Your parents don't want you anymore.

In the process of parents educating their children, parents may say to their children in order to let them finish one thing. If you don't finish it, we won't want you.

This sentence of parents seems like a joke, but it may make children feel that it is an emotional blackmail, because parents are forcing their children to do things they don't like.

-Introduction

Xiaoli will try to make naughty children listen to her, so she takes the method of scaring them. For example, if children don't want to do their homework, Xiaoli will tell them that if you don't do your homework, mom won't want you.

Xiaoli went to do her homework as soon as the child spoke, for fear that her mother would throw herself away. Xiaoli sees that this effect seems to be very good, so she will often use this kind of words that don't want children to let the children listen to themselves.

But suddenly one day, the child broke out on his own. He said to Xiaoli, why do you keep saying that you don't want me, don't want me, don't want me, isn't it your own child? Don't you love me at all?

Xiao Li looked at his children and suddenly felt so sad that he seemed to have done something wrong. In fact, Xiaoli's practice is an emotional kidnapping. If she uses this practice for a long time, it will hurt the feelings between parents and children.

Nowadays, many people think that emotional blackmail should only make children suffer, but why should parents suffer? In fact, not only parents will be emotionally blackmailed, but children may also be emotionally blackmailed.

For example, if parents spend less time with their children, children will seize this feature and tell their parents. Parents give themselves too little company and feel lonely. If the child says this, the parents will have a strong sense of self-blame, and then he may have no bottom line to satisfy the child's wishes.

For children, parents' emotional blackmail will have a great adverse impact on their physical and mental health. So the child is also a victim.

1. Children may be depressed.

When parents threaten their children with emotional blackmail for a long time, children may do things they don't want to do. Children may not want to do these things. When a person does something he doesn't want for a long time, he may be unhappy, which may eventually lead to inner depression. Everyone doesn't like others threatening themselves, so parents had better use this method less.

2. Make children feel helpless

Emotional blackmail has a great influence on children. For example, parents say that their children didn't do well in the exam, or their homework was a mess, and then tell them these things with emotion. Children may feel helpless and may feel that they can't do anything well.

In his mind, he may think that he is ashamed of his parents. Under such a feeling of self-blame and helplessness, children may lose interest in doing anything and think that they will definitely fail.

1. Let go of your hand and let your child release his nature.

In the process of children's growth, parents should not help their children decide things too much, even if they think their decisions are more rational. Children always leave home, parents and society, so parents should give their children more free space in the process of their growth and let them give full play to themselves.

Under the control of parents' emotional blackmail, children will only become ordinary people with parents' ideas and no ideas of their own.

2. Communicate with children more.

Parents are good to their children, and children must know, but children don't like it. What do we do and why children don't like it? Parents must find out why.

So parents can communicate with their children more. Parents can learn more about their children through conversation, and then discover some things that children like to do, so that their children can develop further.

When parents know their children's preferences, they may do things from the perspective of their children's preferences, so the probability of emotional blackmail will be much smaller.

Educating children is never an easy task, so it is extremely undesirable for parents to learn how to live in harmony with their children and blindly use emotional blackmail to make their children obey. Parents are the closest people to their children, so parents can't do things that hurt their children.

Although your words are good for children, you should not let them get hurt. Children are gifts from parents, so parents should cherish them and should not hurt them. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the way of communication with their children, and don't let their seemingly joking words hurt their children's hearts.