A brief introduction to three letters from Fu Lei’s family in 1958

Fu Lei’s Family Letters is a collection of letters written by literary critic and art critic Fu Lei and his wife to their son. It excerpts 186 letters from Mr. Fu Lei from 1954 to May 1966. Letters, the longest one is over 7,000 words long. The words between the lines are full of a father's love and expectations for his son, as well as his noble emotions for the country and the world.

Fu Lei said that the letters he wrote to his son had multiple functions: first, to discuss art; second, to inspire young people's feelings; third, to train Fu Cong and Fu Min's writing and thinking; fourth, to do A faithful "mirror". The content of the letter, in addition to trivial matters in daily life, is more about talking about art and life, instilling the noble sentiments that an artist should have, letting his son know "the honor and disgrace of the country, the dignity of art", and be a "moral and artistic person, An artist with outstanding personality.”

Love for one’s children is natural, but Fu Lei’s love for Fu Cong and Fu Min has not become the ordinary tender affection. Instead, he always puts morality and art first, The feeling of licking the calf comes second. Just like his strict discipline on Fu Cong and Fu Min's childhood, although it is not recognized by ordinary people, it does come from his deeper love for his sons.

Because this book is a family letter written by a father to his son, it is a daily routine written on paper. Therefore, it is like the clear spring in the mountains and the white clouds rolling in the blue sky. The emotions are pure and simple, which is touching.

1. Fu Lei’s love for his son

“Dear child, I wanted to write a letter the day after you left. I was afraid that you would find it annoying, so I let it go. But I didn’t. I miss you all day long. I wake up at six or seven o'clock every morning, tossing and turning, unable to fall asleep. I can't explain why. It's like Christophe's mother is alone at home, thinking of scenes from her child's childhood. Your mother and I. I always think about your little stories from when you were two or three to six or seven years old."

"Fu Lei's Family Letter" was written to his son Fu Cong. From the above sentence, we can see Fu Lei's deep love for his son between the lines. For my son who has grown up, I hope that he will thrive and develop outwards, but I cannot bear to let my child stay away from me. In fact, parents are like this. From pregnancy in eight months to delivery in October, parents work hard to nurture their children step by step, in order to hope that their children will be useful and will not live on the streets in the future. However, when children become talented, it is also the time to leave the roof and fly alone. As a parent, I am both happy and sad for them. After all, it is a matter of flesh and blood. As we should appreciate and understand the painstaking efforts of our parents, let them see what they want to see - our happy life, which can be regarded as repaying our parents for their hard work in raising us.

2. Fu Lei’s encouragement to his son

“As far as the performance is concerned, I think it is generally very good. It is done in one go, full of energy, and the delicate parts are very delicate. There are indeed many changes in tonecolour. We I was very happy and touched after hearing this. My dear boy, I should really praise you. Looking back on the time when I just returned to Shanghai from Kunming in April 1951, I hope you have risen from the bottom. Pay attention to your overall self-cultivation from now on, and you will definitely be able to climb to the top in the future."

This is what Teacher Fu Lei said to his son after listening to his son Fu Cong's recording. This includes Teacher Fu's detailed analysis and objective appreciation of his son's recording. And later he mentioned his hope for his son. This is the way parents educate their children. It should not only reflect your affirmation of your children, but also give them the determination to work hard and the confidence that they will succeed. On the other hand, they also put forward their own hopes and pointed out the way forward and the direction of development for the children. As children, we should also learn from our parents' experiences on the path guided by our parents, and learn from each other's strengths to develop our own new path.

3. Fu Lei’s instructions

“In public groups, it is inevitable to catch up with tasks and hinder normal learning. I have expected this. Everything is for your own use. Firm will and stand, and fight for it tactfully and forcefully. Otherwise, how much can you do to prepare for going abroad? - Especially in terms of music, I have been worried about everything from now on. Perseverance, faith and will - the will to practice.

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Thousands of warnings and instructions make parents unable to rest. As a parent, I have mixed feelings about how my son will cope with the ever-changing society. I will use my own experience to remind my son to take less resentful paths and take more shortcuts. This is the idea of ??parents all over the world. Children are the continuation of parents’ lives and the hope that holds the sun in their hearts. Parents do not want their children to make the same mistakes again, hoping that they can “go to a higher level” than we did in adolescence. , we should let go of our rebellious mentality, listen to our parents' lessons, and understand their parents' painstaking efforts. In fact, this is also for our own good and for our future life to be easier and happier.

Four. Mother's care

"I hope you will put all your energy into studying knowledge, use more reason and less emotion. Of course, that will depend on your strong confidence and restrain all worries. It is not easy, but it must be overcome. Regarding your emotional issues, I have never had any opinions. I think you are making progress in all aspects. You are a smart person and will wake up on your own. Since I am your mother, and we are closely related flesh and blood, I have to nag you a few words to persuade you. ”

In terms of the mother’s attentiveness, the father has good intentions for his son’s future, while the mother focuses on the most subtle place - the son’s emotional issues, giving her son a clear direction. Tell him. How to deal with your own emotional and career issues and let your son understand where the focus is. We should also accept the lessons from Fu Lei’s wife. We should understand our own focus, understand our tasks, paths and directions, and know what we should and shouldn’t do. Whatever we do, we must grasp the direction carefully. This will help us succeed.

5. Fu Lei loves his son eagerly. I can never atone for this sin! These thoughts have not left my mind for the whole day, but I dare not tell your mother that if I do one wrong thing in life, my conscience will never be at peace! Really, Balzac said it well: Some sins can only be redeemed, not washed away! ”