmates. How should parents appease him when they know?

What if the child is laughed at by his classmates? The child was laughed at by his classmates. How should parents appease him when they know? If children are laughed at by their peers, we should first understand the reasons why children are laughed at, and then think about countermeasures.

Jojo has been a fat baby since she was a child, and her family praised her for being strong and lovely. But since primary school, some students have always laughed at her as a "fat girl" and given her various nicknames, such as "Little Sister Pig", "Meatball" and "Meatball". As a result, Jojo became unhappy, cared about her weight very much, and even tried dieting to lose weight. Jojo's mother looked in her eyes and was anxious in her heart, but she didn't know how to enlighten her daughter ......

Every child has the experience of being teased or laughed at by his peers when he is growing up. Perhaps it is the laughter of the whole class when answering the wrong questions in class occasionally, or perhaps it is because of their own characteristics that they have been nicknamed strangely by their peers.

Children play jokes on each other, which is a way to show intimacy and bring each other closer. Many times there is no malice, but the child doesn't realize this, but feels an invisible harm.

The ridicule of peers is likely to become a shadow in children's hearts. Especially children with sensitive personality will be very concerned about external evaluation, especially negative evaluation. Peer ridicule will make them sad, sad and even doubt themselves.

So, what if children are laughed at by their peers?

As parents, we should first give our children a warm embrace, listen patiently, understand the reasons why their children are laughed at, and then prescribe the right medicine and give them appropriate support and encouragement.

Usually, children are laughed at for three reasons:

Reason one: physical "defects" short stature, overweight or thin, wearing glasses, braces, obvious birthmarks and scars on the face and other obvious physical "defects" ... This is the most common reason for children to laugh at each other.

With the growth, every child will go through a stage of paying great attention to self-image and begin to have their own understanding of "beauty". They began to care about their own image and what others thought of them.

However, if the companions around you repeatedly mention the child's "defects" and show disapproval or even disgust, it will do great harm to the child. For example, Chuchoo, the fat baby mentioned at the beginning, will try to lose weight because of the ridicule of his classmates.

What should parents do at this time?

Step 1: Tell children that there is more than one standard of beauty.

As far as figure is concerned, many modern people pursue thinness for beauty, but in the Tang Dynasty, people once pursued a slightly chubby figure. Everyone's figure and appearance are different. As long as you are healthy, you don't have to doubt yourself because of other people's eyes.

In addition, children should also be told that the pursuit of beauty should not be limited to appearance. A person's inner self-cultivation, extraordinary speech, generous manners and elegant temperament are also the embodiment of beauty.

Step 2: Help children accept themselves.

These truths may be easy for children to understand, but it still takes a lot of courage to face the ridicule of peers. At this time, parents might as well learn from this father:

A boy has a big ugly birthmark on his face. The purple birthmark extends from the corner of his left eye to his lips, as if someone scratched his face vertically. His companions often taunt him, and he feels distressed and inferior. But his father's words changed him.

Father said to him, "Son, before you were born, I prayed to God to give me a special son, so God gave you special talents and asked the angel to make a mark for you." The mark on your face is the mark of angel's kiss. He did it so that I could find you in the crowd at once. When I saw you sleeping in the nursery with other babies, I knew at once that you were mine! "

Therefore, the boy studied very hard, for fear of wasting the special talent given to him by God. Many years later, he became a friendly, humorous and positive person. Everyone who has dealt with him falls in love with him involuntarily.

The father used a warm-hearted story to help his children accept their differences in appearance.

The second reason is that my mistakes in answering simple questions in class caused laughter; A performance error missed the award; Making a fool of yourself in front of your classmates and being criticized by your teacher for making mistakes ... This kind of experience often becomes the reason for peers to ridicule.

Jojo, who is in Grade Three, recently experienced such a thing:

The school held a long rope jumping competition, and all classes were practicing hard. Jojo is not familiar with it. He often makes mistakes in class exercises. Therefore, the classmates taunted him and decided to let Jojo and several other students with poor grades be substitute teachers for class performances. Jojo was very sad, not only because he felt guilty that he could not help the class honor, but also because his classmates made fun of him. Jojo decided never to jump the long rope again, so stay away from this sport!

In fact, making mistakes is a matter of making children feel guilty. If coupled with the ridicule of classmates, this mistake is likely to become an insurmountable hurdle in children's hearts, so that children will be afraid of it from now on.

What should parents do at this time?

Step 1: Tell children that everyone makes mistakes.

It is human nature to make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, and they all have their own bad points. For example, Jojo made a mistake when jumping a long rope. Her parents can tell her that she is not the only one who made a mistake. She is just not good at this sport at present, so there is no need to be disappointed in herself because of a small mistake. Parents can also give their children an example of a person who made a mistake that they or their children respect, so as to reassure their children.

Step 2: Help children face their mistakes.

After telling the truth, it is the key to help children face mistakes together.

Did you answer a simple question wrong in class because you were distracted or didn't understand? How to avoid distraction next time? I don't know how to tell the teacher in time.

Did the performance fail because of nervousness or insufficient practice? How to ease the tension in my heart? How to remedy the lack of practice?

Is it because you are not good at jumping long ropes or because you are not skilled? If you are not good at skipping rope, try a sport with your own advantages. If you are not skilled, you can practice often.

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Help children analyze the causes of mistakes, face them and correct them, so that children can face them without fear and with courage.

Reason 3 Some "inappropriate" behaviors Sometimes, if a child's behavior habits are different from most children, then the child is easily laughed at. For example, Doudou likes reading books, while his playmates are together and talking about animation. Doudou, who reads alone, often becomes the object of teasing by his peers.

However, every child is eager for company. He wants to get married and be popular among his peers. Therefore, after being laughed at, some children will force themselves to change and cater to their peers in order to gain recognition.

Recently, Jia Jia's mother received a message from her fifth-grade son and felt at a loss:

Jia Jia is often laughed at by her classmates in class, so she envies her classmates' popularity. In order to gain the recognition of his classmates, he also learned to indulge in mobile games like most of his classmates, hoping to become a master of the game and let his classmates like it.

Faced with such a situation, what should parents do?

The first step: encourage children to stick to themselves.

Everyone is unique. We must first learn to respect ourselves. Do you give up what you should do to cater to your peers, gain friendship or just for vanity? True friendship is a good feeling of mutual respect, mutual appreciation and mutual help between people, not based on deliberate catering and pleasing. If you give up reading that you really like and are beneficial to yourself just to satisfy vanity, isn't it worth the candle?

We should have the courage to stick to what we love and think it is right. You don't have to feel worthless just because some classmates ridicule you. In my future study and life, I will definitely find people with similar interests.

Step 2: Close the distance with your partner in another way.

Peer status is very important for children. In fact, there are many ways to gain peer recognition. In addition to playing games, personality charm, certain skills, excellent grades and so on. Can make children recognized by their peers. You don't have to make fun of yourself because of some aspects, you have to change it deliberately.

Some people think that people who can play basketball are cool, some people appreciate the elegance of people who can play piano, and some people like players who are good at playing games ... Is it necessary to do all this in order to make different people like it? We can't do it, and we don't need to change ourselves for the evaluation of others. Do what you like and are good at, and someone will always appreciate your unique charm.

Facing the ridicule of others is a compulsory course for everyone to grow up. I hope every child can overcome this difficulty bravely.