Don't give a bride price to marry a simple and honest poor boy. I didn't expect it to be a treasure, and I was extremely happy after marriage. what do you think?

Frankly speaking, I think my father knows nothing about love.

My father is now working as a technician in a construction site. When he was young, his life experience was probably tragic: he was the youngest in the family, with four sisters and two brothers; The second sister had a high fever when she was a child and became a fool. She died before she was thirty. My father lost his mother at the age of five and was brought up by two older brothers and two older sisters.

My father said that he never had an exact impression of his mother in his life. The only time he remembers is when two sisters suddenly cried and told him that their mother had passed away.

"At that time, I was less than five years old and didn't understand what death meant. Just hugged by your elder sister-in-law, followed by a group of adults, from home to the village entrance. People were crying all the way, and the trumpeters were beating gongs and drums. Your elder sister-in-law handed me two trees to put in that pit. Just remember these. " My dad said.

When I grew up, I went to the cemetery to sweep the grave. Two seedlings have grown into towering trees, which are particularly conspicuous in a desolate cemetery.

My dad said that his biggest regret when he was a child was that he was hit on the head with a hoe, and he still left a big scar. At that time, he went to another field to steal sweet potatoes. After eating, he fell asleep in the field, and a hoe almost killed him. Father graduated from high school, but not ordinary high school, but vocational high school.

He is too stupid to know anything about mathematics. He didn't even touch the line twice in the exam. At that time, his second brother sent him to Wang Jiaqiao to attend a vocational high school, where he studied agriculture and forestry technology. After coming back two years, he began to go home to farm, which is really the application of science and technology.

After graduating from vocational high school, my father stayed at home, carrying water, kneading dough, herding cattle and farming. A year later, when my father turned eighteen, the army came down to recruit. That year, he was the only one in the village. My dad said that working in the army is definitely better than working outside, and he has developed a good hand, so it is not a problem to be chief of staff in the future.

But he didn't join the army in the end, because his grandfather was paralyzed and several brothers and sisters were married, so it naturally fell to my father to take care of his old father.

"I really want to go out for a trip, but your grandfather is paralyzed in bed, and no one will take care of your grandfather when I am gone." My dad said.

I have read my dad's long-cherished diary, which contains such a passage:

"It is my dream to travel, but how can I bear to see my biological father lying in bed unattended?"

Two years later, my grandfather died of illness. At this time, my father was in his early twenties, and it became fashionable to go out to work, but my father stayed at home. He is too proud to leave. As soon as the uncles and aunts discussed it, it was time to marry him.

2

It's my mother's turn to play. In fact, my parents have been classmates since childhood and have been at the same table for several years. My mother is one year older than my father and goes to school one year later. She is very thin and has played with her second brother since she was a child.

My mother went to kindergarten. In that kindergarten, my grandma and grandpa are in charge of lectures. My grandmother is in a drama class, and my grandfather has a junior high school diploma and works as an accountant. They are all cultured people.

But my mother never attends class seriously and is often late. Anyway, she is at home in the yard. She often sleeps until half past ten before rubbing her eyes. Grandma doesn't scold her because she is such a girl.

My big uncle and my second uncle also spoil her. After all, this is the only sister: once the three of them went to the street to pick up dung, my mother found five cents on the road, and she shouted happily that five cents more could buy a box of jelly beans! As a result, on the way back, my uncle pretended to throw a nickel and asked my mother to pick it up quickly. That was their relationship at that time.

My mother was a tomboy then. She doesn't like reading those greasy love novels. She likes reading martial arts books. In short, there are many.

My mother not only likes watching martial arts, but also practices it. When she was young, she could do many tricks, such as boxing, golden rooster independence, somersault, handstand, climbing over the wall ... climbing over the wall means that a person is propped up below, and the person behind spits on his hand and jumps directly onto the wall. What are you doing on the wall? Stealing apricots and hawthorn.

The origin of my mother and my father is here. There were two hawthorn trees in my house at that time. One is in the yard, the other is against the wall, and the other is out of the courtyard wall. It is so bright red that many people stole it, including my mother.

