China man: I didn't love my wife when I was young. Where did you get the "old company"? Do you agree?

Introduction: It is said that young couples are old partners, and couples have no love and companionship when they are young. Where can they come from?

Lao She once wrote in Camel Xiangzi: "If you marry a wife, you have to take it seriously. Be nice to your wife, you are like a thing. "

Before a man marries a wife, he may need the blessing of external things such as appearance, wealth and talent to attract the right person. When a man marries his wife, he and his wife show their truest personal character in private in ordinary life.

A man who is kind to his wife knows the difficulty of his wife's housework, the difficulty of getting pregnant in October, and the difficulty of taking care of his career and family.

I have always felt that since men choose marriage, they have the responsibility to be kind to their wives. What's more, some girls marry you just to say "good to me", so they will marry you without hesitation and stay with you for life. How can you bear to let her down and be wronged in your marriage?

However, if you treat your wife badly, the accounts in your relationship will be written down one by one.

If you are indifferent and selfish to your wife, don't expect her to be infinitely tolerant of you. If you treat your wife badly, don't expect her to live and die together.

Some men are good at abacus. They didn't love their wives very much when they were young. When they are old, they hope that their wives will never leave him and serve themselves wholeheartedly.

Young couples are old partners. If you don't have companionship and love when you are young, how can you have a "wife"?

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Recently, a special "lively" news happened in the neighborhood where grandma lived.

The hero is a 60-year-old man from Grandma's community. Because my son refused to go home to support, he was exposed by the media. The incident caused an uproar, and residents in the community rushed to watch.

Grandma said that this man made a fortune when he was young and lived in a nice villa. Now I have no job and no income. I want to get my son back to support me, but my son doesn't want to.

In the end, after many media workers intervened for a long time, my son reluctantly agreed to give his father living expenses every month, but don't expect him to forgive.

Originally, I thought this middle-aged man was miserable and was treated like this by his son. However, neighbors in the community said that men deserved it and made their own sins.

Later, I learned the details of the matter through my neighbors. My son's hatred for this father comes from his indifference, selfishness and meanness to his wife.

When I was young, in the years when men made a fortune, they were very tall. I bought a small villa and had money all day. But in private, he has long disliked his wife, not only swearing all day, but also punching and kicking her.

A man has a bad temper, but his wife is a very forbearing and introverted woman. I don't know how he can get rid of such a woman and kick her all over with shoe prints. Later, I divorced my wife for a beautiful young girl.

In his fifties, the man not only lost his business, but also his little lover ran away, leaving behind a lot of debts. Because of his consistent reputation, no woman married him later. He idled about until he was sixty.

Later, he secretly inquired about his wife's life and wanted her to come back for company. Her ex-wife also said that she didn't want anything to do with him. Now life can't go on, ask my son for alimony.

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Old age is approaching, if a man loses the love of his wife and son at this time. When I am old, I can't get my wife's company, and my life is only bleak.

Some people say that men don't need wives when they are young, and they don't need wives when they are old.

It's not hard to understand. When they were young, many men felt that they were the "pillars" of their families and devoted themselves to their careers, which was the main source of family economy. If the wife's income is not high, or she is just a housewife, men will think that they only revolve around the stove and children.

So these men feel that their wives are almost dispensable, and having a wife is still a constraint. Therefore, many men would rather spend time outside with friends and eat, drink and be merry in time than take care of their wives.

When a man is old and retired, he has no charm in the workplace, no physical strength to run around, and his children have left home, so men have more leisure time to participate in family life. At this time, a man can't be alone, and his wife is the best person to accompany him through his old age.

But is this really realistic? I didn't love my wife when I was young. I am old and want a wife who is good to me wholeheartedly.

In China, according to the judicial data in recent years, most China women who apply for divorce are between the ages of 35 and 55. The number of divorces among middle-aged women is also increasing year by year. Some women choose to divorce after their children's college entrance examination, while others choose to divorce after their children buy a house and leave their husbands who have been married for more than ten or twenty years.

If the divorce of young people is due to impulse and ignorance, then the divorce of middle-aged people is the result of deliberation and unbearable.

I just want to say that whatever you plant, you will get what you want. If a woman saves enough disappointment in her marriage, she will really leave. They know very well what their husbands will do to them in marriage, and they will not "keep company" with you when they are old.

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A man who treats his wife badly, apart from his personality problem, is unaware of his wife's true meaning in the family, likes to exaggerate his contribution, but ignores his wife's value. Therefore, there is no need to be nice to your wife.

Reader Mr. Wang, when he was in his forties, his business failed and his life was gloomy. However, it was at the bottom of his life that he realized the importance of a seemingly insignificant wife to him.

When the other party calls for debts, Mr. Wang wants to hide, afraid of hearing the phone ring. Mr. Wang said that at that time, his hair was much whiter, he couldn't eat or sleep all day, he was upset and often yelled at his wife.

At that time, he felt that he was finished, and this family could not be saved. He ran to the street and posted a small advertisement for selling his house.

Mr. Wang said: "Looking back now, I was so impulsive and impatient at that time, and my wife didn't lose her temper, and she spent the most difficult time with me. When the child was young, it was his wife who went to the Education Bureau under the scorching sun every day. The old man at home was ill, and his wife was busy running to the hospital, and finally paid off her debts, which is also a credit to her. I am only immersed in my own failure and ignore the true meaning of my wife to this family. "

Mr. Wang finally realized that he was only responsible for sending money to his family on weekdays, and his contribution to the family was not as great as he thought. And how and where to use this money, the real "helmsman" in the family, the person who silently pays behind the scenes is his wife. And myself, I didn't give her enough love and attention.

I've met many families. Women can also support a family and become the pillar of the family. When the husband encounters financial and health difficulties, the wife is often the first to lend a helping hand.

Young men don't need wives, they just exaggerate their abilities, look down on their wives' little contribution, and don't understand or love their wives. I have neglected the value of my wife for a long time.

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When I was young, I regarded my wife as a "nanny" and thought it natural for her to do laundry, cook and clean and serve the whole family. When you are old, treat your wife as a "care worker" to accompany you and take care of your old age.

If all this can be obtained for free, then men are too lazy to be nice to their wives.

You know, marriage not only has its basic function, but also has irreplaceable spiritual value. Wife, it's not just the "old company" that waits on a role like you. The "wife" between husband and wife is more important for spiritual companionship.

In marriage, apart from responsibility, the rest is love. Only by loving each other can we achieve spiritual companionship.

Marriage is never a fair trade, and home is not a place for comparison and contribution. The significance of marriage is that when we are young, we love each other to the fullest, but in middle age, we can take care of each other and support each other, and we can still be together when we are old.

As Venus said, women are like water. When you met me at 0: 00, I instantly turned into ice. You love me with 100, and I immediately boil; You give me 50 degrees, I'm neither cold nor hot.

The portrayal of a woman's love for a man is to reciprocate a peach. A man who treats his wife well when he is young will naturally get his wife's love and family harmony. On the other hand, a man who treats his wife badly should not always think that indifference can get enthusiasm, and false feelings can deceive his heart.

You know, if you fall in love when you are young, life will not treat you badly when you are old.