Jishui local marriage customs

If men don't get married and women don't get married, I'm afraid there will be jokes. I can't keep my daughter when she is older. Stay. Stay and be the enemy. When it comes to men and women, parents should conform to the laws of nature and get married early for their children.

Most of the marriages between men and women before Jishui were the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. Generally speaking, there are procedures such as passing on the Geng, arranging the eight characters, meeting people, seeing the red list, getting engaged, reporting to Japan, sending the elderly, getting married, paying homage to the bride, entering the bridal chamber, and making trouble in the bridal chamber.

In the old society, marriage was often the words of a matchmaker, and parents decided later. As the saying goes, "the matchmaker has a book in his heart, so there is no girl and lang." The right match can be matched, and the perfect match is the same. " Encouraged by the matchmaker's words, both parents had an intention, and the matchmaker passed on the woman's birthdates to the man, which was called "passing on Geng". The man asked Mr. Wang to test the horoscope of men and women together, which is called "arranging horoscope". If the eight characters match, please ask the matchmaker to return the woman's birth. If the eight characters match, the man will "cover the eight characters", that is, pay the woman a small amount of money and goods, which is regarded as a eight-character bride price. In some places, there is also the custom of pressing the eight characters, that is, pressing the woman's birthdates on the incense burner under the man's altar for a week, during which nothing happened, indicating that the eight characters of both men and women are the same. In the past, there were also taboos about the zodiac, saying, "Long Hudou is short-lived; Two sheep don't live long; Two tigers are different mountains, and pigs and monkeys are not at the end; Chickens and dogs are different, and white horses are afraid of green cows; The dragon is like a white tiger, and the tiger and mouse don't get married; The marriage between chicken and dog broke down "and so on. "Look at others" after the eight-character is stamped, that is, the woman's mother, aunt, cousin and other men's houses look at the real estate, and the man wants good wine and meat. When you leave, you should give everyone a red envelope or clothes, which is called "sending". I hope there will be more kind words. I have seen that people have no objection, and then I will "look at the red list", that is, talk about the bride price. The list of ceremonies shall be issued by the woman and reviewed by the man. After both parties agree, the matchmaker will testify, and then the agreed bride price will be listed on red paper and signed. The dishes for bride price and future wedding banquets are forbidden to be single. Even if you send a pig, you should write "the whole pig becomes a head", which means "if both are right, it will be rich for thousands of years" The man should give half of the materials listed in the gift list to the woman, which is called "overwork" or "excessive gift" as a deposit. This is a formal engagement, also known as "engagement". I'm engaged. When I'm older, I'll choose a good day and look forward to the wedding. From engagement to marriage, there are two or three years, and there are ten or eight years, depending on the age of the engaged men and women at that time.

When a man marries a woman, the man asks his husband to choose an auspicious day, write a wedding red card, put it in a letter bag, write "Announce Good Days", and send someone to the woman together with Japanese food and gifts, which is called "reporting the day" or "celebrating the day". My wife took the red post, please check it and see if it is auspicious. If it is a good day, the woman agrees to get married, accepts the red post, and writes "Weeks are like life" in her reply. If the woman disagrees with this date, write "Choose another wedding date" in the reply. The man must choose another auspicious day until the woman agrees. After the wedding date is fixed, we will send invitations to relatives and friends and invite them to a wedding banquet. The invitation must be delivered to the door to show respect for the invited person. Generally, we invite first, then congratulate, and don't invite. He wants a present. Only people who share a room don't have to give gifts. They just help with the wedding, and money is indispensable.

The day before the wedding, the man should send someone to give the woman a Shang to make up all the gifts listed on the gift list, but don't send a pig's belly for fear of misunderstanding that the woman is pregnant. When the bride grows up, the man thanks his parents and relatives, so he is called "still old". The day after seeing the merchant off, the man prepared a sedan chair to "greet the bride", also called "pick up the bride". Getting married means starting early in the morning and arriving the day before a long journey. The number of people who pick up the bride can be more or less, mainly including matchmakers, bridesmaids, drummers, porters and porters. Every time the bride-picking team passes by a place where people live, joy is played, which means to love others for good luck. When you arrive at the woman's house, set off firecrackers to welcome you. The groom is at home waiting for the bride to arrive early.

