What should I do if I have social phobia? What should I do if I can’t chat with others?

I can give you some advice on this issue from my perspective and experience

First of all, it is obvious that social phobia is caused by contact with others, but we must not have it in our lives. Without contact with others, we have lived in a group since ancient times, so social phobia often hinders our normal lifestyle.

1. Establish lofty ideals. I have had ideals since I was a child. This ideal has been with me like a sense of mission. Whenever I encounter difficulties, I will think of my ideals and stand up to them. Lift your chest and move forward. But I also suffered a lot because of my personality. I was born timid. When I was a child, I liked to be played with others. But when I entered junior high school, I stopped socializing in high school. It may be partly due to my adolescence. In addition, there was violence on campus, so I didn’t like to socialize with others because I didn’t have many good friends around me. After a while, I felt that my language skills had declined a lot. It took me half a day to simply talk to relatives. I don’t say a word, and I often feel timid. I find it very difficult to communicate with people. It’s as if one is in the south and the other is in the north.

Later on, I gradually became aware of myself, and I felt that I needed to get rid of the bad habits I had in the past, so as not to let them affect my life. However, I always encountered some positive things in my life, which inspired my ideals in my heart, so I relied on my ideals to get rid of my social phobia and also got rid of some bad habits.

2. For those who don’t know how to chat with others, I suggest you practice more and practice with the people around you first, because the distance between people around you will not be very affecting in your mind. Be strong, your tone should be calm, and try not to get excited when speaking. It doesn't matter if it is a little slower. Once you get used to it, it will feel faster.

3. Participate in as many activities as you can. If you don't participate, not only will phobias take root in your psychology, but you will also give yourself psychological hints that you are not good and have failed. The foundation of social phobia has been solidified, and another wall has been added to get rid of it.

I hope these suggestions will be helpful to you, get rid of the haze in your heart as soon as possible, and be sunny and happy every day.

Social phobia is a common mental illness among modern people. It is normal to have this. Do not regard yourself as a special group of people, and do not deliberately allow yourself to participate in social interactions.

You need to truly understand the essence of social phobia, which is the fear of exposing one's shortcomings.

To overcome this shortcoming, you actually need to discover the fatal shortcomings of your inner subconscious, such as appearance defects, such as poor language skills. If you think about it calmly, you will find that it is not so terrible.

The two major misunderstandings of social phobia are that the first is the belief that the worst outcome will definitely happen. The second was that if the worst happened, I would be screwed. The best way to break these misunderstandings is to practice continuously. Don't be afraid of making a fool of yourself and stop moving forward. Believe that most people in the world are very friendly, and the probability of bad things happening is very low.

We often think that others can tell when we are anxious. In fact, your inner anxiety is not that easy to recognize.

What is easier to recognize are behaviors you think are safe, such as playing with your phone, staring at the floor, and your voice becomes softer. We think we can cover up our anxiety, but in fact it is your behavior that is even weirder.

When the other person glances at me, you will wonder whether I am ugly or boring. At this time, we need to control our attention. If we shift our attention to the external world, we can capture new changes, which make us curious, and we can discuss topics we both like, such as hotel decoration style, Nearby view.

What should I do if I have social phobia? What should I do if I can’t chat with others?

There is a difference between social phobia and not being able to chat. Social phobia is usually about not being able to speak because you are afraid of telling other people’s jokes. However, not being able to chat means you can’t speak to the point, it’s not about not being afraid. Say, I won’t say.

Both situations can be changed. Social phobia needs to eliminate anxiety and change irrational cognitions. For example, they will laugh at me, they can see what I am thinking, and they know that I have not done well in the past. Things, etc., are all formed in a specific environment. These unreasonable ideas can be changed through further communication, and then changed little by little through training.

Not being able to chat with people is due to a lack of knowledge in the brain and incorrect speaking procedures. Learn more knowledge at ordinary times. If you have more knowledge, you can set up certain chat programs and practice more. Then you will be able to do it in that environment in the future. Say it naturally.

In short, it can be changed.

According to our parents’ generation, it is similar to the old saying of “thin-skinned”. It refers to the emotional reaction of nervousness and fear when facing a stranger in a strange environment.

So, why did our parents’ generation not have the social phobia that is talked about everywhere in today’s society, but our generation has a high incidence of it? There are two catalytic points in this:

1. Anxiety caused by excessive material desires

Starting from the generation born in the 1970s, life has gradually become oriented to big cities, and working outside is the norm. People are pursuing higher materialization. Whether someone is capable and valuable often depends on the level of their “money reserve.” Then when a person thinks that he is worthless, the twisted heart of "discrimination between superiority and inferiority" will cause social phobia.

2. Assimilation or stimulation of information sources

When you develop social phobia, if you don’t need to face a lot of media news or the stimulation of other people’s success stories, you will still have a buffer of psychological space, and you will not always put yourself and others in an "imbalance" "On the balance. At the same time, if you see a high incidence of the same symptoms in others and an increase in psychological implications, your courage to get out of this predicament will be weakened.

Social phobia, Obviously, the cause of this disease is social interaction. It is because of the action of interacting with others that it triggers the infinite fear in the heart.

