What you are afraid of is actually yourself that you dare not face.

There was a plot when watching One Hundred Years of Solitude: it rained heavily for four years in Macondo, 1 1 month and two days, and old Ursula's back was covered with dense leeches. ...

Seeing this, I almost threw the book away. Because of intensive phobia, even if you don't see it with your own eyes, just imagine that your scalp will still be numb.

Sometimes, the more you force yourself not to think, the less your brain listens. So I took pictures of leeches, and I got goose bumps all over.

Then for the next period of time, when it rains, my mind will be filled with pictures of leeches, which will be particularly collapsed. Can't go to dark and humid corners, can't stay in dark and claustrophobic spaces. The rainy days that lasted a while ago almost made my heart hairy.

This is probably the best example of "no left, no death".

When writing this passage, my scalp and back are still numb.

Besides, I'm claustrophobic, so don't be afraid of dark and cramped places. When a person is at home, he always leaves a lamp. When he bought a house, he resolutely ignored the fact that there were no windows in the bathroom and kitchen.

This is probably a physiological phenomenon because of individual differences. I haven't checked, and I don't know if this is a pathological state.

Probably everyone has their own fears. Some are afraid of cats, some are afraid of snakes, and some are afraid of mice. But as long as we don't touch what we are afraid of, we will still have a good time.

But if you stay away from what scares you, won't you be afraid all your life?

02

We often can't control our thoughts, can't stay away from them, and can't control our thoughts.

Like me, I still finished watching One Hundred Years of Solitude. I read the description in detail, while enduring the pain of scalp numbness, I watched it carefully.

As far as I'm concerned, the more scared I am, the more I want to understand. After a deeper understanding, you may increase your immunity and stop being afraid.

Just like walking at night when I was a child, I always felt that there was a ghost behind me, so when I saw the shadow of fear, I would always stop and let myself see clearly. Oh, so it's a cat, so it's a tree. Anyway, after reading it carefully, I'm not so scared.

When my son was one and a half years old, I bought a human acupoint model to learn Chinese medicine. It's flesh-colored plastic, 40 cm high. It is full of acupoint names in black font, which is scary at first glance. When my son saw it for the first time, he cried with fear.

But after he cried, he ran to the model and tried to take it away. His body is far away, and it's funny to dodge while approaching. Finally, after many repetitions, he can finally play happily with the model without any obstacles.

He overcame the obstacles of fear.

You see, sometimes it is. Only by facing it can we surpass it.

03

I have read such a story: a young man suffered family changes and met a group of gangsters on the way to suicide at the end of the road. His face is fearless and his heart is unwilling. The gangster was frightened by his death and ran away in surprise.

For young people, they are not afraid of death. What are they afraid of? Later, he did not choose to give up his life, but was reborn and achieved good results. Just because at the last moment of suicide, there was only one sentence in his mind: "If you are not afraid of death, what are you afraid of?"

Yes, life has many twists and turns. We are often troubled by the current difficulties and feel that we cannot move forward. In fact, it's because we just look at the difficulty from a distance and don't get close to it. We don't know what it is and how difficult it is.

We're just scared by ourselves. The biggest fear actually comes from our hearts.

In Frozen, Elsa was born with the magic of making ice and snow. In a play, her magic accidentally hurt her sister. Since then, she has lived in a secluded room, isolated from the world. Because she is afraid of hurting others, there is extreme fear in her life.

The more afraid she is, the more out of control her magic becomes. Finally, she froze the whole castle out of control. She escaped.

At the end of the movie, she overcame her fear of echo, and then she realized that magic had been out of control because of her fear. When she was no longer afraid, when she overcame her fear with Aike, she mastered her magic, made all kinds of romantic ice and snow worlds for their castle, and lived a happy life as she pleased.

In most cases, we are afraid because of ignorance and unknowns.

04

I saw a news in the morning. Ma Yun, who opened an online shop to change banks, started to be a robot, and Li Yanhong, who did search and map, completed driverless driving. They began to introduce artificial intelligence products. In three to five years, a large number of nannies and drivers will lose their jobs.

Think about it, I'm extremely scared.

No matter how fast the era of artificial intelligence is progressing and how far it is from us, at least this is a trend, and the world is quietly undergoing tremendous changes.

Transformation is in an instant.

Many people always find it difficult to change, and it is impossible to jump out of a familiar field and start from scratch.

However, the fact is so cruel, the more afraid of change, the greater the risk of not changing.

For the unknown, we always feel very far away and difficult. It's too difficult to learn a new skill, find a new job, change a career and integrate into a new circle.

The only way to overcome fear is to make up your mind to do it.

Whether the future is difficult or not, we will not know until we go on. Whether another way of life is happy or not can only be known if we get rid of the existing life.

Of course, it's easy to keep the status quo.

But this era has not allowed us to maintain the status quo. If there is no change between us three years ago and three years later, then we will be swallowed up by great changes and be at a loss.

05

The world is like a box of delicious chocolates, but you never know what you're gonna get.

Whether you are in a stressful job, a stormy family or a declining career, if you dare not take that step forward, you must find out what you are afraid of.

Maybe the job you want to give up is not suitable for you. The marriage you are desperately trying to save has actually come to an end, and your career has long been out of date. All you are afraid of is getting worse.

In the final analysis, this lack of self-confidence is just your lack of ability.

Behind the cancer of fear is actually the pain that ability can't satisfy desire.

However, if you can face up to yourself, how can you have fear?

Life is a process of checking and filling gaps.

Where there are shortcomings, we can't avoid them in the future. It's not a joke to "hang out and pay it back sooner or later".

It is better to face up to yourself early, make up for your abilities early, and seize the opportunity when it comes, instead of being full of fear.

There are always worse things in life, and those things that catch us off guard are just the normal state of life.

Of course, there will always be unexpected good arrival.

What scares us is not the thing itself, but the shackles we set for ourselves.