A day or two before the bride's wedding, she should start crying intermittently until the wedding day reaches its climax. Crying to get married is a gratitude to parents for their attachment and upbringing. The bride's mother and friends cried in metropolis, expressing their reluctance to be separated from the bride.

On the morning of Mother's Day, the bride combs her hair and puts on a red skirt and flower shoes. She knelt down to thank her parents for their kindness, and then bowed to the clan, relatives and elders to say goodbye. In the sound of gongs and drums, the bride was carried to the ancestral hall by her husband or other rich people and held a "farewell ceremony". The bride kneels nine times to her ancestors, the patriarch drums three times, and the bride wears a HongLing to get on the sedan chair. Ancestors think that it is unlucky for the bride to meet buildings such as wells and temples on her way to marriage, and they are afraid that demons will see the bride's natural beauty and national color and have evil thoughts, so they wrap red cloth around her head to ward off evil spirits and avoid disasters. On the way to the wedding, it is forbidden for two wedding teams to meet. Without Shuang Fu, what we pay attention to is the monopoly of good things, so we should strive for the high and low ratio to win or lose. Blessed are the winners, and unlucky are the losers. In order not to hurt the harmony, the brides of both sides exchanged handkerchiefs to show that they would strive for an equal and peaceful settlement. At least it depends on each other's nature.

After the wedding, the groom went out in red and went to the ancestral temple with the bride, beating gongs and drums to receive firecrackers to welcome him. After the ancestor worship, accompanied by the sound of gongs and drums, the bride was sent to the groom's house in the first hand. When holding the bride, only one hand is allowed to hold the bride. Don't change hands or stop to have a rest. When the bride enters the ancestral temple and her husband's family, she must cross the "seven-star lamp" and let the evil spirits who follow stay outside the door. The seven-star lamp holder is placed in a copper basin with rice in it and a rice screen on it. A thousand eyes are screened, and any ghost must show its true colors. The lamp is a clear oil lamp, and the wick is made of red thread. Then put the seven-star lamp under the new bed in the new house. The seven-star lantern evolved from the worship of the Big Dipper in ancient times.

On the wedding day, mirrors, scissors, rulers, etc. Hanging on the doors of the ancestral temple and the groom's house, saying that this is a witness that Ming Media is getting married. In addition, there are liters, abacus and scales, all of which are six certificates. Know how much to eat and have children to testify; Clothes are good or bad, scissors testify; How long the cloth is, the ruler testifies; Beauty and ugliness face, mirror witness; The weight of things is testified by scales; The account book is unclear, and the abacus testifies. Pay attention to three media and six certificates before marriage. Three fingers and three realms, namely heaven and earth. These, like the HongLing cloth on the bride's head, all come from the legend of ancient beautiful marriage. At the same time, these things are considered by ancestors as a magic weapon to eliminate disasters and evil.

The bride was carried to the man's house, and there was a grand ceremony-meeting the bride. The wedding of the bride was held in the hall of the man's house, with a band playing music. The word "Happy" is pasted on the upper wall of the hall in red, and a pair of big red candles are lit on the altar, which are called "wedding candles". The ground in front of the altar is covered with straw mats, which is convenient for the bride and groom to bow down. There was a compliment in the previous meeting. Worship heaven and earth first, then ancestors, then elders, and then husband and wife worship each other. Its purpose is to make marriage recognized and protected by heaven and earth, and husband and wife depend on each other. When worshipping the elders, the elders should pay money to express their gratitude to the bride and groom for bowing down. After the worship, the bridesmaid will send the bride to the bridal chamber for a ceremony of uncovering her head and drinking a glass of wine.

The new house has been decorated. When the wedding procession came back, all the dowry was put in the bridal chamber, and a good woman was chosen to be responsible for loading the bed and arranging everything in the bridal chamber. There is a child's basin in the dowry box, and there are red dates, peanuts, longan and beans in the basin, which means to have children early after marriage. Candles were lit in the bridal chamber, and everyone was beaming. The candle is a dragon and phoenix candle, which shines until dawn, wishing the couple a long life together. The seven-star lamp under the wedding bed is a happiness lamp. When flowers bloom, happy events come. Seven-star lanterns, like candles, pray for good luck to ward off evil spirits and make them have nowhere to hide.

