My wife always blames me for being useless, says she regrets marrying me, and always says she wants to divorce me. I also want a divorce. Should I leave?

1. Find an experienced and capable elder, analyze the situation at home, especially your career, and listen to some suggestions. If you really can't find it, spend a little money to find a consulting company with good reputation to help you make career planning and study planning, and make a detailed plan.

2. Find a middleman so that you and your wife can sit down and talk seriously. 1) talk about the future first, talk about other people's comments and your plans. 2) Then seriously ask her if she plans to spend another day together. If so, let her know that your ability and your family status are like this. If you can do it, you will become better together. The goal should not be too high, but it should be achievable. 3) Ask her what she thinks and plans, discuss your two plans, see what concessions both sides need to make, what the other side insists on, and have a clear division of labor, so that you can make family plans together.

3. Do, adjust, improve and do it again. You should make progress, let her know all the progress and difficulties, and let her feel involved and see hope. Yang Shitou, the intellectual cube, said that there are four realms in life: living, muddling along, living and running. You're welcome to say that you may have just let her live before, and you were really desperate. If you can give her a little hope and turn her life into a day, I believe she is the kind of good wife who can share weal and woe. Also, when talking about work, don't just report good news but not bad news, because even if you don't report life itself, your wife's faint hope will be stifled by only reporting good news and life only reporting bad news.

Both of you should learn to be a good husband, wife, father and mother. You must spend time and money. It is important to learn from elders and see the experience of peers. Maybe at the beginning, you need more outside intervention, such as signing up for a class to summarize and report on your study and practice regularly, and having professional people to help you orient, or at least, both sides have common time to read books and do case studies. It is said that doing business makes money, in fact, families and families can also gather money.

5) Let her know that she chose you, but it didn't make you better. She is also responsible. The so-called Wang Fu didn't actually deliver it, but did it. Obviously, she didn't do it. In fact, a man is still a child before the age of 30 and needs the discipline and guidance of his wife. She needs to train you, and you have to let her train.

Finally, if you have nowhere to start, after analyzing yourself comprehensively, you can take my words to her and you can think about the way out together. Because I personally think that you are just, but unlike those who know it, you have been poor together, and you still have feelings. Good luck.

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