My colleagues around me are buttering up to the leaders, and I feel like an outsider. Am I not suitable to mix in state-owned enterprises?

I have a good eldest brother, who was originally a technical school student and is now very successful. His specialty is being good at the world and being polite. He not only revolves around the boss, but also revolves around his friends. At that time, there were at least three or four cups a day, and there were always alcohol, tobacco, sugar and tea in the trunk of the car. There is nothing he doesn't know about personnel information, parents' stories, weddings and funerals.

This good big brother can only make connections, but he has no real skills? Wrong, all wet. Although I was promoted quickly, I made outstanding achievements in every step. In terms of popularity, relationship and performance, they are all comprehensive. Isn't he tired of doing these things? Sure, I'm tired. I'm sick all over now, with three highs and one low. On one occasion, he said, if you are not so comprehensive and thoughtful, you can't relax for a moment without long-term operation. As a technical school student, you can't get out without background and resources. There are many capable people, but few people are appreciated by the boss and willing to support them.

Many people also talk about this good big brother. What's so great about him? Don't you make a fortune by running relationships, eating and drinking, buttering up the boss and pleasing the leaders? In fact, these people are mainly suffering from pink eye, envy and hate.

I asked myself: can you copy the practice of big brother? The answer is: no, first, I am lofty and refuse to bow my head; Second, I don't have the ability to dance well, speak well and do well; Third, I don't want to put so much energy into running and eating and drinking. Ultimately, the reason why I can't learn Big Brother is because my brain is lazy, I can't remember interpersonal relationships and all kinds of information, and I don't want to think about how to make a toast to get extra points. I am physically lazy. I have to drink three or four times a day, and I have to take care of all the scenes. I don't have such a good capacity for alcohol and energy. There is also a bottom logic, and I am not so willing to spend money.

So I come to a conclusion that pleases the subject: some people are good at doing these things, some people are not good at doing these things, and some people know but don't care about doing them. Flattering, treating guests and giving gifts is also a skill. Let you do it, but you can't do it well. Flattery is not good, just like patting on a horseshoe; If the gift is not good, you will lose your wife and lose your soldiers. You think a long-term business relationship is simple. If you are allowed to study for half a year, you will be a toddler in Handan, and the loss will outweigh the gain. So, if you are not good at it, don't care too much. It might be a good thing to change the track.

People in groups like to join in the fun and talk about people with short parents. They often get together to gossip, which doesn't mean anything. A really smart person hides everything he knows in his stomach and keeps it a secret. The people who shout every day are only the second marginal figures who are hearsay, and they are not the people in the inner circle at all. If you understand this truth, you don't have to care.

Back to the topic, what can state-owned enterprises mix? Or, what can we do to get along well in state-owned enterprises? There are four main suggestions:

First, define what is a good combination. In state-owned enterprises, there are three main situations:

The first kind, mixed to the middle and high level, has a high annual salary and good welfare, and the good things of the unit are queued according to the position. The key is that the higher the position, the farther away from the messy concrete things, the less real pressure, the more things to do with your brain and the less things to do in person. Social resources are abundant, and the affairs of his wife and children can basically be arranged properly.

Second, there is a sideline business, using the leisure conditions of state-owned enterprises to make sideline business fly. The wages and benefits of state-owned enterprises, as the bottom, have cash flow every month, and it is easy to succeed in sideline business. You can live a comfortable life if you have a good attitude.

Third, 80% of people are ordinary people. There are several categories in this: 60%, honestly, do your own thing and live in peace for a lifetime; 20%, there is a thief's heart but no thief's courage, trying to please the boss, but afraid of colleagues' jokes; 20%, quietly giving gifts, giving up when you can't see the benefits, and returning to the state of honest work; 10%, complaining every day and full of grievances.

In recent years, people's definition of getting along well (success) has also changed. Self-satisfaction, living and working in peace and contentment is also success. Many people have accepted the happiness concept of "plain is true", while others have been "marginalized" on their own initiative. So, you don't have to care about these.

Second, can you get ahead in state-owned enterprises without deliberately pleasing the boss? Chicken soup is not served here. It's hard to get ahead without human feelings. This is determined by the selection and employment mechanism of state-owned enterprises. The most critical procedure is the nomination procedure. Simply put, without the nomination of the top leader, the selection process cannot be started. If the top leaders don't know you, appreciate you and understand you, how can they initiate a motion?

Third, how to treat the problem of engaging in relations dialectically? Someone must think that gold always shines. When you came up with this idea, it has proved that your "view of the workplace" is not mature enough.

First, being good at communicating with your boss is part of your strong working ability. Being good at dealing with your boss is not to please your boss, nor to climb relationships, but a kind of leadership ability.

Second, being good at communicating with your boss will help you develop your abilities. Some people are very capable and don't understand the boss's intentions and ideas. The more they do, the more mistakes they make. Therefore, people with strong ability must pay attention to normal communication with leaders, communicate and report more, master more information and see the direction clearly, so as to give full play to their strong "root" and "idea" ability and make greater achievements.

Third, correctly handle the relationship between introversion and growth route. To overcome the weakness of personality, be generous in contact, and calm your mind when you are quiet and alone. This is the accomplishment of a successful person. It is necessary to cultivate the ability to deal with your boss normally, ask for more instructions, report more and communicate more, so that you can know your boss's thoughts better and let the leaders know you better. To some extent, staying with your boss will help you get promoted and reused.

Fourth, how can we get ahead in state-owned enterprises without human feelings and relationships? Today's post-90s, post-90s, post-00s and future generations of young people no longer recognize the past workplace culture. They don't engage in relationships and don't care about human feelings. They don't want to be wronged by three objective conditions:

First, young people's professionalism and awareness of rules have laid a solid foundation for the era of decentralization. Today's young people receive much more civilized education than their parents and grandparents. They even reject the dross culture in the workplace, hate treats, gifts and flattery, and hope to establish a new workplace order.

Second, the future workplace will be more "decentralized", leading to the gradual change of the underlying logic of success. At present, the workplace is still "centralized", that is, the management is the "center" that determines the career of employees, and the career development of employees depends on the evaluation of the management, and the fate is in the hands of the boss (centralized).

In the future internet plus era, data technology will be decentralized, and so will the workplace. An employee doesn't have to rely entirely on the management of the unit, but can provide services for multiple enterprises with the help of internet plus. What do you mean? Just like online celebrities, media tycoons, lecturers, consultants, designers, WeChat business, etc., you can achieve great things without looking at the face of the company boss or even being known by the boss and colleagues.

Third, the management's concept of employing people will be gradually liberated in the future, which is conducive to the formation of a decentralized workplace ecology.

Many managers have a very traditional concept of employing people, or the concept of "all for me". For example, I recruit you, I pay you, and you are my subordinate. Your intelligence, physical strength and skills are all owned by the company, which is dominated by me and cannot be provided to others. With the gradual deepening of the internet plus era, the company's organization and personnel format will also change. Many company managers' employment concept is also changing from "all for me" to "for my use".

To sum up, summarize the changes of the three underlying logics. First, the general trend of "decentralization" of workplace ecology has taken shape. Second, the management's concept of employing people has also changed to "what people use is what I use". Third, after entering the workplace after 1995 and 00, they will abide by professional ethics more. In the future, after 1995, there will be more and more opportunities for people who do not rely on relationships and are not partial to their bosses and colleagues.