Requesting a story about a child who is far away from home and unable to live.

Not long ago, a piece of news attracted people’s attention. It was about a mother who traveled all the way from her hometown to Beijing to wash clothes for her son who was studying for a Ph.D. in Beijing. According to the mother, her 30-year-old son still can’t even scramble eggs.

The Doctor cannot scramble eggs. This is of course just a dramatic case, but it is like a prism placed under the sun, clearly reflecting many social problems.

Today, in the context of all workers sharing the joy of the festival, and when the hymn of labor is sung over and over again, what thoughts does this case that shows the lack of the simplest form of labor bring to us? And what about inspiration?

Overwhelming love often hurts

Zhang Yuanjiu (civil servant)

This incident reminds me of a mother’s complaint. Her son, who had just entered college, called her from school and asked her how to do laundry. She was busy at the time and just said, "Sprinkle some washing powder on the clothes and wash them with water." Because her son had never washed clothes at home, the mother was worried the next day and called her son to ask how the clothes were washed. The son said that the clothes were washed but could not be worn because there were traces of washing powder left behind. The mother asked, have all parts been rubbed? How many times have you washed it with water? The son said aggrievedly, you didn’t say to rub it, but to wash it with water!

In recent years, similar news is not uncommon, such as "College students can't do laundry and their mothers send wontons on planes", "'Freshman' girls can't do laundry and their mothers have no choice but to be 'nannies'", etc. . After reading it, I often feel sad, how pitiful are the hearts of parents all over the world!

But pitiful and pitiful, these mothers are also pathetic, because they do not know what true love for their children is. Think about it, today the child is by your side and you can take care of him in all aspects. Tomorrow, if your child goes to college in a different place, you can occasionally spend a month's salary on a "fly" to deliver a bowl of wontons. But if he wants to study abroad again after graduation, will he still have to go across the ocean to accompany him? If you are in poor health, do you still have to bake a big cake and put it around your child's neck like the joke says?

But in real life, there are not a few such mothers. Watching her mother sweating from doing laundry, cooking, and cleaning the house, the child wanted to help, but what he heard was an irresistible refusal, "Go read your book, it's none of your business here." Reading well is better than anything else”, “This is not your job”! These mothers do not understand that in this repeated care and rejection, the children miss the opportunity to learn basic life skills, which invisibly sets up obstacles for their independent lives in the future.

Motherly love is undoubtedly great, but all-encompassing love often turns into harm.

Don’t be a “waste product”, let alone a “dangerous product”

Zhao Jie (IT industry employee)

The doctor’s story reminds me of the child prodigy Wei Yongkang was admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences' master's and doctoral program when he was only 17 years old. Unfortunately, because he could not take care of himself in college, he received a "notice of withdrawal" last year and was asked to drop out of school.

This classmate Wei is quite smart. He knew a thousand words at the age of 2, completed junior high school courses at the age of 4, and went to college at the age of 13. But why was he dropped out of the Chinese Academy of Sciences when he arrived? Of course it's not that his IQ is not high enough, but that his abilities are too "low" in some aspects. When this "little prodigy" was in his third year of high school, he had to be fed by his mother. After he went to the University of Science and Technology of China to study alone, his instructor had to remind him even if he needed to put on extra clothes when the weather got cold. He didn't even know that the exam time had been changed, and the school had no choice but to persuade him to go back. The family will "cultivate" for another two years.

After returning home, Xiao Wei was in a mood at first, but he soon figured it out as he was smart. Not only did he learn to take care of himself, he also took the initiative to take care of his father, who was paralyzed due to illness, and made up for the basics of life. subjects.

If Xiao Wei cannot take care of himself at the age of 17, his parents are responsible; the doctor who is 30 years old and his mother in her sixties came to Beijing all the way to scramble eggs and wash them for herself regardless of the cost. Two pieces of clothing, I'm afraid the so-called "examination-oriented education" and tutoring methods can't excuse him.

