Twins’ 20th anniversary hot search: There is a kind of friendship called Asa and Gillian

While scrolling through Weibo, I came across a hot search: The 20th anniversary of twins’ debut. It felt like a lifetime ago.

They moved me so much, but today, the popularity of twins has faded, and only a few people know about them.

Some people even asked: Who is Gillian? That fat female star?

Ah Sa immediately clarified: Gillian is very healthy and her weight gain is due to hormonal imbalance. Please don’t put pressure on her. Being happy is the most important thing.

Others asked: Who is Asa? William Chan’s ex-girlfriend?

After Asa and William Chan broke up, Gillian became a target of public opinion. Gillian immediately accompanied her sisters and asked Asa to eat hot pot without makeup, so she was not afraid of being followed by the media.

Twins are the dream of girls in the 80s and 90s. The sunny and cheerful Asa and the pretty and flowery Gillian are still on the stickers of my pencil case, the cover of my notebook, and in my MP3 playlist.

How many girls envy them, want to be them, and want to have friends like them.

From the peak to the trough, the twins have always helped each other, joined hands and supported each other.

Like two outnumbered young generals, facing thousands of troops, knowing that the road ahead is bumpy, they still look at each other and smile.

Hold a gun, go into battle, and charge.

If it weren’t for twins, I wouldn’t know how strong girls’ friendship can be; how warm women’s friendship can be.

How precious is this divine friendship that I can never envy.

Someone asked on Zhihu: Are twins lesbians?

A fan replied: I have liked them for ten years. The relationship between twins is purer than love, deeper than friendship, and stronger than family affection.

When they first debuted, someone asked them how their relationship was?

The two of them replied "arrogantly": They have to go back to back to take a bath together, so they are not that familiar.

They never "fell in love at first sight". At first they couldn't play or chat together, and they got along as if they were apart.

Gillian, who lost her father in her early years, grew up eating "every family's meal". She transferred schools 8 times in 3 years and felt completely insecure inside;

Asa, whose parents were divorced, She has been beautiful and beautiful since she was a child. Her father held her in the palm of his hand and met all her requests unconditionally.

Two people with very different experiences have very different personalities. Gillian can't speak and often teases Lou Zi. Asa is so smart that she has to help her smooth things over.

But as time went by, the feelings changed.

In 2008, Gillian's private photos were leaked and she fell out of the "beautiful girl" altar. She was banned by the media for a time and also damaged the reputation of the Twins group.

Everyone advised Asa to go solo, but she refused.

She is betting: betting that she can support the twins alone, betting that Gillian will return.

Amidst the overwhelming abuse, Gillian almost collapsed. Asa's persistence became her last life-saving straw.

She is fragile at heart and not strong enough, but her sisters' affection and trust cannot be let down.

Two years later, Gillian returned to twins.

The two reunited and appeared together. Although the popularity was far less than that of the day, their relationship became more tacit after the tragedy.

Making movies, filming TV series, releasing records, accepting commercials, singing together... They know they don't have the confidence to choose, so they do whatever they are given, and prove with their strength: We are still the best girl group in China.

But just this year, Ah Sa’s “hidden marriage” was exposed. In order to apologize, she and her ex-husband Cheng Zhongji announced their divorce in public.

That year, Asa was almost destroyed by public opinion. Gillian's support became her loudest voice.

She has a stupid mouth, and she proves it with her actions: she attended a song and dance with an injury, and cried in pain backstage; she supported Asa in public many times, diverting public opinion to herself.

When Ah Sa felt uncomfortable, Gillian helped her massage her; when Ah Sa cried, Gillian was the first to open her arms.

They are each other's close friends, witnessing one person's isolation and helplessness, and the two supporting each other. It doesn't matter if the artillery fire is in the sky, back to back, we can conquer a city;

We are also each other's healing partners, you apply medicine for me, and I heal your wounds. It's not scary to be alone and weak. If we hold hands, we can connect them into a mountain.

They let me see that the good and bad in my heart will transform into gems and shine in the sun after experiencing the baptism of emotions.

Healing friends are the most powerful support when life is at its lowest point.

