It is better to manage men than to manage your own life.

In love and marriage, whether a woman should trust a man seems to be a false proposition.

Some people say it's like a bank lending you a loan, not because they trust you, but because they believe they can get it back with interest.

I think this metaphor is very special. Women should be as confident as a bank that dares to lend money to others, believe in their own vision and ability to recognize people, and believe in the man they choose.

Giving men full trust is also a sign of trusting themselves.

I never advise women to take care of men. On the contrary, I don't think women need to take care of men at all.

Honestly, controlling men is not good at all. Not to mention how the man who manages people feels, the woman who manages people is physically and mentally exhausted. Mind your own business, you will get tired of it, and two people who fall in love again.

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On Sunday afternoon, I made an appointment with a small park I haven't seen for a long time to bask in the sun. I went ahead of time and sat on a bench in the sun waiting for her.

Xiaoxiao stepped on the appointed time and arrived at the park on time. Sitting on the bench, I looked at Xiaoxiao carefully. She hasn't seen me for a long time. My face is a little haggard than when I last saw her, and I look rather worried.

Before I asked her what was bothering her, she spoke first.

This is a cold war with her husband. There is a simple reason. A few days ago, Mr. Xiaoxian chatted a little more with a female colleague in the past on WeChat, so Xiaoxian suspected that their relationship was abnormal.

Mr. Wang has repeatedly explained that there is nothing between them, except occasionally asking questions about each other. Because they used to be colleagues, female colleagues occasionally asked him about other colleagues.

Xiaoxiao also read their chat records, nothing out of line. However, in the view of "nip in the bud", Xiaoxiao wants to nip all the signs of extramarital affairs that she thinks are suspicious in the bud.

Laughing made Mr. Wang hack the WeChat and phone number of this female colleague. In order to quell the family "war", Mr. Wang hacked the female colleague's WeChat and phone number in front of Xiaoxiao.

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After that, Xiaoxiao went on a business trip to other places and walked for more than ten days. The first thing he did when he came back was to check Mr. Wang's mobile phone and found that Mr. Wang had pulled his female colleague out of the blacklist. This is a terrible thing, the gentleman asked a little angrily.

Mr. Wang said helplessly that there was nothing between them, and somehow they blacked people out. If a colleague has anything to ask him, wouldn't it be embarrassing to find that he has blacked them out? How does he explain it to others? At least we are colleagues who have helped each other.

Mix doesn't think so. She thought that she had just been on a business trip for a few days, so he put her out of the blacklist. There must be a connection between them, and their relationship must be unusual. No matter how Mr. Wang explained it, he just wouldn't listen.

Mr. Wang asked Mix what to do before she could believe him. Mr. Xiao rang his female colleague and told her that no matter what happened, don't contact him again.

Mr. Wang said angrily, "aren't you looking for trouble?" How does he behave in front of other colleagues after this call? If you are not ashamed, call yourself. "

In order to defend his sovereignty, Xiaoxiao picked up the phone and dialed. As soon as the phone was connected, she said straight away, "I'm Lao Zhang's wife." I hate anything that you contact my husband. I hope that you will not have any contact in the future. "

The female colleague called out a "sister-in-law" on the phone and explained it grievances. When Mix heard a female colleague's husband ask her who was calling on the other end of the phone, she asked him to answer the phone.

Xiaoxiao said to the husband of a female colleague, "Please take good care of your wife."

Hung up the phone and found Mr. Xiao particularly ugly. He stared at her with incredible eyes as if he didn't know her. He didn't want to call back his cell phone and didn't say another word to her. He turned into the study and closed the door.

Since that night, the two have been in a cold war, and it has been almost a month now.

Xiaoxiao still hangs Mr. Wang's QQ on the computer every day as soon as he goes to work, and checks whether anyone contacts Mr. Wang at any time. When you come home from work, you should also check your husband's WeChat and phone records.

As usual, Mr. Wang put his mobile phone on the coffee table and looked through it with her, but didn't say a word to her again.

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Xiaoxiao is distressed by this matter and insists that there is nothing wrong with herself. She has always believed that men must be in charge, and they must be very tight.

So for so many years, Mr. Wang's QQ has been hung on her computer, and her mobile phone has been asked to check it at any time.

I asked her, "Do you think your husband is really having an affair with a female colleague?" She said there shouldn't be at present. If she hadn't found it early and stopped it in time, she might cheat in the future.

I asked her, "Do you really think you can handle men?" She said of course, don't you think it's under control now?

I continued to ask her, "Do you think you can find out whether your husband has contacted a female colleague and then blacken that female colleague according to your meaning?" Besides, there is a fixed telephone in their office. "She said, you can't find it like that. Two people have to work, and they can't be together 24 hours a day.

I said, "Isn't that all? Are men really under your control? The reason why you think you can manage your husband well is because he loves you, tolerates you and lets you manage, and your husband has a normal relationship with his female colleague, so he will calmly pull her out of the blacklist. Do you think you can really control him if he doesn't listen? "

Mix thought it over carefully, shook his head and said that if he really has any ideas, he must be uncontrollable.

I said "strike while the iron is hot": anyway, Mr. Wang is also your own choice. You should trust your own vision and your own charm. If you get a woman in the lobby and kitchen, how can you leave you? Besides, it's tiring for you to take care of men so warily.

I give some advice, go home and take the initiative to end the cold war with my husband, and give him more trust.

Don't stare at your husband all day except children, it's a woman's lack of confidence. If you have time to stare at your husband, you might as well talk to your sisters.

Stop fooling around. It's really too late to put such a good gentleman in another woman's arms.

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I always believe that men can't control it, even if you control it, it's useless.

There may be a female compatriot who immediately retorts: No matter how men are? What should I do if he does something wrong behind my back?

If a man wants to do something wrong to you, you are Sherlock Holmes, and there is no trace of him for a while. Even if I finally find out, it will only be more sad.

Choose to forgive, there is always a thorn in my heart. If you don't forgive me, it's only nine Niu Yi hairs, and the damage will be deeper, and it will hurt not only women, but also other family members. These results are not what women want.

Some female compatriots will retort that even if they are hurt, it is better to know the truth than to let him lie to them.

Actually, the truth is not necessarily important. A happy marriage needs simple trust and smart confusion, not excessive sensitivity and suspicion. Your mood and the happiness of your family are the most important.

Besides, instead of spending time and energy on fighting bravely to find evidence of doubt, it is better to use these time to cultivate your temperament image, enhance your connotation, polish yourself into a charming woman who is both internal and external, and let yourself live beautifully and exquisitely.

At this time, how can a husband with normal brain be willing to leave you? Why are you worried about not finding a good man?

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In fact, women take care of men as a sign of confidence.

A confident woman should trust her eye for people, her emotional perception and her charm. Even if she meets love rat unfortunately, she should believe that this is just a passer-by in her life, and there will be the right person waiting for you ahead.

A good man doesn't need a woman to take care of him. He has his own principles and bottom line, and he has a sense of responsibility to his family and women. Women can trust him, give him space, trust him, and believe that he will live up to the trust of women and respect and love women more.

If a love rat wants to be a jerk and lie, he has plenty of ways to deal with managing women. A woman's desire for control will only make him worse and do more harm to women. Such a man is not worth a woman's trouble to take care of him.

There is a saying that "if the suspect doesn't marry, he will marry."

Woman, you must be confident. I believe the man you choose is trustworthy.

Instead of spending so much time and energy to manage your own man, it is better to manage your own life.

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. If you are great, the days will be arranged by yourself.