The child talked back and made fun of the whole family. Is it a good thing for children to talk back "smart"?

We should all have heard the view that children who talk back are smarter, think more actively and faster than other children, and will definitely have a future.

I can't help wondering, since when has quick thinking and quick response become a necessary condition for children to be excellent or not? Don't gentle children grow up to be outstanding?

If so, then why are we right? Modest gentleman, gentle as jade? What do you aspire to in that case?

Don't use it again? Smart, encouraging children? Talk back? View from a height or a distance

My uncle's youngest son is a child who likes to talk back, even to the point where he will talk back no matter what you say.

As soon as he learned to speak, the rebellious elements in his bones appeared. The first time I talked back to my grandfather, the old man wanted to turn off the lights and save electricity in order to save money. But the younger brother who was watching cartoons was unhappy and began to compete with grandpa for the light switch.

These two grandparents are really cute. A switch was pressed back and forth for more than a dozen times, and there was no competition. Grandpa, who has always been good-tempered, was a little annoyed and said, I have never seen such a difficult child like you. ? The younger brother immediately gave grandpa a sentence:? I've never met your annoying grandfather! ?

What puzzles me most about this incident is that talking back to the elders should be educated, but the family repeatedly mentioned it as a joke and said that my brother was really smart and could react immediately.

Into this? Smart? My brother's ability to talk back is getting stronger every day, and now even adults want to correct it, which is very difficult.

How should parents correctly guide a child who loves to talk back?

Talk back? I can really see the IQ and EQ level of children, but? Talk back? Maybe it's a big problem, once? Going? Talking back, accustomed to talking back, the cleverest and best children will not be likable, theirs? Excellent? I'm afraid it's a little difficult to convince everyone.

Therefore, how to guide our children correctly is very important:

1. First of all, we need to understand the reasons behind children's back talk.

There are many cases in which children talk back. Some children really don't like their parents' arrangement and want to protest through conviction.

Some children have gone out of the rebellious period, and it is normal for children at this stage to have resistance to any outside voice.

And some children, like my brother, are like that? Talking back is a skill? If this is the case, parents must be vigilant to prevent their children from forming habits, which is not conducive to their future growth and development.

2. Communicate with children on an equal footing and listen to their demands.

Most children talk back because they don't want to listen to their parents' advice. At this time, calm down and don't be carried away by the anger of the child talking back.

Let's sit down and talk to the children and ask them why they don't want it and why they don't want it. What they want and what they want to do. And make an agreement with your child that if you don't agree with your parents' decision in the future, don't talk back, you can discuss it directly with your parents, and we will respect your opinion.

Only in this way can we solve the problem from the root and effectively control the children's back talk.

3. Reduce the desire to control children and give them the greatest freedom within the permitted scope.

When children talk back, they usually have this voice:? Leave me alone! ?

At this time, ordinary parents will be furious. I gave birth to you and raised you, but you still won't let me take care of you. Did my hard work feed the dog?

In fact, I don't think it is necessary for famous parents to have unique ideas. Children are not our accessories, but they are unique beings with their own spirit and will, and we can't control and dominate them for a lifetime.

Therefore, when children talk back, parents should reflect on themselves and not be too controlling. Only by giving children proper free space can they grow up healthily.

It is more meaningful to teach children to talk well than to praise their cleverness.

Many parents will sigh more about their children's rich vocabulary and strong language skills when they hear their children talk back.

But in my opinion, it is precisely because children have such excellent language organization ability and quick thinking that our parents should teach them how to speak well, talk and express their true thoughts with positive emotions and attitudes.

Your own children, I think? Can talk? Must be better than? Talk back? Sounds more comfortable and proud!