So, this involves the location when the disease breaks out. Factors such as character characteristics and relationships. Where does fear occur, under what circumstances, and with whom the fear occurs.

For example, a person faces someone he has known for 3 years. Will a friend develop social phobia? Of course not, because he has already regarded the other person as a recognized part of his life.

However, if the same person was in a strange place 3 years ago. Will he be afraid of facing this friend alone in this environment? Obviously, he will be afraid of rejection because he doesn't understand the person's information.

So, social phobia. When facing unfamiliar people or situations, you are worried about events beyond your control caused by uncertain factors.

For example, you are afraid of being attacked, criticized, ridiculed, ignored and other negative things. Behavior. See, here, all patients with social phobia show is a state of "imaginary enemy" towards others.

Now that we know this. If you understand the causes and mechanisms of phobia, you can adapt yourself or change the environment to meet your inner needs and reduce this fear.

1. Rationalization of the environment

A strange environment, coupled with strange people, can easily cause tension, depression, and uneasiness. So, if we must meet someone, or hope to change our state through interaction with others, then. Choose a "conducive", "familiar" and "relaxing" environment.

For example, make an appointment to meet a person at a coffee shop, teahouse, fitness center, park, etc. that you often go to. Where there is no rejection in your heart, the familiar surroundings will weaken your negative pressure on others, thereby reducing our discomfort in chatting.

2. The company of trusted people

Since you have social phobia, don’t avoid the possibility that you will be nervous and uneasy. Well, our nerves want to change the long-standing conditioned reflex, which is to "smooth" it. When making an appointment to chat with someone, let someone you trust very much accompany you to deal with your "flustered and embarrassing" situation.

Then, the person accompanying you here must be a friend with positive energy and whom you can rely on. Otherwise, you may not have enough courage and strength to face social phobia, but the information about the negative event has spread, which is counterproductive.

Since you want to change your social phobia, you can’t change it by hiding at home. Moreover, "staying" at home for a long time can easily lead to a person's mental stress and emotional instability. Therefore, you must encourage yourself and "go out". Only by constantly trying can you correct bad situations in a timely manner.

This is also called systematic desensitization in psychology. What this means is, how did you get this mental disorder? Then go back to the distant point and reproduce that scene to "paralyze" our nervous system and reduce your "sensitivity" to this scene, so as to get rid of it. "Subconscious" mental habits.

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Below I will share with you my personal views and thoughts on this issue. I hope that my sharing can be helpful to everyone, and I also hope that everyone will like my sharing.

1. The formation of social phobia

It is more influenced by the family. The parenting style of parents, the structure of the family, and the situation of brothers and sisters all have an impact on the occurrence of social phobia. Development plays a role. Children who are always criticized and not loved at home are prone to distrusting others and developing social problems when they grow up.

1. Inferior self-esteem is also a cause of social phobia. Patients with social phobia are always unable to get out of the quagmire of the past. Social phobia often does not appear suddenly, but develops over a long period of time. Patients often have certain social problems since childhood. These problems are not naturally solved as they grow older. Instead, they always repeat the old troubles over and over again, which makes the patients very painful.

2. What is happening with anxiety and fear? You can use an analogy to answer it: when a person has an ulcer in his mouth, he will always lick it with his tongue over and over again, even if it hurts again, he still does it. Why? To fix it. The same is true for people's growth process. People with social phobia often think: "Maybe you will succeed if you do it again!" But if you do it again, you will often fail.

2. Causes of social phobia

Due to introversion and poor expression. In order to show yourself a more wonderful self and to get rid of social phobia, do you know what to do?

1. Don’t deny yourself and constantly tell yourself “I am the best me” , "I am born with talents that will be useful."

2. Don’t be demanding on yourself, just do whatever you can. As long as you try your best, it doesn’t matter if you don’t succeed.

3. Don’t recall the unpleasant past, let the past pass. Nothing is more important than the present.

4. Treating others kindly and helping others are the basis of happiness. When helping others, you can forget your own troubles and at the same time prove your own value.

3. What should I do if I can’t chat with others?

1. Your speech lacks logic and does not express the core point of view

If people always misunderstand you when you speak, or you find that your words do not convey the meaning, it shows that your language is lacking. Certain logic cannot accurately express your inner thoughts. Then you need to reflect in your heart, try it out in private, and refine the core and most important points you want to express every time.

2. Reluctant to figure out the other person’s thoughts

Why can’t I speak? Maybe it's because you don't consider other people's thoughts. If you find that every time you finish speaking, you find that people in the circle are hesitant to speak, unable to answer the question. Congratulations on winning the lottery. You have successfully blocked everyone's mouths and no one wants to continue talking to you.

3. Put yourself at the core of everything you say

Being able to speak is not a great skill, being able to shut up and listen is. If you find yourself talking too much, stop and listen to what the other person has to say.

