There is a joke called, if you agree, it is true. If you don't agree, it's a joke. Don't be angry.

According to your description, there is a joke called "If you agree, it is true; If you don't agree, it's a joke. Don't be angry. " This is actually a kind of rhetoric, not a real joke. Moreover, this way of speaking is quite skillful, with obvious purpose, constantly testing the bottom line of others, and then trying to leave a way out for yourself. Compared with directly offending others' pain and making others angry, it is gentler and more ingenious.

In the final analysis, in fact, this statement that "you don't agree, just say it's a joke, so that the other party doesn't get angry" is actually not a joke, but a tentative statement. Because a real joke will not easily touch the bottom line of others or make people angry, and this situation may happen.

Another possibility is that the speaker deliberately said this in order to save face for himself. For example, a boy pursues a girl to say this, and in order to prevent the other party from disagreeing with embarrassing the girl, he says that he is joking. This can at least make both sides not embarrassed, not for fun. But this kind of speech is ingenious and has certain application value in real life.

However, it is no problem to use this method occasionally, but if a person always touches the pain of others in this way, it is still very inappropriate, and it is easy to accumulate people who don't like to associate with him, so be careful.

Good luck, please accept it if you are satisfied.