How to treat the uninformed son-in-law who has been divorced for 9 years, and his wife kicked him out of the house?

Zhang Xiaoyong of Jiaozuo, Henan Province, married his wife for 2 1 year, and has two daughters and one son. This is a harmonious and beautiful life, but at the beginning of this year, happiness came to an abrupt end, and his wife asked him to move out without warning. At the same time, his wife gave him a divorce agreement, but Zhang Xiaoyong knew nothing about divorce.

Xiao Yong said that his wife told him that this was their divorce judgment in 2009, which stated the distribution of children and child support before 18 years old. When he got this agreement, he kept thinking about what happened in 2009. At that time, he had been working in other places, and he was sure that he had not received a subpoena from the court, nor had he received any phone calls about divorce, nor had he seen a divorce certificate with his wife.

Zhang Xiaoyong has repeatedly said that he and his wife have lived in peace for nine years, and the appearance of this agreement is like a bolt from the blue. He doesn't know why he has been divorced for nine years and his wife kicked him out of the house. Neighbors also said that Xiao Yong was a good man, had never heard of divorce between husband and wife, and did not believe that his wife could divorce unilaterally.

Seeing her husband, his wife, Xia Yun, was a little indifferent and bluntly said that they had been divorced for 9 years and were no longer husband and wife. Father-in-law Qin Laohan also said that his daughter and son-in-law had divorced and were unwilling to accept Zhang Xiaoyong, and he came up with a divorce agreement.

Zhang Xiaoyong retorted that he didn't know about the agreement. In 2009, the couple did have conflicts. At that time, only relatives and friends came to mediate the contradiction between themselves and their wives, and the wife did not talk to him about divorce, but also helped them mediate. They have made up. There is no divorce agreement at all.

Xia Yun said that when she divorced her husband, she hired a lawyer, but her husband never showed up, which led to their never meeting during the divorce, but the court summons was actually delivered to her husband. Xia Yun's sister and brother-in-law also said that in 2009, my sister did tell them about the divorce with her brother-in-law, and she also saw that her brother-in-law took a letter from the court, which should be a subpoena.

At the same time, the lawyer also said that the failure to receive the summons may be the case that the summons was not delivered. However, in this case, you can divorce by default. According to the civil judgment of Wuzhi County Court, the fact that they divorced was established. Looking at the divorce verdict, Xiao Yong recalled that a lawyer came to the house at that time, but it was only to mediate the contradiction between husband and wife. In his impression, the contradiction between husband and wife has long been reconciled. As everyone knows, it is really a divorce agreement.

Xiao Yong said that although it is now certain that she is really divorced, Xia Yun has lived with him as husband and wife for nine years. Why?

It turned out that the son-in-law Qin Laohan said that his son-in-law was driven away at that time, but because the son-in-law was so big, his father and daughter couldn't drive him away, and no one dared to drive him away. Xia Yun also said that in the nine years after her divorce, she and her father repeatedly persuaded Xiao Yong to leave this house, but Xiao Yong insisted on not leaving, so she lived with him for another nine years. As for cohabitation in Xiao Yong, there is no such thing. Xiao Yong is lying.

Xia Yun said that after the divorce, her husband sometimes lived in another room, sometimes outside the house and even on the roof. She didn't drive away her ex-husband because of years of mutual affection. Xiao Yong said that the three children still don't know her and his wife's marital status. In order to have a complete family again, they want to get back together with their wives.

Xia Yun said that she didn't want to get back together with her husband. He was irresponsible and didn't care about himself at all. I am sick, and my husband won't show it to her. When I have an abortion, my husband will go out to play. He's not human at all. Qin Laohan, the father-in-law, also said that before Xiao Yong divorced his daughter, he seldom took care of his family and children, and relatives even went to the door to mediate and advised him to take on what a man should do. But instead of changing, he even picked up some bad habits.

Xia Yun also said, I don't know when her husband learned to gamble, since then. It was because of her bad habits that she decided to divorce him. Xia Yun said that her husband had been working on a construction site before his divorce. At that time, his salary was barely enough to support a family of five, but after her husband learned to gamble, the family economy plummeted. Persuaded her husband many times, he not only did not change, but intensified.

In Xiao Yong's view, he is not a gambler in Xia Yun's mouth. However, the father-in-law Qin Laohan doesn't think so. He said that Xiao Yong borrowed money all day after he learned to gamble. The son-in-law didn't pay a penny to build a house at home, and finally borrowed 5000 yuan from the village to build it.

At this point, Xia Yun returned to the house and took out an iou. This IOU shows that the time is 20 16 and the loan amount is 3000 yuan. Xia Yun said that she didn't even know she had this debt, and others didn't know it until they found a family to repay it. If the ex-husband didn't get into the habit of gambling, the family wouldn't live by borrowing money. Xiao Yong explained that he lent money to pay his daughter's tuition.

The mediator was thrilled when he learned that the children's tuition had to be paid by Xiao Yong. The mediator said that the money earned is not proportional to the money gambled. If you open a gambling card and lose the gambling, money will not think of buying clothes for your wife and children. After mediation, Zhang Xiaoyong realized his mistake and promised his wife and father-in-law that he would never gamble again. However, his wife, Xia Yun, and his father-in-law, Qin Laohan, said that they had completely lost confidence in Xiao Yong and would not accept Xiao Yong any more.

The door-to-door son-in-law is definitely not a shield without responsibility. On the contrary, as a door-to-door son-in-law, you must live with backbone, dignity and indomitable spirit in order to support a family. When Zhang Xiaoyong was young, he had no sense of responsibility, refused to face problems, got divorced, and said he didn't know the law. Such a person seems to have no saving value. However, it is not too late for the prodigal son to return. I hope Zhang Xiaoyong can repent and support his family with dignity. Then, in social life, we should also shoulder our responsibilities, be a responsible person, and don't let bad habits ruin our family and life.

So, do you think the wife and father-in-law should give Zhang Xiaoyong another chance?