In the bridal chamber, the bride and groom are ashamed to eat "cockfighting rice". The so-called "chicken for rice" is to chop a chicken into ten pieces, with ten pieces of lean meat and ten chickens. Chicken means good luck. Chicken, meaning early birth of your son, many children are more blessed. Rice symbolizes the combination of men and women, and raw rice is cooked into mature rice. Cockfighting rice can't be finished, so you can only share it with your elders.

When a man marries a woman, there are couplets, and the red double "hi" not only sets off the atmosphere, but also congratulates him on his wedding. In marriage, red is everywhere. Traditional culture takes red as the positive color, bright color and festive color, which can overcome evil and drive away evil spirits.

The wedding banquet of married women is in the morning and the wedding banquet of relatives is in the evening. This is called a "dinner party". When having dinner, you should sit at the table, and the father, uncle or uncle of both men and women will play the leading role at the table. Thunder Lord in the sky, uncle in the ground. My mother-in-law is the biggest incumbent director. After sitting down, the banquet opened with joy. Sir, when you are full, put down the dishes and chopsticks, light firecrackers, and everyone can end it. There was a whole fish at the party. When you want to turn over one side after eating, be careful not to break the fishbone. The fishbone is broken, and jealous people think it is dangerous to break up in the middle of marriage.

There is also a "bridal chamber" after dinner, which is a matter for young people and shows their attachment to the groom. The groom became someone else's husband. From then on, everything was under the control of the bride, and the young people lost their freedom. On their wedding night, they will come to the bridal chamber to have fun, play cards, drink tea and eat fruit. In ancient times, the bridal chamber also played a role in praying for good luck and ward off evil spirits. After the wedding, the bride and groom were ashamed and happy, and men and women loved each other. At this point, both men and women have completed the whole process of Ming media being married.

On the second day after marriage, the bride's family will send a boy to the bride. Oil bear is a pair of fire cages with eggs, tea, hair oil and so on. On the third day, the bride's brothers need to invite the newlyweds back to their parents' homes, which is called "three dynasties returning home". You can't stay at your mother's house for long. "If you live in seven instead of eight, you can live in eight women's houses." My parents have a problem. There are also sayings of "8820 cents" and "992 cents", which mean that you can stay at your parents' home for eight days when you go back on the eighth day and nine days when you go back on the ninth day. Newlyweds can't share a bed at their parents' house. If a daughter is pregnant in her mother's family, it means that the married daughter will bring her family's "human potential" and "financial potential" to her husband's family, and her family will decline. There are also women's parents and sisters who "married" at the man's house on the day of the return of the Three Dynasties, such as Shuinan and Baisha, which are intended to comfort the bride not to be homesick and persuade the bride to honor her in-laws and keep a woman's morality. Some places are called "full moon", such as Jintan and Huangqiao in Shuixi, but this is one month after marriage.

Jishui people also talk about marriage taboos: no marriage with the same surname, no marriage with close relatives, no marriage in case of funeral, no marriage. It is also required that the age gap should not be too big. Old wives lead to laziness. The picture shows that you are happy for a while and uncomfortable for life. There are women who are older than men, but they can't be a freshman. A female freshman, not a wife. Female freshman, Huang Jinfei. Marriage also emphasizes the order of the young and the old. Brother is before brother, and sister is before sister. Cut early rice first, then late rice. It's always bad to turn it upside down. Jishui used to pay attention to not marrying in the year without spring and double spring. A year without spring is called a widow's year. If you get married, you won't have children. Spring is the communication between heaven and earth, and everything begins. When Yin and Yang meet, no spring means that Yin and Yang Can can't meet, so there will be consequences of not having children. Double spring is easy to cause double happiness (getting married in that year and having children in that year), and it is naturally not a good thing to be sad and happy. These are customs, not superstition. Believe it or not, it's another matter.