What is the principle of communication between poor friends and Zhu Yuanzhang?

1328- 1398 On June 24th, Ming Taizu Emperor Zhu Yuanzhang, named Guo Rui, [1] was originally named Chongba, [2] lat

What is the principle of communication between poor friends and Zhu Yuanzhang?

1328- 1398 On June 24th, Ming Taizu Emperor Zhu Yuanzhang, named Guo Rui, [1] was originally named Chongba, [2] later named Xingzong, a native of Zhongli, Haozhou, and a native of Fengyang, Anhui, was the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty. Zhu Yuanzhang was very poor when he was a child. He used to herd cattle for the landlord. Below I sorted out the communication principles contained in the stories of poor friends and Zhu Yuanzhang for your reference.

The story of a poor friend and Zhu Yuanzhang 1368 AD, Zhu Yuanzhang ascended the throne and established the Ming Dynasty. However, some of his former friends still lead a hard life.

One day, a poor friend came from the countryside and asked to meet Ming Taizu in front of the Forbidden City in Beijing. Zhu Yuanzhang was very happy to hear that he was an old friend. But when he saw Zhu Yuanzhang sitting on the throne, his previous appearance didn't seem to have changed much, so he got carried away and said bluntly, "Long live your honor! Do you still remember me Once upon a time, you and I were herding cattle for others. One day, we cooked the stolen beans in a crock on the reed swing. Before it was ripe, everyone scrambled to eat it and even broke the cans. Beans were scattered all over the floor, and soup was spilled on the mud. You just grabbed beans all over the floor and accidentally put red grass leaves in your mouth. Leaves stuck in your throat make you laugh and cry. It was my idea. I ate the red blade of grass in my stomach ... "Before I finished, Zhu Yuanzhang was impatient for a long time, thinking that this childhood friend was too disrespectful, and he was furious and said," Push it out and behead it! Push it out! "

Later, another poor friend learned about it and thought that this person was too reckless, so he made a plan and confidently went to see his childhood friend, the current emperor.

The poor friend came to the capital to see Zhu Yuanzhang. After the gift was delivered, the man said, "Long live the emperor! I swept the state capital of Shanghai with the coachman, and broke the remnant state. Marshal Tang was on the run and took General Dou. Hon Hai 'er stopped me and worshipped General Liang. " Hearing this, Zhu Yuanzhang couldn't help laughing. He recognized this as a childhood friend, and he was more pleased that this person subtly hinted that they played together as children, so he made him the general manager of the body-guard and stayed with him.

The spreading principle of this story.

The two friends have different names. At this time, Zhu Yuanzhang is now the son of heaven, not the cowherd. How can you call him Brother Zhu? Also, childhood festivals are unbearable for Zhu Yuanzhang. It is indecent to rob beans to eat. Who will be happy if it is exposed? So this should be taboo,

The other is euphemistic, telling the ugly story of childhood like a war, which naturally won the favor of the emperor. Therefore, it is very important to use address forms, taboos and euphemisms correctly in interpersonal communication. Don't say things you shouldn't say.

When you say something you shouldn't, it often costs a lot of money to make up for it. As the saying goes, "A promise is a promise, a promise is a promise", "Illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth", which may even cause irreparable lifelong regret! Therefore, communication cannot be irresponsible and outspoken; But if you don't talk at all, sometimes things will get worse.

mutual respect

Only by giving respect to each other can we communicate. If the other person doesn't respect you, you should also demand the respect of the other person appropriately, otherwise it will be difficult to communicate.

The significance of the communication principle contained in this story in daily communication 1. Avoid lying when dealing with people. Lying is despised. Liars are not only despised by others, but also psychologically punished by themselves. Because, after lying, people will be flustered and can't sleep at night. This will cause brain dysfunction, lead to imbalance between excitement and inhibition, and cause nervous system diseases such as neurasthenia. Therefore, don't tell lies in the process of interpersonal communication.

Second, it is not appropriate to say too many compliments in communication. Praise is the lubricant of interpersonal relationship, which can make interpersonal relationship harmonious, but it must be just right. If you say disgusting compliments in interpersonal communication, it will make people feel contempt and disgust, which is not conducive to interpersonal communication. Seeking truth from facts and praising each other appropriately can create a warm, friendly, positive and enthusiastic communication atmosphere. Praise can be reciprocated by the same friendliness. If you can satisfy other people's human desires, know how to praise and be good at praising, then you will become a compassionate, understanding and attractive person. The excessive compliment in interpersonal communication is hard to hear, which not only lowers one's personality, but also can't get the recognition of the other party. Therefore, it is not appropriate to say too many compliments in interpersonal communication.

Third, laughter can enhance friendship. Happy laughter is not only beneficial to health, but also can enhance friendship, especially the laughter in conversation can achieve the effect that ordinary words can't. When meeting a stranger, the other person may appear stiff. At this time, if you can tell a joke, it will cause laughter on both sides, make the other side feel relaxed and cordial, and the sense of restraint will disappear. When the other person's question is difficult to answer at the moment, laughter can provide time for thinking and let you find the right response; When the conversation atmosphere enters a tense stage, timely laughter can ease the tense atmosphere and can be regarded as a "mediator" to open the deadlock. In addition, using laughter to refuse the other party's request can not only ease the atmosphere, but also make the other party embarrassed. At the same time, laughter can also eliminate troubles and restore fatigue. In a word, laughter is a vivid expression. In communication with people, laughter is essential, and of course laughter needs to be just right.

4. Look at the people around you with positive, positive, supportive and constructive eyes, be good at discovering and praising the advantages of others, compliment them appropriately when necessary, and accept their criticisms and suggestions happily. After being hurt by feelings, you can still communicate calmly. Apologize to others in time after touching their feelings. When someone disagrees with your point of view, you don't have to force others to accept it, and you don't have to feel angry. When you are wrong, you should bravely admit your mistake. Let others finish the dialogue before expressing your opinion. Listen carefully when others are talking.

Fifth, learn to listen when communicating. Focus on each other, half-hearted, perfunctory; Find meaningful things from uninterested topics; Act according to circumstances, simply tell each other's content and their feelings; Don't be preconceived when you listen for the first time, and then look for the theme and main points after listening.