Once, she tried to fly to the wall by herself, reached the courtyard wall and met my father. My dad froze-he was holding a pot and didn't know what to do. But my mother is not embarrassed at all. She is all classmates. She said, "Wang Haisheng, you just got up!"

Father didn't answer, and mother said, "Wang Haisheng, have some of your hawthorn."

My father still didn't speak, and he moved with his head down. My mother said, "If you don't speak, it means you agree. I will eat at your house! " "

"no! You are stealing. " This time my father spoke, and he looked up at my mother, his hand shaking a little.

"Look at your promise. Don't go, don't go. See you at school tomorrow! " My mother came home from the wall with three hawthorns in her hand, red and big. I almost fell when I ran back.

After marriage, those children often come to my house to steal hawthorn. At that time, there was a big hole in the wall of my house, and those children could easily step on a brick. Hawthorn has been pulled so much that even the branches are bald. When my mother saw it, she called them. Later, they got smart and stole it while my mother was taking a lunch break.

My dad worked on the construction site for the first time, and he came back with 5 thousand yuan a season. He asked my mother what she wished for. Make it up for you. My mother said, yes, it really needs mending. You mend that courtyard wall first, others can't steal our hawthorn!

My mother is very fashionable, and her hairstyle is developing towards a "cool" mode. I have seen photos of her when she was young: short hair, wearing a black hat with a row of English letters hanging on it; Wearing a worn-out baseball jacket and jeans, she just wore a hole, and now she is a serious hip-hop girl.

My mother can also sing. At that time, few girls couldn't hum two paragraphs. In addition, my grandmother was working in the Henan Opera Troupe in the village, playing the famous female No.1, which naturally attracted her attention. She knows a lot. The old version of Mulan was led by Mu, and the new version was Liu Dage's Speech and Chaoyanggou. Henan opera often sings a kind of kindness and simplicity, which is very suitable for my mother.

But now she doesn't sing much. Now she bought a subwoofer with the people in the village and danced square dance on the main road every day, becoming a veritable aunt!

three

My parents' life experiences are basically finished. As you can see, my father and my mother were not equal at that time.

How did my dad catch up with my mom? Actually, my dad never chased my mom. My dad is an idiot, and in the words of now, he is a dead otaku and a straight man of steel. How strong is he?

Once the head teacher called the roll and saw that the seat next to my father was empty. The head teacher was a little old and couldn't remember his name, so he asked him:

"Wang Haisheng, who is next to you? Why didn't you come? "

What a simple thing you said, but my father stood up and said nothing. Of course, he can't remember the name of his deskmate. He is embarrassed to say it because his deskmate is a woman. The head teacher asked him for ten minutes that day, but my dad didn't say a word. The head teacher kicked him out in a rage.

"Go outside and talk to the air!"

So I can't figure out what my mother sees in my father. I asked my mom what you saw in my dad.

My mom said my dad was different, and I was right after thinking about it: my mom is the most special among girls, but what about my dad? He is the most special of the boys. It's different. I like it differently. Don't say it's a good match. I asked what else, and my mother thought about it and said, does it count?

"At that time, your father was bored and the whole class was friends. That friend's name is dog hair, and your father writes well. He admires your father very much. "

"Your dad's math is not good. Once the teacher assigned homework, school was almost over and your dad didn't finish it. He was sweating like a pen. The dog saw it and wanted your father to copy his homework. "

Your father didn't speak, but he was still busy writing questions. Dog hair tried to make your father copy his homework again and again, but later he couldn't, so he threw it on your father's desk. Unexpectedly, this move angered your father. He stood up and threw away the dog hair homework.

"I said not to copy is not to copy!"

I laughed after listening, and told my mother that it made your heart beat. My mother said that at that time, unlike now, no one was in a hurry to fall in love, and girls were afraid to stay in class alone. Let me go in first when you come.

"Another time, your dad was honest!" My mother patted the sole of the shoe and suddenly remembered this paragraph.