4. A serious and honest boy who is too serious at all times

Why can’t I speak? Maybe it's because you are too serious. Being too serious during a conversation can easily put pressure on the other person and make them not want to continue talking or even dating you. Human beings need a sense of security. Language is like a magic mask that wraps our hearts in various forms and makes us feel safe. Speaking more truthfully all the time can easily tear the other person's mask apart in an instant. No one wants to expose their innermost feelings, right?

4. Solutions to talking problems

1. Exercise quick thinking

Are you at a loss for words when arguing with others? , and it was only when I got home at night that I finally remembered how to refute? This is because you do not have quick thinking. You should do more answering exercises online and work hard to improve your reaction speed.

2. Rich knowledge

Some people always think that they are stupid, but in fact, only when they have something in their heart can they be expressed. There is not enough ink in your stomach, even if you are articulate No matter how smart you are, it is useless. You can only repeat some meaningless words. It is better not to speak.

3. Infinite self-confidence

What should I do if I can’t speak? This is inseparable from their own timidity and cowardice. Some people dare not speak when they see others, and they naturally become stupid. You should communicate more verbally with others. Taking an oath and praising yourself loudly is the best way to improve your self-confidence. As long as you look in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you want to change, one day your self-confidence will explode.

4. Slow down your speaking speed

What should I do if I can’t speak? Most people's brains often cannot keep up with the speed of their own speaking, and they often don't even know what they are saying. Of course, others cannot understand it, and they may be misunderstood and their feelings may be hurt. The solution is to regularly recite literature slowly and emotionally to improve your language perception.

The answers to this question shared above are all personal opinions and suggestions. I hope the answer to this question I shared can help everyone.

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I am here at the end. I wish you all to work happily and live healthily every day. May your family and everything be prosperous, make a fortune every year, and have a prosperous business. Thank you!

When patients with physical symptoms are nervous, they are often accompanied by symptoms of hyperautonomous nervous function, such as palpitation, shortness of breath, dry mouth, sweating, trembling, nausea, flushing, etc., and sometimes they are on the verge of death. I feel extremely uncomfortable and feel like I am going to die. In severe cases, I feel out of control.

Everyone is afraid of different sounds. I have had a phonophobia for 24 years. I am mainly afraid of coughing and spitting to clear my throat.

The same is true for Dean Xue, Section Chief Zhang, Director Lei and others. Using this phobia of sounds to make me suffer from depression.

How many people in the country or the world have this phonophobia? Am I the only one? I am so lonely!

This must be improved slowly. Now both work and life require communication. First of all, you should talk to people you know well, and secondly, you should enhance your self-confidence and enrich your knowledge!

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Social phobia, the inability to chat with others, develops over a period of time. Cause: Never dare to take the first step.

What should I talk about? What should I do if he ignores me? Do you look stupid like this? If you think too much about something that is obviously a small thing, you will feel fear and shy away from it. Over time, it will become a habit. In the final analysis, I still don’t have confidence in myself.

First of all, you must adjust your mentality and make yourself happy. Enrich yourself more and develop more interests and hobbies. Read books, exercise, draw, sing, keep a pet... Then dress yourself up in appearance, buy some clothes that suit you, and make yourself look more confident and dazzling. In this way, I have been improved from the inside out, and I can't help but become more confident. These interests and hobbies can become topics for chatting with people in the future and make friends with the same interests and hobbies. At least in this area, you are confident.

The next step is to walk into the crowd. You can first practice with colleagues, friends, and people you know but don’t talk to often. First of all, you need to have an opening statement. You can say hello first: Hi, hello~ Then find a topic: The weather is nice today~ You look very energetic today. What skin care products did you use? Have you watched the recently released movies? What book have I read recently? It’s very good. I’d like to share it with you. Do you have any books you can recommend to me? Do you like keeping pets? I have a naughty cat, let me show you what it looks like. It just so happens that the other person also has the same interests and hobbies, so the conversation opens up. The most important thing is interaction, and the last thing is questioning. Ask and answer questions well, don't chat to death. Don't answer frequently, um, yes, okay, it's okay... If it is so short and emotionless, the other party will not want to continue chatting with you and will find it boring. You should also control your facial expressions, but when the other person talks about the interesting parts, smile to make the conversation relaxed and pleasant. Next time, others will take the initiative to chat with you without you taking the initiative.

In fact, socializing is not that difficult. Start with the simple ones and the people around you. Go out, the world outside is infinite. If you can't go out, you will be your own prison!

Hello, I can’t explain this. Generally, you may have this symptom if you spend less time with others. Comments and suggestions: Generally, people who like to stay at home and don’t want to go out often have social anxiety. In fact, it is easy to solve the problem. Just go out and communicate with more people. You can try your relatives first. After all, they are relatively close and you can chat in a relaxed state. Secondly, you can also chat with your classmates and read as much as possible. This will make you feel better. You have rich experience and have topics to talk about.

In fact, this matter is a problem, it has been bothering many people, and it is also a very profound knowledge.

There are ways to solve social fear.

This also has a lot to do with a person's experience and growth environment and background.

The first step is to set a goal.

Exercise, climb, swim, keep fit, and sing. Through these exercises, you can enhance your self-confidence and challenge your fears.

Once you have mastered these exercises, you will gradually become more and more confident.