In the laboratory, I always feel that I have more things to do, so what should I do?

First, refuse to do things that don't belong to you and express them directly.

The experiment belongs to everyone, and the part that should be done can be done, but a person who undertakes it will not be recognized by everyone, and will only think that he should do it and will not be appreciated. From your description, you think you pay more in the laboratory. Everyone should make a contribution in this job. Roommates do less than themselves and are psychologically unbalanced. Because of their jokes, they feel selfish and want to relax themselves, right?

This situation you mentioned may be one of the common life phenomena. There is a word called "sense of boundary" in interpersonal communication. The so-called sense of boundary, in layman's terms, means feeling that the other party has violated its own territory, bottom line and so on. No matter in friendship, affection, love and so on. , there must be a certain boundary. The project took on a lot because of the same thing, but it was not good and was ridiculed. In fact, this also violates our bottom line, that is, the border.

Second, know where your bottom line is.

This is a very important matter. If you don't know where your bottom line is and how much you can bear, you can't set boundaries reasonably in your interaction with others. For example, when something happens, you can have a good understanding of your tolerance for discomfort and stress. For example, you can be angry, refuse other people's behavior and help you find out where your bottom line is.

People with a clear sense of boundaries are often people with strong self-esteem, self-confidence and security. They are not afraid to refuse others, and their own affairs do not easily disturb others. When they encounter difficulties, they should learn to be grateful, because no one in this world wants to be troubled all the time, even the closest people should learn to express their gratitude. People with a weak sense of boundaries have no self-confidence and inferiority. When others ask you for help, you will spend a lot of time and energy to do it well. The other person simply said thank you and disappeared. After that, they can't see how much they appreciate you. Just like you do a lot of work that doesn't belong to you, the other party won't appreciate you, and you can only receive a "good friend card", which makes it difficult to win the real respect and attention of others. In the end, you will feel that you are not regarded as someone else. ?

Third, strengthen self-awareness.

Know what you like and don't like, be an outsider and see everything from the perspective of others. For example, observe and analyze your own psychological activities, behaviors, emotions and their results, or know yourself through other people's attitudes towards yourself, know yourself through other people's mirrors, know yourself through the results of your own activities, and know your own abilities, advantages and disadvantages. And set goals according to your own situation, make clear what kind of person you should be, and be firm about what kind of person you should be.