Your sadness, in the eyes of others, is just a joke

In the circle of friends, classmates were complaining about a woman on the side of the road who argued on the phone and then cried bitterly. The general idea was that it is not worth making yourself look like a madman for someone who doesn't care about you.

I couldn't help but reply, maybe it wasn't the person on the other side of the phone who broke her down, but something that she encountered that was difficult to deal with?

I didn’t see this woman crying on the street. I don’t know what happened to her. I only know that her fragility and sadness, in the eyes of others, turned out to be just a joke. A lunatic who doesn't understand people well and doesn't know how to deal with his own emotions.

Suddenly, I lost my favor with this classmate. Firstly, the post she posted to Moments was not rational enough. Secondly, what caused her to lose favor with her was the gloating look on her face when she replied to me.

We don’t know what others have gone through, so what right do we have to dictate others’ lives? Today, others may see you as a joke. Can you guarantee that you will never become a joke in the eyes of others?

I have been crazy like this before. In other words, I have also become a joke in the eyes of others.

When the husband and wife are always quarreling, which makes me have difficulty breathing, chest tightness and shortness of breath when I get angry, and I can only relieve it by crying loudly, I am that joke;

When I had a sudden attack, I fainted and went to three hospitals, and was finally diagnosed with neurosis. I was that joke;

When my daughter was in the intensive care unit, her life or death was uncertain, and the child's father said to give up. During the treatment, we had a fierce quarrel, and the woman in the hospital lobby who was screaming and going crazy was the joke;

When I was walking on the bustling street, I suddenly missed my daughter and couldn't help myself, so I howled on the street. Crying loudly, at that time, I was just a joke in the eyes of passers-by;

Even before going to bed last night, I habitually relied on reading e-books to fall asleep, and the man next to me was disgusted and said that I "I play with my mobile phone endlessly during the day and night," I replied to him, "I close my eyes and fall asleep by myself. My mind is always messed up and I can't sleep." When he sneered at me and said, "What else is there to mess with now?" I was that joke. .

Why do others think we are a joke? Because we are not strong enough, calm enough, rational enough, and free and easy enough.

"You will never know how painful it is if you don't pierce yourself with a knife." Those who watch jokes are just spectators, just like reading a novel or watching a TV series, casually pointing their fingers at others life, commenting.

There is no such thing as empathy in the world, because he has not experienced the pain you have experienced; moreover, the same pain will have two different results when placed on two people with different feelings of pain.

If you can understand and agree with the other person's feelings, you are the most considerate person.

Perhaps, I am the one who feels the most pain when I fail to live up to expectations, so I have become a joke in everyone’s eyes.

I would rather be seriously ill, even if the high fever persists and I am hospitalized, but I don’t want to suffer these invisible tortures, with nowhere to complain and no one to understand.

If you encounter someone rude on the street, be kind to him or her, because you don't know what he or she is going through.

? 10:48, August 6, 2020