Fan Qiqi's lesson (53) Divorce case caused by squeezing toothpaste

Recently, I heard the story of a friend's child, saying that the young couple are getting divorced because of the length of toothpaste!

From this story, I learned how to be a good peacemaker, that is, a mediator.

Boys are friends' children, and both parents are teachers. He grew up in a very frugal family.

The girl's family is also good, and her parents are businessmen. She is spoiled by rich people, but she is a very smart girl with good quality.

The cause of the incident was squeezing toothpaste.

Girls like to squeeze toothpaste for a long time, and her husband says she is a waste and a prodigal son. Can't she squeeze it shorter?

The girl ignored him at first, thinking, isn't it more toothpaste than he squeezed? Squeeze more teeth and brush them clean, okay? How big is it?

Later, the boy saw her every morning and said that she was a waste and a prodigal son. ...

Girls don't want to, say what, you are really a cheapskate, since I am a prodigal family, it is good to divorce. ...

Then you say divorce, divorce is divorce, who is afraid of who? ...

As a result, the two men began to fall into the cold war, and neither of them spoke to anyone.

After a while, the girl didn't want to spend so much time, so she thought of a way to find an elder friend around her and let him mediate this matter.

This is a very clever mediator.

One day, I invited them to a relaxed coffee shop and let them talk about their ideas. Why did they divorce?

The boy began to say, how is it? ...

While listening carefully and observing, he noticed that the boy was smoking, so he took a special look. He draws the China card.

Then I asked him, you smoke, and he said yes, what kind of cigarette do you smoke? He said, Zhonghua, how much is this cigarette? He said forty or fifty dollars, so how much do you smoke a day? He said not necessarily, sometimes once every two days. In fact, the elderly all know that this brand of cigarettes is not cheap.

At this point, the boy suddenly understood.

I just asked him that you have more than 40 yuan for smoking a pack of cigarettes every two days. How much is it to buy a toothpaste and squeeze a little more? Who is wasting it?

At this time, the elders spoke again. Never heard of two people. It's a big joke that they can get divorced because of the length of time they squeezed toothpaste.

Then, he made an excuse and left.

In fact, there is no question of principle between husband and wife, and there is no ambiguous relationship, because of this trivial matter.

The person involved was fascinated, and because he was young and energetic, he was impulsive and finally could not swear. Now, with a step, the boys quickly apologize to the girls, and the girls will stop making trouble when they are good, so they will not entangle this matter.

Smart elders created this opportunity for them and saved their marriage.

There was no more than an hour before and after the conversation. The secret of the old man lies in the following points:

First of all, the place of conversation is carefully chosen. The coffee shop has an elegant and relaxed environment. If you choose his home or the party's home, the effect may not be good.

Second, listen carefully, pay attention to observation, and don't jump to conclusions and label. He didn't criticize who was right or wrong. Honest officials are always trying to solve housework, but they are looking for ideas and breakthroughs to solve problems.

The third is to give the initiative to the parties, and it is up to you to decide whether to divorce because of this trivial matter. He also listened to the girl's story in advance, and his initial judgment was not great, so when he observed the boys smoking, he had already found a breakthrough.

The elder is a psychology professor in a university.