"It's not that I don't like Valentine's Day, it's not that I don't like roses, it's just that I don't like you."

Xiaoxi asked me in the morning, "How do you spend Valentine's Day?"

I said, "Alone, working."

She said, "No I'm so proud, I'll turn on the computer soon and finish last year's book."

Asked her why she didn't celebrate the holidays with her boyfriend, she said, "Everyone else has to go to work, so I can go with her. It’s snowing outside!”

She is one of the few people who doesn’t show affection on Valentine’s Day and doesn’t abuse my single friend after falling in love. She counts as one.

During festivals like Valentine's Day, lovers always have the joy of lovers, and singles always have the disappointment of singles. However, in recent years, singles have begun to fight back. In the past, lovers always showed affection and abused singles, but now, singles seem to be living quite comfortably.

Yesterday I saw a saying that said very well, "Being single is 1,000 times better than being in an unhappy relationship." This is for sure, especially in a festive atmosphere like Valentine's Day, unhappy relationships Relationships are even more unhappy, not even during the holidays or not even during the holidays.

Yesterday, I saw a video of a single person scratching off Valentine's Day on the calendar and handwriting the words "Tenth Day". Singles are becoming more and more "arrogant" and confident, saying, "Valentine's Day belongs to others. To me, it's just an ordinary Thursday, just the tenth day of the first lunar month."

In fact, this is quite good. Couples and singles can't interfere with each other, and everyone can enjoy themselves. But the problem is that some people are still obsessed with not having a lover on Valentine's Day and always want to start a romantic love on Valentine's Day. In fact, for those who postpone their confession until Valentine's Day, unless their love is already certain, blindly using this holiday to help you express your love will easily lead to self-disgrace.

A reader just confessed that he was rejected. He talked to me for a long time and it just ended.

Teacher Donglin:

The rain outside the window is continuous, just like my mood at this time. Today is Valentine's Day, and I have been looking forward to this day, thinking that on this day I would succeed in confessing my love to the woman I have been chasing for a long time, but it failed miserably.

I can’t figure it out. We were getting along very well before this, so why did it fail? I fell in love with her at first sight. After getting to know her, I would take time to communicate with her every day. Although she seemed a little cold, she would never refuse me to contact her.

It is precisely because she allows me to get close to her again and again and talks to me about various intimate topics, so in my opinion, she has given me a chance, which makes me motivated. and perseverance to persist in pursuing her. I didn't force anyone to do anything, and I always respected her. I don't want to be abrupt, I don't want to be presumptuous, I don't want the love to start too suddenly, I want the love to come naturally. I think she should also like this kind of love.

I had planned to confess my love to her on this day before the year before. In order to make this day clear, I went to work at the company one day early after the new year. I had agreed with the boss that I would change my shift today and prepared carefully. After waiting for so long, I thought that if I gave her a surprise, she would give me a surprise in return, but I didn’t expect that she would give me a surprise in return.

I didn’t tell her yesterday because I felt there would be no surprise if I told her. Early this morning, I went to marry the rose I had ordered, and rushed to her company with many office workers. As I walked, I imagined what it would be like when she saw me. Thinking about it, I felt very happy, happy, and romantic.

When I arrived at their company, I pretended to be the one delivering flowers from a florist and asked the girl at the front desk to notify her to sign for them. As a result, the tragedy began.

When she came out to sign for the goods, other colleagues who were making noise and watching the fun followed her out. When she saw it was me, she was stunned for a moment. After a few seconds of surprise, she frowned, lowered her face, and asked me unkindly, "What are you doing?"

This and The picture I fantasized about was completely different. I was already very nervous, but when I saw her stinky face, I panicked. When my brain got hot, I hesitated to say my confession, and my words didn’t match the words at the beginning, so I turned red with embarrassment. .

Her other colleagues were waiting with bated breath. After I finished speaking, they were waiting for her reply. She sighed and said, "It's not that I don't like Valentine's Day, it's not that I don't like roses. But, I don’t like you. Did I say that I wanted to fall in love with you? Are you so stupid that you can get a girl just by giving me flowers on Valentine’s Day? I'm old, can I do things over my head? Don't think my words are unpleasant, I thank you for liking me, but your current behavior makes me very uncomfortable, which is a great disrespect to me. So, listen carefully, I will not accept the flowers, and I will never fall in love with you, so just give up!"

After she finished speaking, she turned around and walked away! , some of her other colleagues looked at me with sympathetic eyes, and some had malicious smiles on their faces, and then they followed suit. I stayed where I was, feeling ashamed of myself. I originally imagined romance and emotion, but in the end, everything went wrong.

The little girl at the front desk probably took pity on me and asked me, "Are you okay?"

I smiled sadly, turned around and left her company. I was afraid that I would be laughed at when I went downstairs dejectedly holding the flowers, so I threw the flowers in the trash can in the corridor. well! If love is gone, what's the use of spending it! I have lived so long, and this is the most painful and embarrassing thing I have ever experienced. What did I do wrong? Why was this done to me? Even if you reject me, can't you collect the flowers first and reject me later?

I was in pain and angry. I dug out her WeChat account and wanted to complain to her, but I found that she had deleted me.

I didn’t hold an umbrella, so I went home alone in the rain. I'm not in the mood to go to work, and I'm afraid I won't have a good time for the next whole year. I now deeply understand what it means to "fall flowers intentionally and flow water ruthlessly", which is really sad.

Donglin Xiting’s emotional advice:

From the perspective of this reader, experiencing such a heartbreaking thing is indeed a failure and a tragedy. However, from the girl's perspective, she did nothing wrong. His plan is quite good, but he ignores a very important fact, that is, "love is a matter between two people." Before you use the standards of love to judge the other person's wishes, blindly confess your love, no matter how well prepared you are. , may fail.

It is not difficult to see from his statement and the girl's reply that he is a bit wishful thinking. What he fell in love with at first sight and what he has always been getting along with is his self-righteous understanding, but in fact it is not the case. The girl may just treat him as a normal friend.

Not only this girl, but many girls will be like this. They will be very happy and touched when someone confesses their love and gives them gifts, but they will feel embarrassed and embarrassed when they are confessed and given gifts by someone they don’t like. Moreover, what she said, "It's not that I don't like Valentine's Day, it's not that I don't like roses, but that I don't like you" reveals the fundamentals of love: when the person is right, everything is right; when the person is wrong, everything is right. None of them are right.

I hope this reader can learn a lesson from this experience, "It's okay if you fail to express your love, and it's okay to feel embarrassed. It's over when it's over, but there must be some reflection. What the other party told you Those words, you must remember that if the person you love doesn't love you, it doesn't mean that he suddenly doesn't love you, but that he didn't love you from the beginning. It is often caused by wishful thinking. No matter how blind you are, there is nothing wrong with pursuing success, but you have to understand what the other person thinks, otherwise you will easily end up humiliating yourself. ”