What's going on with mental internal friction?

Each of us is actually like a battery, and the battery energy is limited within a certain period of time. Excessive anxiety, suspicion, self-doubt and other brain activities will continue to cause mental internal friction and make people feel tired even when they are doing nothing. It will also have certain effects and harms on physical and mental health. At the least, it can make you feel uneasy, dazed, and depressed, affecting your study and work efficiency; at worst, it can be like an invisible bomb that slowly accumulates to a certain level before it explodes, or even collapses. If you are not careful, it may even lead to depression. .

Analyzing the reasons for these mental internal conflicts, there are nothing more than two types: taking oneself too seriously and taking others too seriously.

1. Taking yourself too seriously

The essence of this situation is that there is too much emphasis on self and it is relatively selfish. They prefer to do everything from their own perspective, always like to use "I think" and "you should" to define the world, and are accustomed to using their own rulers to measure and demand others. When the results are counterproductive and the needs are not met, it is easy to have various associations and dissatisfaction, feeling that one is not valued or respected, as if one is a complete victim.

As the saying goes: He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. The scariest thing about being a human being is not being able to correctly understand yourself. Many times, in fact, we are far from being as important and as popular as we think.

Everyone in this world has their own worries and lives. Don’t think that everyone will focus on you; no one in this world is irreplaceable or truly powerful. People tend to be low-key and modest, rather than having a high self-esteem and being self-centered. Everyone in this world has their own unique attributes. Don't project your own likes, dislikes or values ??onto others at will.

When interacting with others, think more empathically, be more understanding and tolerant, and be more united in differences. This not only respects others, but also makes your life easier and more peaceful.

2. Taking others too seriously

This situation is essentially a lack of self-confidence and assertiveness, caring too much about the evaluation and vision of others, and relying on others to evaluate oneself in everything. This gives you a sense of existence and value; when you are doubted or denied, you are prone to feel frustrated, deeply hit, or insecure. You often worry about gains and losses in other people's attitudes. In order to win the favor of others, you will even use various ways to please. cater.

After all, life is our own, and we don’t actually need to care too much about other people’s opinions. No matter how sincere you are, when you meet people who doubt you, you are a lie; no matter how simple you are, when you meet complex people, you are scheming; no matter how naive you are, when you meet real people, you are a joke... No matter how hard we try, we cannot make everyone happy. Therefore, all you need is to be the best version of yourself and don't care too much about other people's opinions; try to be with people you are comfortable with as much as possible. After all, living a relaxed life and being happy are more important than anything else.

Taking oneself too seriously is a kind of obsession, which is to magnify oneself too much.

Taking others too seriously is a kind of loss, and it is too extreme to deny yourself.

Be equal-minded and respectful. Only then can you get the respect you deserve, and only then can all things live in harmony.

Having a clearer understanding of yourself and others can lead to a more relaxed and transparent life.

When your heart is simple, the world will also be simple.