Children's lack of compassion usually has these three manifestations. Parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's empathy.

Only when you have compassion can you feel the same, but now many children can't see compassion in them. Because these children always like to show their selfishness, which also confuses many parents.

Teacher Zhang found that children have a big problem, that is, they have no sympathy. On this day, when Mr. Zhang took his children to the mall to play, he suddenly saw an old man fall to the ground because he was unstable. At this time, the child smiled happily and said, "What a suck!" When teacher Zhang heard the child's words, he immediately scolded the child.

It stands to reason that after seeing the old man fall, he should come forward to help. The children not only refused to help, but also laughed at each other. Obviously, he has no sympathy at all. Mr. Zhang is also puzzled. Why can't children see sympathy at all?

In fact, there are many such things in life, and many children have not shown sympathy. This also makes many parents wonder why their children have no sympathy. In fact, the reason is not difficult to explain.

In fact, children have no compassion, and the most fundamental reason is that they have no empathy. Lack of empathy is the easiest problem for them, that is, they can't feel the same. When these children see that others are pitiful, they don't subconsciously pity each other, but treat each other's behavior as a joke.

Moreover, such children have a bigger defect, that is, they are often self-centered and never need to consider the feelings of others. No matter what kind of scene, these children all show the same appearance, and these children will ignore the people around them very intuitively. Moreover, even if some parents try to reason with their children, it will not help, because children often don't realize their own problems, so reasoning has become a useless way.

So there is a reason why children don't have empathy, but many parents don't find out if their children don't have empathy. In fact, whether a child has empathy can be felt from many angles, because the appearance of a child without empathy is very pure.

1. selfish

If a child has no empathy, the main problem is that he is too selfish. They always like to put themselves first and ignore the feelings of people around them. Because in the eyes of these children, there is absolutely no need to care about the feelings of others, and others are not very important in their own hearts.

Moreover, the biggest feature of this kind of child is that he will only look at the pity of others from the perspective of onlookers, and even find it very interesting.

2. Unable to empathize

Children without empathy have another serious problem, that is, they can't feel empathy at all. Even if parents reason with their children and let them have some empathy, children still can't understand what their parents mean.

Because in the eyes of children, empathy is a very empty thing, which can't be touched or touched. And some children are hard to understand, so they must be passive in this respect.

3. Enhance self-identity

The so-called self-esteem, that is, such children always take themselves too seriously and treat others as useless. However, these children are essentially different from selfish children. They may not be selfish, but they always think so highly of themselves, so even if something happens to people around them, nothing has anything to do with them.

Even if the other person is too pitiful, such children will imagine the other person as a lowly creature, and there is no need to pity them. It can be said that such children are generally cold-blooded, and it is difficult to correct their cold-blooded side.

Therefore, through these points, we can clearly see what kind of state these children are in without empathy. And many parents will be curious. What methods can be used to cultivate children's empathy? In fact, the method is also very simple.

1. Set an example

As parents, if you want to cultivate children's empathy, then the easiest way is to set an example. If parents don't show empathy in their daily lives, how can they infect their children? So when we do things, we must be strict and proper, and don't let children see the bad side of what we do.

For example, when we see that some people need to be cared for, we go forward to care for them and comfort them. When children clearly realize that what we do is meaningful, then children will gradually undergo some changes and will not make themselves look better.

2. Guide children to think in other's shoes.

Sometimes we must let children know how to put themselves in others' shoes. Only when children really think from the perspective of others can they show empathy. For example, when we see an old woman fall down, we can say to the child, "Baby, look at how poor that old woman is. Should we think from her point of view and help her get up? " Generally speaking, when children feel empathy, they will have some empathy and do something right. We don't need to rush them at all.

3. Don't spoil the children.

Sometimes in life, it is precisely because we love our children so much that they have no empathy at all. This means that what we should correct most is the doting on children. We should treat our children with indifference, so that they will consider our feelings.

To cultivate children's empathy, we must first let them know their parents' feelings, and then they can understand others' feelings. How can they be universal if they don't even think about their parents' feelings?

Therefore, in order to cultivate children's empathy ability, we only need to guide them from the above aspects, which is enough to make children become better.

So how do you think to solve the problem to cultivate children's empathy? Please give your opinion and let's discuss it together.