When I was crying late at night, the doorbell rang, and my friend stood outside the door, smiling and said: "Don't cry, I'm here";

When I was helpless, the phone rang, and my friend said she Everything has been settled so that you can have a good rest;

When you are too busy to eat, your WeChat message rings, and a friend shows up with a special dish, watching you eat and drink.

It is said that "if you love someone, you have to pay for him." Many times, love is not just "love", but also family affection and friendship.

"Payment" is not just money, but also companionship, consideration, respect and tenderness.

If you have a healing friend by your side, you will understand: what is nectar from heaven, like a spring breeze.

Sheldon in "The Big Bang Theory" is a "healing friend."

He has a sharp tongue and extremely low emotional intelligence. He often makes jokes and makes his friends laugh and cry.

But he will make a cup of hot tea for his friend when he is sad; when his friend has no money, he will take out his savings and let her withdraw as she pleases;

He will also listen to his friends’ complaints. , patiently enlighten the other person, let go of severe mysophobia, and hug them clumsily with open arms.

In life, Sheldon needs to be taken care of by everyone; but emotionally, he has been learning to take care of everyone.

This brings healing and growth to everyone.

At the wedding, Sheldon, who had never expressed his emotions directly, revealed his true feelings to his friend Leonard for the first time: You are extremely important to me.

Leonard, who had a low self-esteem, was moved to tears. He knew that he was not good enough. He thought that Sheldon looked down on him and wanted to break off the friendship countless times.

But in the end, he thought that the bad relationship accumulated the most profound strength and healed him.

Just like two thorny cactus, as they get closer, they slowly pick off their own thorns and learn how to heal each other and themselves.

Eddie is my "Sheldon". We have been competing with each other since college, and neither one of us would give in to the other.

The compliments and praises that come out of the mouth among best friends, when applied to us, will cause each other to wonder, "Did you take the wrong medicine?"

I often complain to my husband: Eddie is so annoying. No matter where he travels, he always brings me gifts. He really has money and no place to spend it;

I am not in good health and I still need to I barely cooked a table of dishes and invited me to dinner. I was really full.

But I do the same. Every time I buy something, I buy two copies and give one to her as a gift. I also say, "This is too much."

I frankly exposed my worst, most willful, and most inferior side to Eddie, and she did the same.

Our relationship is very real, so I never feel that the other person will hurt me; this safe relationship gives me the strength to face more insecurities.

Yes, this world is not safe, but having healing friends makes you look so lovely.

Human nature is always a mixture of good and bad. Rather than presenting one's own "good",

Healing friends are more able to accept the "bad" of their friends.

When we get along with healing friends, we don’t hide it, so we have quarrels; we don’t compromise, so we are full of conflicts; we don’t apologize, so we always hurt each other.

But this relationship can allow us to let go of all our feelings, including those repressed parts.

No matter how good the parent-child relationship is, some words will appear "unfilial"; no matter how harmonious the relationship between husband and wife is, some tempers will appear "disillusioned".

Healing friends are the best place to stay.

They are sincere, real and real, like a messy room filled with dirty clothes that are too late to wash, but no one despises anyone for being ugly.

Those "dirty laundry" are our emotions and feelings that have not yet been accepted. Most of the time we hide them and only expose them to people who understand each other.

There are 7 grandmothers in Japan who buy a house and provide for their retirement. If someone is short of onions or has no food to cook, just make a phone call and the sisters will deliver the goods to your door.

Such a harmonious relationship is not without any conflicts. An old sister was hospitalized. She refused to be visited by other sisters until she recovered.

For her, who was weak in bed, a group of energetic sisters was too stressful. The thought of her pain made her feel unhappy.

The sisters held an emergency meeting and drafted an "independence document", requiring the sisters to help each other while maintaining a distance that each other likes; while accompanying each other, they should also pay attention to protecting the sisters' self-esteem.

What happens in the hearts of sisters, they feel with their hearts. Many times, we are unwilling to face the unbearable side of our hearts, but through the eyes of our friends, we can accept it.

The sincerity and authenticity of friends seems to be telling us:

Yes, I see your heart and the messy "dirty clothes", but I still love you .

Because of you, I can let go of my psychological baggage and be myself relaxedly;

Because of me, you can take off your social mask and love yourself happily and safely.

The imperfections in our eyes are the roses blooming in our friends’ eyes.

This is the value that comes from relationships and the growth that comes from healing.