The real meaning of quarrel

When I saw this topic, I remembered an article written by Zhai the other day. The article said: Recently, there has been an extremely picky person. They like to argue and focus on making you uncomfortable. These people have a resounding name: bar essence. As a new species after the founding of the People's Republic of China, "lever essence" is proficient in fancy methods such as opening, hiding, horizontal bar and parallel bars, giving them a topic that can pry up the whole earth.

Nothing you say is right.

This badger has two catchphrases: "It's not like this" and "Yes, it is". This type of herdsman, when you ask TA why he said this, TA may not be able to answer, but he just habitually refutes others, and he may not realize it. Why do such people like to argue? There is only one answer. The "important people" who had a far-reaching influence on TA in the process of growing up naturally got used to talking to TA in this way.

"One sentence can accurately destroy the atmosphere"

Some people, who are gifted and extremely clever, are born with a very high talent for destroying the atmosphere, and can accurately "break" the steaming chat atmosphere with one sentence every time. Why do such people like to argue? Maybe it's because my emotional intelligence is not high and I don't know how to express my thoughts and feelings. It may also be that I hope to attract everyone's "attention" in this way and hope to get the attention of others.

"Cold ice and rain pour on you" type

This kind of lever essence is a refrigeration expert in the new era, and can always end the whole topic with suffocating operation when everything is suitable and inappropriate. For example, A: I saw an interesting idea in an article last time. That idea is all made up. A: There are many interesting expression packs in that article. B: Those expression packs are definitely stolen. This type of person is good at using a negative and questioning sentence, just like cold water falling from the sky, which has completely ruined your interest in chatting. Why do such people like to argue? This is TA's "projection" to herself, and her denial and questioning are perfectly reflected in the dialogue with others.

No matter what kind of wrangling, it is actually one of the forms of language violence, which often makes people speechless, helpless and embarrassed. Quarrel in front of people who know you may not affect your feelings, but in some interpersonal communication processes, it will make you take fewer detours.