The girl asked me what I was busy with

Brother, you are indeed a person who completely understands women and what attraction is. It seems to me that what you are doing is to mess up the attraction you have established with your own hands.

In addition, if she ignores you on QQ, you can go a few days without contacting her, which is something most men cannot do.

So you also got good results, she took the initiative to chat with you

I know you don’t want to hear my compliments, don’t worry. Next, I will make you realize your mistakes, and tell you that these mistakes may bring you a heavy price-losing this woman forever! ! !

Of course, this is not your personal problem. Most men have exactly the same problem as you, including me of course. I have spent years studying the female psyche and have discovered a message that all men ignore and that is crucial to attracting women:

This is very important. You must remember that women are more attractive than men. More "elusive" (most of the time).

If a man likes a woman, then you can obviously find that the man's "like" is often written on his face.

But women are different.

Women often give very "small" signals.

An unintentional physical contact, a knowing smile, sometimes a puzzling "I miss you" and "You are very interesting", insisting that you go to her house, a Hugs, and of course tears (like what's in your example).

There are many, many similar signals.

When you are walking on the road and see a beautiful woman, you look at her and she looks at you. After a few seconds, she looks back and smiles knowingly, or her expression is a little embarrassed or embarrassed.

When you go up and ask her for her phone number, she is a little nervous and then gives you her phone number, or gives it to you directly.

When you called her to ask her out, she agreed to come out. This is very important, a woman will not waste her time hanging out with a man she is not interested in.

When you play tricks on her, she calls you bad and keeps hitting you.

When you tell a joke, she laughs and says you are funny.

When you tell an affectionate story, she listens carefully and does not interrupt you.

……

If I continue writing, I probably won’t be able to sleep this week.

Women have countless little signals like this that they send out from time to time. But the vast majority of men simply cannot catch these signals, and even if they do, they don’t know how to respond. So I receive a lot of emails every day asking me if this woman is interested in me.

Of course, it is understandable that these small signals cannot be caught, because we men are not born to understand this set of things, unlike women who have a natural super-radar "sub-communication" to judge men.

However, it is because many of us men cannot catch these "signals" from women, or do not know how to respond correctly when women send out these "signals".

So have you ever noticed that many men are fine without meeting a woman, but once they meet, they are completely indifferent, and the woman starts to be cold to you, starts not to answer the phone, and does not reply to text messages? information.

Or for some people, the phone and QQ chat went well at first, but as we talked, we unknowingly began to find that women were slow to reply, or even started not to reply to your messages.

All of these are because in the process of getting along with women, they cannot understand the various signals sent by women and do not know how to deal with them.

Because the signals sent by women are often testing, and women’s signals are different from men’s and are not continuous. Few women will keep calling you or sending you text messages during the attraction stage. , even if she already likes you. Unless you two are already in a long-term relationship, or you're married, a woman's signals are intermittent and testing.

In other words, when a woman sends out some of the signals I mentioned above, and you are unable to realize it, or you handle it in the wrong way, it is very likely that the newly established attraction will be destroyed instantly.

So it’s not that women don’t like you, but that it’s often men who mess up the attraction they just established. Because they can't catch or don't understand the subtle signals given by women.

Never confess your love to a girl.

Never praise her when she is not your girlfriend or wife's lover.

Don't care too much about girls, immediately find some other girls to flirt with, and let her find out, but don't let her think that you are doing it deliberately for her to see.

Treat her as a normal friend and tease her

Forget that you have confessed to her

Exercise more and cultivate inner confidence

Next I will tell you how to increase your charm in attracting women

The following 13 behaviors will subtly communicate to women that you lack confidence. Eliminate these bad habits and your attractiveness will suddenly increase a lot.

Also, these are probably the most common questions. If you have the following behaviors, don’t feel bad, 99% of the men I have met have the following behaviors (if you have really practiced it, you will understand)

1 Small movements caused by restlessness, irritability and nervousness.

When talking to a woman, if you have nothing to do, you may touch your nose or face for a while, or put your hands on your body without knowing where to put them in your pocket, and then take them out, or

A series of habitual minor ailments and movements such as scratching the head and back are all eliminated.

Because these actions can easily convey a signal that you are nervous. I don’t need to explain why you should relax when talking to women and why it’s bad to be nervous.

2 The shoulders are too tight. Lack of smiles. Talking to women is too serious, like a negotiation or pretending to be "deep".

This is an excessive negative expression of a man's fear that others will not take him seriously. In other words, it is a sign of guilty conscience. Almost every woman can easily detect all kinds of guilty consciences in men.

