Are children close to whoever they sleep with at night?

Going out early and returning late is the norm for many precious parents. But the baby who gets up early and goes to bed late can't stand it, so the question comes: Who should take care of the baby? Many young couples choose to ask their parents for help and ask the elderly to help them take care of their children. On the one hand, they can cultivate the affection between old people and children. On the other hand, children and the elderly sleep together, sleep soundly and don't have to worry about being awakened by their parents, and the elderly can take good care of their babies.

But you know what? Who did the children sleep with when they were young? When they grow up, they will be closer to this person. Children who sleep with the elderly when they are young are likely to have conflicts with their parents when they grow up!

In order to let the child sleep with the elderly at work, a year later, the child and his mother alienated.

Kangkang is two years old. Both parents work in listed companies. Usually, they are very busy at work. They can have dinner with Kangkang in the morning, but it is common to work overtime at night. By the time mom and dad got off work, Kangkang was already asleep. Come back too late at night, if you don't wake the sleeping baby, you can only let your grandparents sleep with Kangkang.

Looking at Kangkang, who is close to his grandparents, his father and mother are also very pleased. In this way, after more than a year, Kangma's company has carried out system reform, and the working hours have been humanized a lot. Kangma also has time to spend with Kangkang, but when she came home and proposed to sleep with Kangkang in the future, there was no happy expression on the child's face. On the contrary, Kangkang paused and cried.

Kangma is very wronged. She went out early and came back late just to create good conditions for her children, but in the end, the children were so alienated from themselves. It's really hard to say

Everyone who sleeps with children should kiss. Parents should never let their children sleep with the elderly in order to save trouble. There will be many problems in the future!

One: Why do children kiss whoever they sleep with?

In fact, Kangkang's reaction is normal. Psychologically speaking, the critical period for the formation of children's psychological security is about three years old. Children in this period are sensitive and very dependent on others. People who sleep with their children are often more likely to establish close relationships with them, and children will also have the psychology of trust and dependence on those who sleep with her every night.

If a child does not sleep with his parents since childhood, it means that his sense of security does not come from his parents. The psychological state established as a child will be further reflected in his performance when he grows up. In this case, the relationship between children and their parents can easily become rigid and alienated when they grow up. You can't blame the children. Who let parents miss the best opportunity to cultivate feelings with their children?

Two: Why can't old people often sleep with their children?

Sleeping with children by the elderly can really reduce the burden on parents, but at the same time it will also make the relationship between children and parents less intimate. Children will prefer to stay with grandparents for a long time, and even some children will hate their parents.

For parents, this is a very sad thing, because you personally pushed your child into the arms of others, and it is difficult for children to rely on and get close to you.

Of course, this does not mean that the opportunity to sleep with children is not given to their grandparents once. It is also necessary to let grandparents put the baby to sleep occasionally, because children also need to be close to grandparents, just don't let the elderly sleep with their children often, and make sure that parents have enough time to spend with their children.

In addition, parents should pay attention that if the elderly are not healthy enough and the children's resistance is weak, the children who sleep with the elderly are more likely to get sick.

Three: What should I pay attention to when sleeping with my child?

There was once a popular joke on the Internet to the effect that a mother asked her father to put her child to sleep. As a result, after a long time, the mother went to see if the child was asleep, and found that the father slept soundly with his eyes closed, while the child who should have been put to sleep was having a good time.

The essence of this matter is that although many parents are really sleeping with their children, their minds are not on them. In fact, such companionship is largely ineffective. In the matter of accompanying children, we must exchange sincerity for sincerity, and perfunctory will not have a good result.

In addition, sleeping with children is an excellent opportunity for parents and children to communicate efficiently, because parents are busy with work and children spend most of the day playing with grandparents or going to school. Only before going to bed can they have high-quality parent-child time.

Tell your baby a bedtime story, talk about your childhood, or just ask your baby a few small questions and spend a warm bedtime with your baby. I believe that with the accumulation of time, your relationship with your baby will get better and better.