Only incompetent mothers "repeatedly" reason with their children, which not only has little effect but can also be counterproductive.

Third-rate parents still adhere to the education methods of the older generation, either punching or kicking their children, or nagging them non-stop. As everyone knows, in the context of social development, the way parents educate their children should also undergo some new changes accordingly.

Especially parents' "reasonable" parenting is meaningless in today's environment, and may even arouse greater resentment from children.

The neighbor’s child Pippi is a well-known troublemaker in the community. Even though you have just entered elementary school, you have already learned that some bad students are tired of studying. This is absolutely intolerable in the eyes of Pippi's father, who has a quick temper. He insists that "filial sons emerge from under the stick". Pippi's father often teaches his children a lesson.

But in Pippi's mother's opinion, it is normal for children to be tired of learning at this stage. She feels that since the children have grown up, it is necessary to reason with them. Children who understand the truth will naturally learn well.

But this truth lasted for two months. Instead of relieving Pippi's dislike of studying, she boldly pretended to be sick and skipped school.

No, the teacher just called Pippi’s parents two days ago. As soon as she got home, Pippi’s mother pulled the child on the sofa and read out what she said before. He looked at things a hundred times and nagged Pippi tirelessly, but before he could speak for a while, Pippi's words directly chilled Pippi's mother:

This made Pippi's mother feel very broken, Seeing the child's lack of food and salt, she wished she could beat the child like Pippi's father. She didn't understand. She was obviously very devoted to what she said, but why couldn't her child listen? Could it be that the child doesn’t understand?

Children are bored by repeated truths

Mothers always think that the truths they tell will enlighten their children, but in fact, many times, The truth in the mouth of adults will not create ripples in the hearts of children.

It is even said that when the mother often talks about the truth, it will make the children think it is "nagging". Adults repeat the truth many times to make children psychologically immune and feel extremely bored.

Strong moral preaching makes children feel conflicted

When Bao’s mother changes her reasoning into forceful preaching, the children can understand from the truth The connotation will then become very limited. Mother's condescending attitude prevents the child from expressing his true thoughts. Over time, this unequal and reasonable attitude will "force" the child to become more and more silent.

The child feels resistant to the mother’s educational guidance, which affects the parent-child relationship and makes the child more rebellious.

Children cannot understand ungrounded truths

From the children’s future ideals to future achievements to future jobs, these ungrounded contents are far less accessible to children. Adding an extra chicken drumstick tonight would be even more effective.

If the child can tolerate it once or twice, but once the time goes on, the child's own rebellious psychology will actively reject these principles.

The first point: Understand the true psychological needs of children

When educating children, mothers should not rush to preach to their children, be patient Listen carefully to what the child has to say, so that the child's psychological appeal can be seen and understood.

Parents with high emotional intelligence know how to listen better, so that they can speak truth to their children's hearts and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings of their children.

Second point: Control emotions first, then discipline

Many mothers are easily led by negative emotions when educating their children, so They often have the educational experience of "getting angrier the more they talk".

Mothers who are controlled by their emotions can easily speak indiscriminately, so if they want to make the communication between themselves and their children smoother, mothers must adhere to the principle of "educate their children only when their emotions are stable" in principle.

The third point: Education should be based on the facts, simple and clear

When educating children, it is easy for mothers to bring out all the mistakes their children have made before, and even Children will be easily characterized as "ignorant".

But in fact, mothers should have a broad mind, and when educating their children, they should analyze and discuss the matter itself. At the same time, simple and clear educational output will help children grasp key points and clarify principles.

A reasonable education method requires parents to master more educational skills, and it also requires them to have a grasp of the educational standards. Only when parents can put the truth into their children's hearts can education be effective.

If it is just a matter of taking it for granted and boasting or being ungrounded and self-motivated, then this is undoubtedly a waste of the child's trust in the parents and the children's respect for the authority of the parents.