"At that time, there was a personal nickname in our class called Pang San, with a fat face and a big belly, a tiger meat, a cross face and a younger brother. Your father is the only one who doesn't hang out with them. What Pang San likes to do best is to make trouble. He is a typical thorn in the side, and often revolves around your father.

"I've always thought that your dad is quite unintelligent, so high, I dare not kick him. As a result, one day, I was deeply impressed: Pang San made a little gesture in front of your father, and your father wrote a note and ignored him. Pang San felt that he had figured out your father's temper, so he cheekily dumped a sentence' No girl'. When your father heard this, he was in a hurry. He got up and punched Pang San on the ground! "

My mother said that Pang San was badly beaten, and her face was swollen with a big bag, which disappeared after several days. From then on, the whole class got to know my dad again, and everyone was very polite to him, including her. My dad said, be a man with principles, a bottom line, patience, but once you exceed that bottom line, you have to work hard! So I know from now on that my dad's bottom line is the dignity of the person he loves.

My mother generally likes my father's righteousness and dignity. What does my father like about my mother? I asked my dad that he couldn't make a useful sentence with this wooden bottle for a long time. I have to ask my mother again. My mother said that your father doesn't like me, and your father likes Banhua!

Banhua and my mother are good friends. At that time, almost all the boys in the class had a crush on Ban Hua. My mother once asked Ban Hua that so many boys like you. Which one do you choose after graduation? Ban Hua said no one picked it, so she went outside to pick it! Banhua later went to college and really married a foreigner. I asked my dad, do you like banhua? My dad is finally honest this time. He said that he liked Ban Hua a little at that time.

"But what I like is the beauty of others, the external beauty." My dad said he was a "scholar", and he still likes to talk this shit when he is old.

"I like your mother, but I like her cheerful personality. I hope to get in touch with you after marriage and live happily. "

"But I didn't live up to my expectations and didn't give her a better life, which led to your mother becoming like this."

"Good son, love is like, but marriage is responsible, and whoever you marry is responsible. If I do it again, I may not marry your mother, or even be a bachelor. "

"Studying hard will do you no harm. Without culture and skills, you can't give your woman the life she wants. You are a man, and you will face this sooner or later. "

"It is a man's greatest happiness to make his woman happy." This sentence was said by my dad when I was a freshman. When I typed this sentence from WeChat, I couldn't believe it was my dad.

four

After grandpa died, my aunts set about introducing my father's wife. They entrusted me to Uncle Wang. Who says men can't be matchmakers? Uncle Wang is very active, and even introduced many foreign women and proper matchmakers to the man in our village.

Uncle Wang promised to introduce many people to my dad, but either others think my dad is poor or my dad despises others. Also, although my father was from a poor family, he was handsome and proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. There is also a story that he once wrote couplets to a rich family in other places and was robbed by that family to be a son-in-law.

But after all, these are strange ideas and the reality is cruel. Nobody likes my dad. Some are "crooked melons and cracked dates", and another is a fool. My mom has been making fun of my dad ever since. If she hadn't followed my dad, my dad would have lived with a stupid woman in the future!

Uncle Wang basically introduced all the women in our village to my dad. Later, my dad didn't propose, even didn't say anything, just shook his head and said, shake one by one. When it was mom's turn, dad finally fell silent. He whispered, "Do people want us?"

Then Uncle Wang went to propose, without anything, and went to propose empty-handed. Uncle Wang knows my grandfather. He said that this is the case with Li Ge, a young man. Although he has no money now, he is honest and capable, and the key is culture. He will definitely be rich in the future!

What did my grandfather mean at that time? My grandfather went to school and was an enlightened man, so he asked my mother if you agreed to this marriage.

"That's it." My mother said. Well, it's almost half done, because before that, many people came to my grandfather's house to propose marriage, but my mother refused. That's it! That's him!

Two days later, my father went to my grandfather's house, which is called the old station. My father just came to my grandfather's house and was very nervous. He sat on a small bench with his hands on his knees, bowed his head, didn't speak, coughed twice occasionally, and poured water when he was thirsty.

"Stop drinking and go to the field to practice a few tricks!" Grandpa suddenly said such a thing to my dad and took him to the fields.