3 Speak too fast.

Speaking too fast indicates that you are worried that others will interrupt you, or that others will immediately lose interest in listening to you, but you also want others to hear what you say and want to say something interesting

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Tell it out so that you can keep their interest before they lose interest, so you want to finish it in the shortest possible time. In the eyes of women, this is a sign of very low self-confidence.

4 Habitual spoken language. Things like, “right?”, “did you know?”, etc.

When I was giving a speech in high school, I once spoke for 30 minutes and said "right or wrong" 47 times. Guess who first reminded me?

By the way, a woman. Because women pay special attention to this kind of thing. These spoken words are seeking approval from others, such as asking others to keep saying "You are right

when you speak." This is seeking approval.

5 Speak too softly or loudly.

Being too gentle sends the message to women that you are afraid of invading other people’s personal space. In other words, you are not man enough. Having a loud voice means, on the one hand, that your delivery is not mature enough, and on the other hand, you are afraid that others will know that you are not a man enough. Being loud on purpose but not in a good manner is also a negative sign of going too far.

6 Laugh at yourself.

I told myself a joke, and then I started laughing. Or you might just giggle in the middle of your speech. Or when someone asks you something, you don’t know how to answer, so you have to giggle and so on.

This shows that you are unable to withstand social pressure. You are afraid that others will not laugh when you tell a joke, and you are afraid of being left out, so you have to make up for it yourself. You can try it by looking at the other person very confidently without any expression.

7 Answer other people’s questions too early or too quickly.

It shows that you attach too much importance to this conversation and show premature and excessive interest in the person you are talking to (I assume it is a woman). Paying too much attention to this opportunity to chat is actually telling her that I feel that being able to chat with you is a blessing from my previous life. It is equivalent to telling her that I feel that I am not worthy of you.

8 Return to the topic that was discussed before but was interrupted later.

This behavior indicates an effort to win others' approval. When a topic is interrupted, it may be that the other party answers the phone, suddenly asks you a question, or suddenly meets an acquaintance, etc.

You seize the first opportunity to interrupt and continue the topic you were about to talk about, making it appear that you have been waiting for this opportunity to return to the topic. Why are you so anxious to get back to that topic?

Because you are seeking approval from others, you think that if she listens to what you have to say, she will approve of you or think you are great. So, don't be impatient, wait until she says, "You just talked about that...

..." and then return to the previous topic.

If the other party doesn’t mention it, then don’t talk about that topic again, even if you think that topic is good and worth talking about, or it is a topic that some people have worked hard to prepare the night before.

, don’t talk about it anymore.

If others don’t mention it, it shows that she is not actually interested. Talking about it is in vain. Instead, it reveals that you are seeking her approval and the gain outweighs the loss.

9 Eager to express interest.

For example, before getting to know each other and becoming familiar with each other, every time I didn’t hear what she said clearly, I would rush to ask “What did you say?”

Similarly, showing too much too early Interested. If you don't hear clearly, change the subject. Cut off her words.

You can also jokingly say in a man's confident tone, "I didn't understand a word you just said (look at her, silent for a few seconds)... But, you

The way she spoke just now was very cute." With a smirk, you looked deeply into her eyes the whole time, and at the same time, remember to speak steadily and slowly.

10 The answer is too perfect and complete, and the logic is too strict. It feels like you have spent a lot of time thinking and came up with a good answer.

You may ask, what’s wrong with my answers being strict and complete? Think about it carefully, when did you have to answer so rigorously and completely? From a young age, report to the teacher at school and answer the questions asked by the teacher in class in a complete and rigorous manner. Subordinates' reports to their bosses must be complete and rigorous. During a job interview, answer the interviewer's questions thoroughly and carefully.

Did you notice the same thing?

By the way, their social status at that time was higher than yours, and you needed their approval to give you a job, give you grades, and give you a salary.

In other words, when your answer is too complete and strict, it shows that you and she have a higher status than you. However, women are only attracted to men of higher social status than themselves.

So such an answer is not good for your ability to attract women. From an inner perspective, answering too completely and rigorously means that you feel that you can only be accepted by her if you work hard to think of a good answer to convince her and win her approval.

For example, a woman asks you: "Why are you asking me about whether men lie more or women lie more?"

Wrong answer: "Because I have already thought about this question. For a long time, I really need to know your opinion."

Correct answer 1: "I haven't finished speaking yet"

(Then continue, you can even change the topic)

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Correct answer 2: "Because I want to strike up a conversation with you."

(The honest savage law only applies to women when they are alone)

Correct answer 3: " I think the way you asked me questions just now is cute.”

