Do you think your parents-in-law are always hosts or guests when they go to the son-in-law's house? Why?

The title is wrong, it should be "Is it a host or a guest to go to the daughter's house for the elderly?" Of course, the answer must be "master".

The son's present house was bought by his daughter-in-law before marriage. They intend to change a big house and buy a small house for the elderly in the same community when the first purchase restriction expires. We bought a house in the provincial capital and haven't decorated it yet, so we will decorate it ourselves after retirement. The son bought a small one, and let his daughter-in-law's mother live with his remarried uncle. All property belongs to their grandchildren. As for who lives with them, it should be who needs who. Families care about each other's family disharmony, and young people are unhappy at home. For the elderly, there are still many days to go. Do what you can and cherish what you can. What do you care?

It's really hard to say We have an old entrepreneur here. His son went to work in Beijing after graduating from college and got married. The old entrepreneur bought a house for his son in Beijing, held a wedding in his hometown and treated his son in Beijing. A few years later, his grandson was born, and the entrepreneur took his wife and told him to take care of the company. Don't contact him for three months. Beijing has a house, children and grandchildren, but he hasn't lived in Beijing yet. As a result, he came back the next day and asked him why he couldn't adapt. In-laws live in his son's house, but treat him and his wife as outsiders. When having a meal, the son asks his in-laws to eat, calling them "parents" and the daughter-in-law "hello". At the dinner table, in-laws are very polite to customers. The more polite, the more depressed. He bought the house. The in-laws are a little presumptuous and don't know how to blush. After dinner, the couple packed their bags, checked into the hotel and came back the next day.

The psychopath was talking, and my father-in-law was lying in the hospital bed after the accident. I went to him and even told me that when I had100000, I would give100000 to my brother-in-law. I was so angry that I said this in my hospital bed that I spent more than 10000 to see a doctor. Then a year later, I told my wife about it, and she said yes. I said I spent 10000 to see your father, and others spent so little. My wife said I was underpaying the bride price. Please tell me how I met this unfortunate family.

Of course, you are a guest, because you are a foreigner. Unless you marry this house to your daughter in full, it will be very difficult for you to live in it. Otherwise, my father-in-law lives in his daughter's house, but it's also someone else's house, so he doesn't have to live in his own house.

Daughter is not stupid. She married this time all her life, and her mother-in-law built a house for herself, which is equivalent to giving herself a warm home. The woman's parents only care about building a house for their son. What did you give her? How hard it is for you to support the elderly with your own family, why do you have to go to your daughter's house?

Our fourth brother's mother-in-law and father-in-law took care of them and sent them away. My father came back from hospital sick, and my mother couldn't serve him well. Everyone is going to ask my husband to stop working to serve my father, but the money for his service is divided equally among the three of us. For example, an old man who can't take care of himself now earns 4500 yuan a month, and the three of us are 1500. If my husband comes forward to serve him, my sister will pay 1500.

Our parents, who have families, used to come to my house after being hospitalized and discharged, but they didn't come. They have their own home. When they are sick, they spend money on their own, and the money is not enough. My son takes the lion's share, my daughter has more money to give, and I am not rich without money. Every time I leave the hospital, I will get 35 thousand. As long as my mother has enough money, she doesn't want anyone's money.

As soon as I mentioned my parents' hometown, he understood that people knew how heavy they were, and they never went to their daughter's home to support the elderly. They have sons. All children should have filial piety, but who is light and who is heavy, don't parents have no points in their hearts?

First of all, this question, I think both parents-in-law go to the son-in-law's house to support the elderly, not the host and guest!

On this issue, my father once took the initiative to mention it to me! Because only children will face this problem!

My dad offered to live with me and my husband when he and his mother came back, and I immediately refused! First of all, I consider that the house was bought by my husband's family, even if mom and dad go to live permanently, it is not appropriate! Because I don't want my parents to act according to people's faces. Even if my husband agrees that his parents-in-law live in his own small home, he still has his own parents. Maybe some parents say nothing, but they will be unhappy! So facing this problem, I suggest my parents buy a house in the neighborhood near my small home, so that they can take care of each other and occasionally miss each other. It doesn't matter if I go to my parents' house for a few days or if my parents come to my small house for a few days! And when you and your husband have conflicts, quarrels, and small awkwardness, they will not have nowhere to live. It is better to live separately because of their feelings!

Living habits are different, just like my mother-in-law and father-in-law don't want to live together! Therefore, my husband may not like living with his parents-in-law for a long time! So, I think, let's live separately. On holidays, we will bring our parents-in-law and parents-in-law to celebrate the New Year together, which will make us happier! Live your life on weekdays! In this way, there will be no contradiction and the relationship will be harmonious!

