Ma Yili's bad state after divorce: A failed marriage has two effects on women, which two?

When Ma Yili officially announced his divorce, he sent this passage:

"You and I have loved each other deeply, worked hard and achieved each other. This feeling is regrettable, but there is no right or wrong. In the future, everyone is happy. "

Ma Yili got married in 2008 and divorced in 20 19, which lasted 1 1 year, and finally lost to reality. From "doing and cherishing" after the derailment of the article to "happy life" at the time of divorce, every wave of their feelings has become an unforgettable pain in this life.

However, one year after the divorce, Ma Yili recently shared with you the state after the divorce. She thought she would enter a new lifestyle after divorce, but when she got home, she found that things were not that simple.

Ma Yili said, "I think I have procrastination myself." For example, when she receives a job to speak, she will turn on the computer as soon as possible and write a manuscript at once, but this time, she has been waiting until the day before the start of work to think about what to write.

This is the psychological change of women after divorce. As can be seen from Ma Yili's sharing, her psychology has been affected by the failure of marriage, and she has no energy for life and work.

Of course, this also shows that she is very concerned about her last marriage and feelings. People can only be hurt if they care.

Ma Yili said that when she just got divorced last year, she was in a bad state. Sitting in the car every day is a trance, with a groggy brain and no strength to do anything.

Originally, I was a positive person, but because of my divorce, my feelings were frustrated, so I went to see a psychiatrist for treatment.

A failed marriage has two effects on women: psychological and emotional.

Women are sometimes different from men. Most women are eager for love, love and care. Women's emotional needs have nothing to do with age.

Men are different. No matter how old men are, their brain circuits are often a straight line. As long as they find something interesting and emotional sustenance, they may not want to fall in love.

A failed marriage often hurts women more than men.

After divorce, women's psychological and emotional feelings still remain in their last marriage, thus losing their confidence in themselves and their motivation to move forward, and it is difficult to lift their spirits to build a new life.

And the most terrible thing is that the poor state of women not only leads to their own stagnation, but also may affect the growth of children. At this time, we must work hard to get out of the pain of divorce before we can start a new life.

The breakdown of marriage is a fatal blow to a woman. Women's psychological endurance is weaker than men's. Faced with the loss of feelings, the destruction of marriage and the breakdown of family, life is hard not to be affected unless this woman has no feelings for her last marriage.

Divorced women are actually very pitiful. In a more traditional environment, some women may also face secular accusations.

And some women are not afraid of divorce, because being able to divorce means that men are no longer worthy of her love, and they are afraid that divorce will hurt their children.

Of course, a failed marriage also wakes women up from the illusion of marriage. When every woman gets married, she never thinks that she will divorce one day.

In a long marriage, no one wants their happiness to last forever, but sometimes, in emotional matters, it is difficult to distinguish right from wrong. Being able to divorce only means that both of them are the wrong people in each other's lives.

Many people say that they are a family after marriage, but this is actually a lie. Family refers to the best situation of marriage. If marriage is always full of betrayal, domestic violence and all kinds of misfortunes, then the so-called family is a joke.

Although marriage is a process in which husband and wife give to each other, what you give may not be what the other half wants. If it's not what the other half wants, then your efforts are just touching yourself.

No matter how many years a woman has been married, don't forget to be kind to herself. In marriage, you shouldn't expect a man to be kind to you all the time. Of course, I don't deny that men will love their wives all their lives. But according to the current social phenomenon, the perfect husband is even scarce.

When a woman has just divorced, her psychology will be affected and she will not easily get out of that relationship. However, if divorce is her own choice, and you think that divorce will change her unhappy life, then you must bravely face this failed marriage.

Imagine, if you are not divorced and live in a bad marriage and family every day, wouldn't it be more painful? In an unhappy marriage, patience can't change reality, it will only make misfortune worse.

However, divorce is not optional. The premise of divorce is often that two people's feelings have come to an end and there is no need to live together again.

However, if there is still a little affection between husband and wife that can save the marriage, don't divorce easily. Divorce hurts not only yourself, but also children and parents.

Many women will see many things clearly as they get older. For example, love is experienced at an ignorant age. Love is very important in two people's marriage, but in the days of daily necessities, love cannot last forever.

Maybe a woman has only experienced love once or twice in her life. If she fails, she may lose the ability to love. However, it is better to treat love lightly. In a real marriage, love will gradually be forgotten.

Divorce is like pressing the delete button, clearing a wrong marriage out of your life, and at the same time letting yourself forget the wrong person.

It is very painful after divorce. It is said that time can cure all the pain, but if some feelings have taken root in their own hearts, it is not so easy to pull them out. So divorce must be cautious.

A woman's choice of divorce depends entirely on her courage to face life. Because in the last marriage, women put a lot of emotion and energy into it, experienced a lot of happiness that others could not understand, and finally failed, and their psychology would suddenly collapse.

Moreover, with women's need for feelings, a failed marriage is likely to make them afraid of the next relationship.

If you want a divorce, unless you are ready to go forward, you can be more frustrated and brave in the face of various difficulties and not be afraid of any obstacles, whether psychological or emotional.

As long as you have the courage to overcome everything, you will not be affected by a failed marriage, and you can still find a new direction in life after precipitation.