It was also popular then. I have to work hard at home and see what I can do. Although my dad was a scholar of literature and art, his lonely teenage life also honed his strong character: Grandpa threw him a hoe and asked him to hoe the ground, and he hit it head by head. In the morning, half an acre of land was hoed, and the hoe was pried open two or three times.

My father is out of breath with fatigue. Grandpa finally smiled and said to his grandmother, "This boy is not bad. He is capable and willing to bear hardships. Just give him a good beating. "

Later, when my dad talked about it, he was still unfinished. He said that when he came back from my mother's house, his arm almost dislocated with pain. My parents were halfway through, and my grandfather agreed that they were together, so they began to fall in love.

At that time, my parents had not been in love. They are all first love. There is no cinema in the country, so they just wander in the street. My mom asked my dad if he could pedal a rickshaw, and my dad said no.

"You are so stupid!" My mother said. When she got home, she got on a big sorghum car and said to my father, "Come on up!" " "My mother was very wild at that time, and she was still going downhill, which scared my father to put his arm around my mother's waist.

"Slow down! Ride slowly! "

My mother doesn't talk. The faster she drives, the more she laughs at my father when she gets off the bus. Riding a bike scares you like this.

When father and mother got married, nothing was arranged: bride price, ceremony, banquet and even wedding photos. I have been clamoring for them to reissue a wedding photo for several years, and I don't know where they got it.

Dad went to pick up mom at that time. He held a flashlight in the middle of the night and arrived at my grandfather's house at ten o'clock in the evening. He knocked at the door and whispered a sentence to meet someone. At that time, my grandfather opened the door and only said 1:

"Stand back! I married a wife for nothing! "

At that time, there were no street lamps at night, there was only one moon on the empty path, and the rest were silent winds. My mother saw my father riding a bike, and she smiled and said that she could ride it?

"I can ride, and it is not difficult to learn." My dad touched the handle, passive Nuo Nuo said.

"Then shall we go?"

"Go home?"

"Go home." My father sat down with his legs crossed and my mother got into the back seat. She playfully broke the bell, which sounded like a wind chime on an empty road, and the bicycle opened with a bang. So they got married and started their married life.

five

After marriage, farming alone can't support my family. My father finally started to go out to work. At first, he learned carpentry from my uncle. Later, the woodworking industry declined, and he began to learn electrician: stringing, stringing, lighting, operating machines and doing all kinds of work.

Actually, it is not easy to work outside. Hard work is hard work, and I am afraid of accidents, because many construction sites are informal, and the probability of accidents is very high: I heard that the last time a young man about my age was working outside, it was summer, and the sun was too hot on the floor more than 30 meters high. The young man tied steel bars on it, and along the side of the building, one fell down unsteadily and fell to the ground like a broken egg tart.

"That was close, that was close." My uncle said that he and the young man were in the same construction site. The young man was walking out from the first floor when he fell. Two steps or two seconds faster, he would have turned into a meat pie like that young man!

There are many such things, and no one can tell what happened on the construction site. My father once had an accident: at that time, he was driving a hoist on the construction site and pulled a lot of oblique thorns. As soon as the machine started, he put the wood on it, circled and rolled.

What I am most afraid of when driving a hoist is stabbing my hand. If I go out unsteadily, I will lose it when I take it back. That's what my father did. My mother reminds him to pay attention to safety every time she calls. My father is also very careful. He wears two layers of gloves every time he goes to work.

But despite all the precautions taken, the accident happened: the board was not stabbed, but cracked and hit my father's chin. Click, hit my dad's front teeth!

On the same day, my father asked for leave to fill his teeth outside, which was a work-related injury. The boss lost 500 yuan, and he paid another 500 yuan to fill a good ceramic tooth. White is white, but if you look closely, it is not harmonious with other teeth, and you can still find it is fake. My father tried to keep it from me, but my mother finally found out. She asked how this happened. My dad said that he accidentally fell down while walking and hit it.

