Can reward yourself! Why not wait for someone else to reward you?

Many people have a strong curiosity about Pandora's Box. The fundamental reason is that they expect unexpected surprises. This kind of surprise may be unexpected, or it may be my dream, but in the end there is only one, which is a gift and surprise given by others, not won by myself.

Whether Pandora or Aladdin's magic lamp, people are very good sustenance, hoping to get an extra reward and gift, but few people think, why don't they make surprises, but others want to give them?

Part 1, when people reach middle age, they should be able to reward themselves without waiting for others to reward them!

When I was young, I said that if you want sugar, you'd better fight for it yourself, not ask for it. After all, what you want on your own initiative and what others want to pay are two different things, totally different in nature.

Any reward is actually like this. What you create on your own initiative can show your value. What others pay or pay is not as valuable as what you earn.

Childhood dreams, that's because they have no ability to realize; And teenagers' eyes may be far from their goals. But when people reach middle age, they should have the ability and conditions to dream and interpret dreams. Instead of waiting for others to reward yourself, it is better to reward yourself. This is their own life.

The second part,

When people reach middle age, they don't have to expect too much from others. Everyone is busy.

When people were on a business trip, their cars suddenly broke down unexpectedly and broke down somewhere. What ordinary people think must be to filter out all the people they can come into contact with and see how to choose to minimize the cost.

The first plan that most people think of is to call their friends who have cars and ask them to drive to help and take them to the repair shop, because it can save money. Thought of here, the phone is connected, but my friend said that other things can't be delayed now, and it needs to be late. At this time, there are others who can ask for help, or directly contact the repair shop to solve it nearby.

But this man still made some phone calls, but unfortunately others were too busy to come for a while. Unconsciously, after a few hours, things still haven't been solved.

The solution is obvious. If this person had called the trailer service of the repair shop earlier, he might not have wasted a few hours, but everyone has encountered difficulties and asked others for help. Inertial thinking? The result was a waste of time and nothing.

The lesson for people is that,

When people reach middle age, don't expect too much of others. They always want to ask others for help. You know, everyone is very busy, and no one has to give everything.

The third part,

Only by knowing how to reward yourself can you live the highest life.

Many people like to make fun of Andy Lau, saying that he is not as good as Tony Leung Chiu Wai in acting, Jacky Cheung in singing, Aaron Kwok in dancing, handsome as dawn, and naturally not as good as Stephen Chow in funny talent. It seems that this artist who can't do anything well is in an embarrassing situation and his development is limited.

However, with more than 30 years of acting career and enduring popularity, few people in the entertainment circle can do it. Even Tony Leung Chiu Wai and Stephen Chow have faded out of the entertainment circle, and Andy Lau is still very active, which is worth pondering.

If Andy Lau didn't know how to reward himself when he was acting and singing in his early years, and waited for others to affirm him, maybe today's artists' palace wouldn't have the name Andy Lau, and people wouldn't respect Andy Lau so much.

Although it is difficult for ordinary people to achieve Andy Lau's achievements, one thing can be explained: when people reach middle age, they can only live the highest life if they know how to reward themselves. People who are denied by others will make themselves collapse, will not motivate themselves, and will become mediocre.

The fourth part,

Not many people care about you, but you have to care about yourself.

As the saying goes:

Only you know your stomachache.

. The person who knows you best can't know your warmth and coldness and all your worries. Since there are not so many choices to care about you, you don't have to think so much.

When you reach middle age, take care of yourself, don't let yourself be wronged, you can adjust your emotions and control your state at any time, don't fall into the eyes of others, and don't get lost in laissez-faire.

Others can ignore your feelings and think that you are not important. As long as you can see yourself clearly, it is worth your attention.

Conclusion:

Time is a wonderful force, and experience is often the best product of time and thought. People who have experienced the passage of time and the changes of the world often have many things to change their original plans and goals invisibly.

Every journey in life has its unique talent and cost. When people reach middle age, they will begin to understand more, gradually understand, accept the unchangeable results and continue to explore the unknown future. After all, life is still halfway, and many results are still unknown.