I remember a famous dialogue in the TV series "Sixteen Years Old": Students who do not study well are "defective products", poor health is "waste", and students with poor moral character are "dangerous products" ". Xiao Wei doesn't know how to take care of himself. We can understand it as being unable to reasonably manage his own food, clothing, housing and transportation, which is enough to threaten his health. He was once considered a "waste" lacking the ability to survive. What about Mr. Doctor who can’t scramble eggs? His learning ability isn't such that he can't learn to cook or do laundry no matter what, right? At this young age, if you have to do so much for your mother just to do some housework, is this considered a "dangerous product" with defective moral character?

We praise knowledge and admire knowledgeable people, but we sincerely hope that these wise minds will not become "waste", let alone "dangerous goods".

Education that cannot ignore the meaning of life

Li Jia (lecturer)

Boiling noodles and scrambled eggs are not as difficult as walking a tightrope. It is not as intellectually rich as Han Chuang who has studied hard for more than ten years and put on a doctorate hat. Therefore, scrambled eggs and housework are things that this doctor should learn no matter what. In fact, the crux of the problem is that in this doctor's mind, whether he can scramble eggs is not a big deal.

The case of the doctor not being able to scramble eggs actually reflects people's neglect of the meaning of life education in modern education and the imperfection of educational concepts. Our education often pays more attention to the imparting of knowledge and technology, but ignores the pursuit of the meaning of life. Although the development of society requires more talents with a large amount of knowledge and advanced skills, this educational trend does help to cultivate such talents and directly promotes the progress of society. However, there are also many hidden worries behind it. , that is, it is easy to cultivate imperfect "talents" with high IQ and low ability, forming a biased social structure.

In fact, it is very important for both highly educated people and ordinary members of society to know some basic life skills and appreciate the true meaning of life. For society as a whole, there is also a need for more "sound" members of society.

Nowadays, many people do some "housework" by themselves after busy work, and regard them as an important part of their lives and a way to enjoy the fun of life. Perhaps this is the beginning of a new understanding of the meaning of life.

"Malnutrition" caused by abnormal competition

Zhang Zhida (retired teacher)

Our children are born almost from the time they are still conceived in the mother's belly It has entered a state of fierce competition.

Many mothers, even if they have no musical ability, will listen to music over and over again after pregnancy to provide prenatal education for the fetus; as soon as the child is born, there will immediately be a learning plan for babies aged 0-2 years waiting for him; The next step is to choose a kindergarten; squeeze into a good primary school; compete for a key middle school; compete for a prestigious university; and then compete to get into a graduate school or Ph.D....

Almost all of these competitions they are unconsciously involved in are Heroes are judged based on their academic performance. "Achievements are the lifeblood of students." Academic performance has often become the standard by which people measure "good students" and "poor students", and even directly affects their employment competition after they leave school.

Living in such a fiercely competitive environment, no matter whether you have a doctorate or a master's degree, how can you have time to take care of daily chores such as scrambled eggs? What's more, most of today's children are only children. They are the apple of their parents' eyes. They are afraid of melting when they are held in their mouths, and they are afraid of falling when they are held in their hands. They need to be carefully cared for and given a hundredfold care. As long as the child's academic performance is good and his grades are high, there is no need to worry about anything else. Make sure that he can reach out for clothes and open his mouth for food, and everything will be arranged properly.

Because of over-indulgence of children and misunderstanding of the cognition of maturity, many children have never touched a broom or touched a rag at home, and they do not know whether to put oil or vegetables first when cooking, or even He does not even have the most basic ability to take care of himself, and once he survives independently away from his parents, this "malnutrition" in ability will be fully exposed.

And the "talent" selected after several fierce "competitions" is likely to be a vulnerable greenhouse flower.

This doctor is too lazy

Xia Shang (freelancer)

As far as I know, most doctors can scramble eggs. Not only can he cook ordinary scrambled eggs with low technical content, but he can also cook scrambled eggs with tomatoes, which is relatively difficult.

Many people believe that the fact that a 30-year-old Ph.D. can’t scramble eggs is a problem with family education, the parents’ blind doting and one-sided education methods, which has led to many children only knowing how to “read only the books of sages.” , "When you have clothes, you can stretch out your hands, and when you have food, you can open your mouth"; at the same time, this is also a serious problem in the public education system. It is the wave of the baton of the college entrance examination that allows doctors to "cook far away".

