Dynamic balance: the bicycle balance method of life

1, static balance and dynamic balance: every part of the static state is a stable balance, which only appears in the dead silence. Life system is dynamically balanced, which is a kind of overall system balance in constant change.

2. Life balance: Instead of fantasizing about the absolute balance of various life links, it is better to improve the efficiency of work and life and make it dynamically balanced.

In fact, the balance between work and life that most of us understand is a joke.

When it comes to work-life balance, most people think of balance and absolute neutrality. This kind of balance is called static balance, which is characterized by equality and stability.

But this concept is not easy to realize in life, because people are not heavy objects and can stay still honestly. In addition, there is more than one balance in life, and there are many. Life is like a bird's nest, and I am a tired mother bird. There are many hungry birds in the nest-boss, family, children, friends ... As a mother bird, I feel guilty when I come back with a bug in my mouth. It is difficult to level a bowl of water.

If you expect all conditions, a bowl of water is flat, life will be desperate, and you will be driven by flattery and fear to be a perfect person who wants to be silent. And fear is because if you live according to all perfect goals, you can't do anything.

What is the possible balance?

Every part of the static state is a stable balance, which only appears in the dead silence. All living systems are in dynamic balance, that is, to maintain the balance of the changing whole system.

The human body is a typical dynamic balance. Your blood cells change every 90 days. Your knowledge and cognition are constantly changing. You metabolize different things every day, but your personality, memory, body temperature and pH are all balanced and stable.

The most common dynamic balance is riding a bicycle. You break down the cycling action, and every single moment is unbalanced, but you keep the actions together, and cycling for a long period is a very stable balance.

Three technical moves of the master of life balance

First, there is no perfect day, but there must be a perfect week.

If you have a lot of ideas about a perfect day, then you may find it impossible, which usually takes 48 to 72 hours.

Perfection is possible. The real problem is that you are satisfied with everything in one day. It is never possible to think about perfection in this cycle, so you are anxious and feel that everything you do is not perfect.

But this life has a chance to be perfect:

Try to discuss the project every once in a while until dawn. Argument, quarrel, physical and mental exhaustion, but it's worth it.

Learn one thing for a period of time every year, and then meet a group of like-minded people.

Drinking with old classmates and eating crayfish every month.

Take a long vacation every year and accompany your family to do something they especially want to do.

Meet the person you want to meet once a week, and create an elaborate moment.

The anxiety of balance often comes from your constant desire for balance-but if it is prolonged to a long-term balance, balance can be achieved-it is really impossible to go out for a cup of coffee in the afternoon of a closed meeting, but it is very possible to set aside an hour of quiet coffee time for yourself every week.

I once met Jiang, president of Deyan Society, who was also the product manager of the original 1 store. He believes that in the Texas Hold 'em master training class, the simplest difference between the master and the rookie is that the master is always looking for probability, and the rookie wants to win every set. The longer the equilibrium period, the bigger the pattern, and the easier it is to find a big balance.

The master of balance thinks that there is no perfect day, but there may be a beautiful week, a beautiful year and a perfect life.

Second, it is better to talk about life efficiency than life balance.

I believe that you have met people around you-they are well-organized and efficient-and you will look for places where you are superior to him. For example, I have a happy and stable family, and this kind of workaholic is definitely hopeless. Then maybe one day you will find that he has a pair of lovely children who respect him very much, so you have lost confidence in your life deeply.

This is the so-called life efficiency, not life balance.

Japanese doctor Yoshida Suibo, her goal is to work collectively, study abroad and have children. She wrote in the book "I can do anything because I don't have time" that her success mainly lies in managing her time efficiently-using her spare time, giving up perfectionism, controlling her emotions, opening books at any time, borrowing things from others ... In short, she has developed countless things to improve her work and life efficiency.

The second secret of balance experts is that it is much easier to ride fast than slow in balance. It is better to improve the efficiency of work life than to pay attention to the balance of work life.

If you can finish what you are doing faster than planned, you will have a better chance to achieve balance. If you can spend more quality time with you, then you are more likely to achieve balance in interpersonal relationships.

There is an idea that you should always have. Someone must be doing something in a better way, so you must keep learning and improve efficiency.

Third, small things are important.

When I go to boxing class, I find that the more skilled I am, the more relaxed I am and the more energy I save. Because they don't bind themselves when doing actions, but let themselves make some subtle balance adjustments when needed.

For example, when traveling, remember to bring a souvenir to your friend. For example, when you want to go to an exhibition, call your tutor. For example, when you see something your friends might like, take it with you and occasionally invite friends to dinner at home. ...

A lot of balance is in small things, and we always want to wait until we suppress a big move before calling it balance. In fact, everything that changed your life was in that small incision. On the contrary, I think people who live too deliberately are easy to be at a disadvantage in their way of life and their interpersonal relationships.

But in any case, balance is very difficult, and dynamic balance is even more difficult, so the balance between work and life is a particularly difficult thing.

But as the writer Robin Martha said: It is not because something is difficult that you don't want to do it, but because you don't want to do it, it makes it difficult.

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Be a master of dynamic balance like riding a bicycle-keep your eyes on your vision, pedal hard, and make subtle adjustments efficiently to keep yourself balanced. Even if you ride askew, you have your own goals in your heart. No matter what others say, as long as you don't roll over and hit people, just walk on your stomach.