If they have sons, they will give them all their property. Then he is not the master. If the property is for you, it is the owner. That's what I am. My father-in-law died young. My mother-in-law has two daughters and a son. The wife is the boss, the son is the second child, and there is a sister. The country prefers boys to girls, and it is a son, so it is particularly eccentric. My wife didn't graduate from junior high school and went home to do farm work with her mother for her younger brother and sister to go to school. Her sister went to college and had a good job. Her brother was lazy and slippery, didn't study hard, didn't go to college, and went back to the countryside. In 85, when his mother and my wife worked hard, there were only three million households in more than 70 villages. His family is one of them. My wife and I got married in 1988, when I was poor. My mother-in-law looks down on me and ignores me no matter what she says or does. You have to write an iou to buy a cow and lend her 100 yuan. Lend her 1000 yuan to buy a house, and she will pay a high interest of 2 cents. My wife and I both work hard. After a few years, I saved some money and went to the county to sell clothes and buy a house. I moved to the city, and my sister-in-law and lover have a good job and a good life. As her mother-in-law grows older, her family is now the poorest in the village. 20 12 She has cerebral thrombosis. Her son called my wife, who took her to the hospital. Her son didn't go to the hospital. After discharge, he was taken home, and the sequelae are still in bed. My sister-in-law gave me some money. His son doesn't even look at it, let alone talk about money. What is more exasperating is that she is biased towards her son. She won't be happy if I don't help her son plant spring crops and harvest autumn crops. He always said that it was right to be treated as a girl. It felt different at first. When I lived in the village, her son died of a chicken, and she didn't eat for a distressed day. My cow died. I sent her a piece of beef. She cooked it the same day and said it was delicious. Please comment, can a daughter and a son be the same? Now I can have whatever I want at home. I say this to tell you: be a good person or a bad person according to your conscience. I am angry and annoyed, and her son cares about me. I can't help it. It's all old people.

I only have one daughter. Now she is just engaged and has been with her boyfriend for several years. She lives in two families. Because my boyfriend's family is also an only child, I understand that both of them are his and the house will be theirs in the future, regardless of each other. There will be differences and dissatisfaction with more children, but a child will not have these problems.

Of course, you are a guest, because you are a foreigner. Unless you marry this house to your daughter in full, it will be very difficult for you to live in it. Otherwise, my father-in-law lives in his daughter's house, but it's also someone else's house, so he doesn't have to live in his own house.

Daughter is not stupid. She married this time all her life, and her mother-in-law built a house for herself, which is equivalent to giving herself a warm home. The woman's parents only care about building a house for their son. What did you give her? How hard it is for you to support the elderly with your own family, why do you have to go to your daughter's house?

Our fourth brother's mother-in-law and father-in-law took care of them and sent them away. My father came back from hospital sick, and my mother couldn't serve him well. Everyone is going to ask my husband to stop working to serve my father, but the money for his service is divided equally among the three of us. For example, an old man who can't take care of himself now earns 4500 yuan a month, and the three of us are 1500. If my husband comes forward to serve him, my sister will pay 1500.

Our parents, who have families, used to come to my house after being hospitalized and discharged, but they didn't come. They have their own home. When they are sick, they spend money on their own, and the money is not enough. My son takes the lion's share, my daughter has more money to give, and I am not rich without money. Every time I leave the hospital, I will get 35 thousand. As long as my mother has enough money, she doesn't want anyone's money.

As soon as I mentioned my parents' hometown, he understood that people knew how heavy they were, and they never went to their daughter's home to support the elderly. They have sons. All children should have filial piety, but who is light and who is heavy, don't parents have no points in their hearts?

Don't ask anyone about such a thing, it doesn't count!

This kind of thing should be decided by local culture and traditional rural rules and regulations.

If in Qufu, Shandong, the parents-in-law go to the son-in-law's house to support the elderly, there is no distinction between "subject and object". This is a joke, a joke and a fable. The agreement between Confucius and Mencius has always been that the daughter is the water spilled, and the son-in-law is the guest who bypasses the door. Don't mention supporting the elderly at the son-in-law's house, even if you eat at the son-in-law's house, the son-in-law's house must be outside Jining.

A saint can't cross the river! If it is in the main city of Shanghai, it is normal for parents-in-law to go to their son-in-law's house to support the elderly. Shanghai mother-in-law is an extremely extreme group. The son-in-law you like is closer than your own son, and the son-in-law you don't like is born than a stranger. In Shanghai, it is common for parents-in-law to visit their son-in-law. In particular, looking for a son-in-law with good conditions not only does not have the feeling of "losing my share" of Qufu people, but feels full of pride.

So, "host" or "guest"? Not by people, not by feelings, but by the background of hidden rules of regional culture in the north and south of the Yangtze River.

This is family, friends.

Only happy and unhappy, how to divide the host and guest?

Because you married their daughter, if your daughter-in-law treats your parents as guests, you will be happy. So, according to your own situation, see if they are suitable for your family to support the elderly and what your financial ability is.

Put aside everything, you will always be the head of the family, and you have the right to deny whether they want to support the elderly in your home. After all, supporting parents is a responsibility and a kind of pressure.

Daughters-in-law are all their own, not to mention their parents, but we can't divide the host and the guest, let the daughter-in-law know, and have a quarrel.