Mother-in-law plays mahjong humorous jokes

I am a male. I am 32 years old and my hometown is Sichuan. My mother has diabetes, and my father does some farm work in his hometown. My health is not very good. I work in Guangdong, and now I spend 4000 yuan a month. 20 10 graduated from university and went to work in Nanjing. My sister also went to college. My sister went to high school. I fell ill in high school for three years and spent more than 2000 yuan on medicine every month for three years. So when I graduated, my family was still at home. It was not until 20 12 that my parents paid off their debts.

20 13 In April and May, my parents saved another 50,000 yuan and asked me if I could buy a house. I said I was single and I didn't know if I would stay in Nanjing all the time, so I stopped buying a house for the time being, so my parents took money to buy insurance for my father.

I fell in love with my wife in August of 20 13. My wife, a native of Nantong, Jiangsu Province, got married on October 20 14 10. At that time, my parents had no money to give the bride price, which gave me a little meaning. On June 20 14, I bought a house in Nanjing with a down payment of 15000, and my parents gave me 37000. We bought a car in June of 20 15, and performed heart surgery on my father-in-law in the middle of 20 15. At that time, there were hundreds of thousands of deposits at home. We didn't know how much the operation would cost, so I decided to sell the house. In the end, it only cost 65,438+10,000.

20 16, my father-in-law spent 30,000 yuan on the second operation (the money reimbursed for the first operation); From 2065438 to 2007, my father-in-law had a third operation of 30,000 yuan, which was still done by us (it is only natural to treat the elderly); 20 17 My mother spent 10000 yuan on gallstone surgery, which we paid.

In 20 17, my mother came to Nanjing to take care of my wife's pregnancy. My mother asked us if we wanted to buy another house, and if so, she gave us 65,438+10,000 yuan. My wife and I both thought she was pregnant and in poor health. My parents didn't give me money. Later, my wife said that she needed her parents to take care of the baby and let my mother go back to her hometown. My mother is at 2065438+

In 20 18, my sister had no money to buy a house, and my parents lent her 60,000 yuan. On May 20 18, the child was born. Every time I report peace, I call my parents. My parents are introverted and take the initiative to call and care about my wife (I admit this). My parents-in-law also have problems. They ask their children to call them grandparents (my wife started to have problems).

Since the child was born, my parents-in-law have been taking care of the child. I also know the hard work of taking care of the child, so I try my best to honor them.

One morning on the fifth day of the lunar new year's eve, I called my parents and told them to take care of the children. My mother is worried about the bad bride price and my father's health in Nanjing. She asked her if she could take care of the children when she was older (finally they decided to take care of the children happily at night). My parents-in-law became unhappy, saying that they would complain about taking care of their children, saying that the bride price was not good in those years, saying that it was not good to go to our house to entertain guests, and so on, and began to make conflicts. Now I have a deep contradiction with my parents-in-law. My sister also called my wife and quarreled. After my parents came to Nanjing, they cried many times, but they were still trying to take care of their children. I really don't know what to do.

Pan Xiao studio replied.

Different views are not suitable for marriage. The best love is interdependence and the best marriage is mutual support. On the contrary, in marriage, one party consumes the other party or pays, while the other party enjoys success. Such a marriage will make people feel physically and mentally exhausted. I found in the letter that you and your wife got married within half a year. In fact, this is the heyday of love, called passionate love.

As soon as the infatuation is over, the two sides enter the running-in period, and the settlement of some contradictions and the running-in of living habits have become daily problems. Couples who have been in love will inevitably have contradictions. And then lead to endless quarrels. Blaming each other and refusing to bow their heads and admit their mistakes are the reasons for the deterioration of things. Therefore, in this period, we should learn to think from the perspective of the other half and understand and tolerate each other.

In other words, you should not only understand your wife and her side, but also be reasonable and care about you. Many times, men not only think about animals in the lower half, but also need the nourishment of love. Family harmony must first respect each other. Respect between husband and wife means that no matter how much you love each other, you should understand the importance of equality.

Equality is one of the important conditions for maintaining close relationship. According to the theory of fairness, people are most satisfied with intimate relationships on the premise of proportionality and fairness, that is, their pay should be in direct proportion to their income.

In love and marriage, long-term fairness is more important. Most happy couples don't care how much they pay and get, but pursue a general equality, that is, how much they pay and how much they get. For example, in family life, the uneven distribution of housework can easily lead to the feeling of inequality between husband and wife. Therefore, people who work more have more say, which reflects this fairness. If one spouse does nothing at home and tells the other spouse what to do, then this relationship is more likely to have problems.

Now, maybe your wife is the one who does less but complains more. There are problems in your marriage, the contradiction between you and your parents-in-law, and the contradiction between your sister and your wife.

Objectively speaking, unhappy partners perform poorly in accurate expression. If they complain about something, they seldom do it right; On the contrary, they tend to talk about several issues at the same time (so much so that they forget what they just complained about). This usually makes their most concerned things drown out in many depression events that are blamed at the same time.

Not being good at listening and solving problems will only make the problem more complicated. This is the essence of your problem now. Shakespeare said: to be happy with a man, you should know more about him, but don't love him too much; To be happy with a woman, you should love her more, but you don't want to know her. This is a big difference between men and women in the emotional world.

The marriageable age of most people is almost in their own transition period, between independence and semi-independence. They haven't completely lost their youth and become sophisticated. They have a clear outline of the world, but they know nothing about the real face of the world. At this time, I have to make a choice and be a "life event". I am still an irreplaceable protagonist. How many people are willing to be placed in this atmosphere?

Marriage is just an adjustment of living conditions, not a complete break with the past and re-implantation of a new system. It doesn't have such subversive things. You will find that after marriage, your mind will not change qualitatively and you will not grow another head. Therefore, in the process of growing up, you should gradually make yourself understand that marriage is really a small matter in life. When you no longer face it with a sacred, solemn and tragic attitude, it is the moment that is really suitable to walk into it.

The problem you need to solve now is actually the relationship between husband and wife comes first. First, handle the relationship with your wife, so as to ease the contradiction with your parents-in-law, and ease the relationship between your wife and family. Because husband and wife don't understand each other, the two families are antagonistic. Such a stalemate will only worsen the relationship. Therefore, to catch a thief first wins the king, and to deal with marriage, we must also grasp the main contradiction first.