Actually, I think that in addition to these complex reasons with a high level of understanding, there is also a very simple reason, that is, this doctorate man is too lazy.

Why do you say that? First of all, it’s not like he can’t learn to scramble eggs. Think about it, he has passed such a difficult doctoral exam, but he still can’t handle a small egg? Secondly, we cannot say that his hands-on ability is poor. I have some friends with master's degrees and doctorates. From elementary school to the present, they have never scrambled eggs or washed clothes, but there are many people who have done great experiments. Therefore, laziness is a problem for him.

Then again, smart people often have the lazy characteristic of "not working hard", but not everyone can be as "lucky" as our protagonist, who has a caring and caring person. His "good" mother can travel all the way to school to take care of him.

However, don’t forget that his mother can take care of him for a while, but she cannot take care of him for the rest of his life.

Quality education, don’t become a “lost beauty”

Wang Kuan (employee of a foreign company)

Cultivating children’s hands-on ability should start from an early age. This is what we Everyone understands the truth. But in fact, when children are very young, society, schools, and parents put the focus of training on academic performance, which inevitably puts housework and improving hands-on skills as secondary priorities. Position, over time, even a place no longer exists.

Advocating "moral, intellectual, physical, aesthetic, and labor" and advocating quality education are all aimed at cultivating all-round development talents. But in fact, most people value intellectual education more. In the final analysis The focus is still on exam-oriented education.

Many parents think they are familiar with the current education system and adhere to the principle that "achievement is the last word". As long as their children study hard, they can help with anything. As a result, the children's sight of observing and comprehending life was blocked. They "only read the books of sages and did not hear anything outside the window." The era, the world, and even many scenes in family life are thus hastily missed.

When according to the ideals of parents, "talents" are "produced" one after another who are good at mathematics, physics and chemistry, but have low moral index, poor psychological endurance, do not understand life, and do not know how to live. , comprehensive development and quality education can only become "lost beauty".

"People-oriented" is a word that is often mentioned. In the education system, if society and families implement these four words and truly consider the needs of all-round talents in the future society, of course it will be There will no longer be the strange thing today where the old mother travels thousands of miles to wash and cook for the doctor's son.

An exaggerated hypothesis

Zu Wei (Master's student)

A year ago, like this guy with a doctorate, I couldn't scramble eggs.

Of course, you can’t blame me entirely, because since I was a child, I have never had the opportunity to hold a spoon. Before I went to college, my parents arranged all my food, clothing, housing and transportation every day, so I didn’t have to worry about it at all. After I went to college, I lived on campus, went to the cafeteria when I was hungry, and had a laundry room to take care of dirty clothes.

Later I met my girlfriend, and she had higher demands on me than my mother did on me, and she told me to learn how to cook good food. So, under her "coercion and inducement", I learned, pondered and operated, and finally successfully learned a series of home-cooked dishes represented by scrambled eggs. It is no exaggeration to say that the tomato scrambled eggs I make now are more delicious than those made by my mother, and the process of cooking also allows me to experience the joy of housework that I have never felt before.

Based on my personal experience, the problem with this doctor is that he has missed the opportunity to learn housework for a long time, or he has never thought about trying it. It's no wonder that housework seems too "mundane" compared with the much-respected mental work. Although working is beautiful, cleaning the yard every day and facing the bottles and jars of firewood, rice, oil and salt will last for a long time, and I will become tired of aesthetics, and I will lose interest in trying to do housework.

But then again, apart from enjoying the joy of labor, is there no reason why people must learn to cook, sew, and clean? I’ve heard the argument that it’s no big deal if a doctor can’t scramble eggs, because the division of labor in society is so detailed. Shops and restaurants of all sizes are open in full swing. Laundries, sewing shops, and repair workshops are all available. All housework can be done by others.

Is this really the case? Let’s make a somewhat exaggerated assumption: One night, a man was so hungry that his stomach ached and he ran into the kitchen without even a grain of rice. If you want to buy something, the store has already closed. With one last glimmer of hope, I opened the refrigerator and found only two eggs lying inside. Surprised, then disappointed, because he still didn't know how to turn them from raw to cooked.