"Can you knock out two front teeth?" When my mom asked, my dad wouldn't say. He is the worst liar. After a while, he told the whole story. My mother began to cry after listening to it. She has changed since she married my father. She is no longer so careless, crying and extremely sensitive.

"You want to scare me to death!" My mother cries all the time, but my father won't lie. My dad and I are the same person, so we can't be straight. Later, my neighbor's aunt came, and she advised my mother not to cry, not to cry. Look on the bright side, people are fine. They just have two teeth, and when they're gone, they're gone. Who hasn't lost them?

My mother stopped crying after listening to it. After a long time, everyone became a joke. What effect did this accident have on my father? The influence is that after that, my dad never smiled when he took pictures.

My father went out to work at the age of 22, and it has been 20 years now. The most terrible accident he encountered in these 20 years was a life-and-death car accident ten years ago:

One year, my father came home on May Day and got the news from Linzhou. One of the roads is extremely steep and steep, called eighteen bends, which means you can't go down the mountain until eighteen bends. Before he came back, he had a phone call with my mother. My mother said that she would go to jiaozi in the evening and come back to eat together.

My father packed his things and hurried home. When he came back, he took the bus. The bus was just on, and nothing happened all the way. But halfway through, someone noticed something was wrong: it was obvious that the driver was driving down the mountain, but he was still in such a hurry? If there are passengers, say, hey, master, drive slowly, or you will hit a tree.

The driver said, ok, ok, slow down immediately, slow down immediately. But the driver said so, or soon. The sharp-eyed man in the front row found out why the driver was sweating at the moment, and when he looked at his feet, he couldn't stop suddenly!

Now the driver can't hide if he wants to, so he has to tell everyone that the brakes are out of order and he can only drive like this. A car full of people suddenly couldn't sit still. Someone said in a daze, what are you waiting for? Open the door and jump!

At first, the door opened with a thud and the wind rushed in, like a wolf. When I gritted my teeth, I shouted, and chirp jumped down, like a flying tiger jumping on a train. When others saw it, alas, they didn't fall to death, but they got up again after two grunts. Many people just jump on it, one after another, and no one wants to die like this.

My father is in the car, holding a schoolbag in his hand, where he just earned 5000 yuan.

Jump or not? So many people jump, it's okay. My dad grabbed his schoolbag and was ready to jump out. At this moment, a fat man suddenly crowded behind him and shouted, I'll jump first. My dad thought, just jump, one more person and one less person.

But sometimes fate is anybody's guess: the bus crashed into a pier on the corner. At that time, the driver didn't open the gear at all, and the corner was almost over. He staggered forward and the bus fell behind due to inertia. With such a stall, the fat man jumped out of the car and heard a click. He broke the fat man's leg impartially!

My father escaped from danger and walked home with a broken schoolbag. My dad didn't have a phone at that time, so he called home soon. My mother was shocked. Isn't that the train that Hai Sheng took? ! The rolling pin fell to the ground, and she went outside trembling to ask about the situation. She heard that the people in the car were not dead, but one of them had a broken leg.

"Whose leg is broken? Whose leg is broken? " My mother scrambled to ask.

"I don't know, it seems to be a young man."

"Hey, your marines don't come back these days? Isn't it ... "

"My marines? He, he is not in that car, not in that car. " My mother said she didn't go home, but went to my fourth aunt's house. She didn't say a word and kept crying. My fourth aunt comforted her. There are many people in the car. How do you know your leg is broken?

It's evening again, and my father hasn't come back yet. Now everyone is a little cold. If it's all right, you should call back. My mother was so cold that she walked back from my aunt's house. My aunt helped her, and suddenly she heard a voice behind her:

"intelligent cloud! Qiao Yun! "

My mother and aunt quickly turned around and said, it's my father! My mother stood there with tears in her eyes. Fourth aunt patted her: "What are you staring at?" Go and pick up your husband! "When my mother came running, I was eight years old. In my limited memory, it was the first time my mother hugged my father. Why didn't you send us a message when my mother said he was at home?

"It's not a surprise for you!" My dad said with a smile, at this time, I still have the face to joke!