Experience of a 60-year-old woman: The man who accompanied you to the old age will not leave you at home. Why?

Jung, a psychologist, once said: loneliness does not come from no one around, but from a person's inability to communicate his most important feelings with others.

There is a phenomenon between many couples now. One party regards the other party as private property, only wants to possess it, and has no empathy.

Su Ping married her ex-husband in her early twenties. At that time, she was still young and all her experiences came from the older generation. At that time, the elders told her that if you want to be happy, you can't play a small temper. As long as men don't cheat or hit people, they have to endure everything else. Good days are tolerable. When people are old, they will feel distressed.

At that time, Su Ping thought there was no problem with the old man's words, and they were all obtained during the day, so she did as they said.

Taking care of her husband and children, taking care of them at home and abroad, they were unhappy at first, but Su Ping never complained. She accompanied him through the most bitter days.

When your life is not smooth, your husband always says that he will make it up to her and take her where she wants to go. Later, things got better. She is really rich and bought a lot of things that she couldn't afford at first, but her husband is even harder to see.

If he used to be busy making them live a better life, now he is busy communicating.

He has countless friends to defend. He is what they call a down-to-earth and diligent person. Occasionally, my husband and I go to parties. Many people say that Su Ping is lucky to have such a good husband. However, Su Ping lived well among his people and divorced her husband after her children got married.

Because from marriage to divorce, her husband never goes out with her except when necessary, and sometimes Su Ping even invites him to go for a walk in the park, but he refuses her.

She tried to ask him out before, but after being rejected several times, she never mentioned it again, and there was no hope for him.

Su Ping, who has been married for nearly 30 years, is divorced. Everyone said she was stupid. In fact, she just wants to live for herself once.

After the divorce, she didn't want to remarry, but she met her current husband, who would put everything above herself.

Divorce in old age is a joke, and remarriage in old age is gossip. But Su Ping didn't take it seriously, because after remarriage, she didn't know what real life was like, and she didn't understand why the person on her pillow was called an old partner.

As long as he leaves home, he will take her with him everywhere. Will take her to a friend's party, will hold her hand and go out together. At first, Su Ping asked him if it was good to go alone, but he said there was nothing wrong with it. You are my wife. I should take you out. Only those who speak ill have problems.

A word warmed Su Ping's heart, and also warmed her cold heart for thirty years. She is very regretful and satisfied. She regrets that she didn't meet her real partner until she was 60, and she is satisfied that she finally met the right person.

Just spend enough money. Compared with the amount of money, having a lover around is really happy. In fact, killing intimacy is not a matter of time, but the expectation of the other party.

Your partner is not your property, nor is it a nanny who should be by your side. You know, a person who loves you will never be reluctant to isolate you.

Although every couple has their own way of getting along, only some couples laugh together, while others give unilaterally. Recently, the variety show "Happiness Trio", which was frequently searched, not only made netizens feel sad for the couple's daily life, but also made them envy the couple's quarrel and began to feel sorry for Qian's wife.

At that time, 19-year-old Bai Huiming fell in love with Yu Qian, ten years older than himself, and launched a fierce pursuit. Even if her parents refused, she finally won the beauty under Yu Qian's repeated door-to-door guarantee.

After 20 years of marriage, everyone thinks that Yu Qian, the best woman in the opposite sex, is an attractive woman. He is considerate to everyone around him and must be better for her at home.

In fact, Yu Qian, a cross talk stage genius, is not only a good partner in mouth, but also a good Platini in Meng's mind. He is an excellent and considerate person in many people's hearts. Even for He Youjun, a young couple in Ming Xi who met for the first time, he can think that young people can't cook and won't give a bowl of noodles. But he always ignores and does not care about his wife.

In the program, Sun Yue and Meng Tanghe from Deyun Society are playing in the village, while Yu Qian and Wu Jing invite everyone out to play. However, when Jason Wu came to the back hill with his wife by the hand, Yu Qian and his apprentice went out happily. Leave a message to his wife before leaving: "Don't forget to put the mushrooms in 50-60 degrees water to melt the meat."

Before that, Bai Huiming always thought that Yu Qian would definitely take her, but her husband left without asking.

Everyone went out to play, leaving her to work at home alone. In the evening, the husband came home happily and said nothing to his wife. Later, everyone found that Bai Huiming was in a bad mood, but Yu Qian didn't say a word, as if he never knew that his wife was unhappy.

However, with all the money, who can take care of everyone and not find him to change wives?

This conscious neglect is not unique.

When they went out to travel only a few times, Bai Huiming repeatedly revealed to Yu Qian that he wanted to hold hands. However, as a pillow man for 20 years, he only cares about taking his own beautiful photos. Even when Bai Huiming wanted to take a picture and ask for help, he didn't seem to see it.

Yu Qian's life. All relationships are in the heart, but the relationship between husband and wife seems to be in a "vacuum" state. He seems to have forgotten what he said when he married his wife and her help when he was frustrated. His career was really successful, but when he left home, he left his wife at home.

Bai Huiming could not feel her husband's neglect. Speaking of each other, her words always reveal complaints and helplessness.

She said: My husband hardly asks questions when he goes out, and she will understand him.

I don't want to ask, I just want to know. When disappointment becomes a habit in feelings, there is no expectation. In fact, all understanding is the product of self-encouragement and deception under extreme disappointment.

He left her and tortured her heart.

Perhaps in many people's minds, life is not perfect. Yu Qian is a rare "good man" because he has neither bad habits nor infidelity, and even makes money to cook. However, if women are satisfied, then men will always stay out of marriage, always ignoring the value of women and thinking that women should stay at home and be good wives and mothers.

You know, the unfairness of marriage will be poked. Two people are not together to change themselves and give in to each other, nor are they just being themselves in the dribs and drabs of life.

Marriage is not the end, but the beginning. In fact, there are really not so many "matches made in heaven" in marriage. All the tacit understanding of intimate relationship is obtained overnight, and more comes from heartfelt love and care.

Marriage does not need a "left-behind" partner, and one person does not need to watch another person's back go away. The combination of two people is that men and women join hands, that is, two people go out hand in hand, tell the other half that I am here and tell others that I love.