(Use cold reading to change the topic and take back control)

11 It’s too wordy.

Too much nonsense. It takes too many words to say something that can be said clearly in too few words. Regarding this point, when I write these articles, I feel that the writing is very verbose, and I am seriously guilty of this problem

. After reading this, you will understand why I make this mistake. Men are often too verbose when talking to women because they are afraid that women will not fully understand what they mean. This is actually a problem of caring too much about women. They care too much about the woman in front of them.

When you first talk to a woman, use concise words to tell a thing, and it will become more profound and charming. It's ironic. I write these verbose things because I am afraid that others will not understand what I say and misuse my theory in practice.

Also, I think I do care about learning to attract men, and I hope you can attract the women you like. Because I used to be just like you.

I know that as long as I study hard, everything will improve. I will no longer have troubles in love, and my dreams will come true! My dream is that Chinese men no longer have to worry about love, and you can focus on other career goals. It’s so wordy, haha

12 I remember very well what she said before.

This means that she has too much social value to you. For example, you have never dated such a charming woman, etc., or you have fallen in love with her. Of course, I'm not saying that I don't care what she says.

It’s just that it’s not normal for you to remember what she said very firmly at the beginning, word for word. A simple criterion is, if this sentence was said by an ugly woman or some other man you just met, would you remember it so firmly?

If not, don’t do it to her either. However, you and her are already in a deeply intimate conversation, and the two of you have developed a good relationship of trust and are very familiar with each other. Well, that's not a problem.

13 Talking about yourself or pouring out your heart too early.

This is equivalent to being too anxious for others to like you. Afraid that others won’t like you. Still a sign of guilty conscience. Everyone has this tendency, and it must be controlled consciously.

(A) Verbally: If you say to her, "I just came back from the United States (or any other place you think is respectable)" or "I just got my Rolex repaired" or Similar to "My company just went public yesterday" and so on, a woman can easily detect that you are trying to show off in front of her. Expressing yourself in front of a woman will automatically put you in the category of her suitors, rather than the category of men who attract her.

So, don’t hand over your resume and achievements too early. Let her find out later. Even if you really want to express yourself, your expression must be very secretive. It looks like you are telling the story because it is interesting, not because you are telling a story to hide information about yourself. Even if you praise your strengths and good things at any ordinary time, don't go into too many details, just talk about it briefly.

(B) Entertainment: If you have some jokes and tricks to entertain women, for example, you have learned a few magic tricks, palm reading, photo shows, talking games, etc., if you have If you take it out early, it will also appear that you are eager for success and that you are taking too much thought. Personally, I don’t use any of these tricks and jokes (of course I used a lot when I first started), but I know a lot of people who are learning to “attract” who do. I use two words to describe this behavior: show off.

(C) Conversation: When you keep talking to her and she doesn’t reply, you are talking and talking, and you are reducing your social value. This is a vicious cycle. When you talk too much, you find yourself seeking approval from women, so you try to save the situation by talking more and more, and then you feel more and more that something is wrong and seek approval more and more. The way to avoid this is to not say too much unless the woman is talking back to you, that is, giving you feedback, reacting. You can force a woman to respond and talk back to you by stopping the conversation and being silent. Of course, you must have a certain mentality. Don't create awkward silences yourself. If you can't resist the pressure, speak first to fill the silence.

Finally, as you said in your letter, I always mention that "attraction is an emotion", yes, I always mention it in my emails, tutorials, audios, and meetings It was mentioned countless times during the meeting.

I can’t remember how many times I said it.

What I want to say is that I always say "attraction is an emotion", not to make "attraction" seem more mysterious or complicated.

I always mention it because it is a fact, and this concept is so important - this is the basic essentials of "attraction science", and this is something that most men will never have in their lifetime.

It is impossible to realize.

The vast majority of men always try to make women like them through verbal persuasion and logical reasoning. They always try to please women and try to impress women. They give women flowers and buy them When gifts are given to women, they are always "pursuing" but never "attracting".

If you do the same, then I'm sorry that it is impossible for a woman to be attracted to you, because attraction is not a logical behavior, and a woman cannot decide whether to be attracted to this man through her own logical thinking. It's just a feeling, an emotion.

Similarly, if a woman has a strong emotion towards you and feels deeply attracted to a certain man, then she has no way to convince herself not to like you through logic.

Yes, your logical brain cannot help you make the woman you like deeply "attracted" to you, but you can use your logical ability to learn things that can make a woman attracted to you

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The way to truly attract, really like you and fall in love with you. Moreover, you can use the logical ability of your cerebral cortex to help you change yourself, allowing you to judge what you want and take action immediately.

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