I was joking.

Vivienne Liu, an American student from Guangdong, committed suicide.

Seeing this news, my mind is full of some shocking suicide scenes: Barbara Yung's suicide, Sanmao's suicide and Kimi's suicide. .......

Why should we face such a affectionate world with such a ruthless attitude among such precious people?

Vivienne Liu, a 20-year-old student at the University of California, Santa Barbara, always has a warm smile on her face. Her cheerful personality always brings out the best in each other with her beautiful face. This newly blooming flower has fallen elsewhere before it has time to shine. The online sigh has turned into a sea of anger, calling her fragile, unbearable, cowardly and even heartless.

But the roar in this sigh is not a kind of grief!

Because they all seem to have a terrible disease: inhibition! Yu! Disease!

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Who can believe that such a lively and cheerful sunny girl will be related to depression? But experts' analysis shows that the symptoms and results of depression are always different. The following story can't help but make us think:

This is the story told by the writer with a smile: I haven't slept well for a week in a row, and I have been walking in a daze all day. I took some medicine to help me sleep before going to bed yesterday, but I learned that the translator Mr. Sun Zhongxu committed suicide because of depression before going to bed, so I struggled to get up and decided to write something to tell you what kind of soul a depressed patient really has.

Since 20 13, my sleep is getting worse and worse, my body is getting weaker and weaker, and the big stones in my head suddenly start to grow wildly and get heavier and heavier. Every morning, I need to struggle with the big stone that is pressing me to get up hard. I was late when I was never late. I couldn't keep the habit of reading on the way to work, but fell asleep by the window; When I get off work, I often need to get off at Shanghai South Railway Station to rest, because I began to feel dizzy in the subway, and I felt dizzy and sick after sitting for a long time. I became unable to work, and the whole circuit of my brain was blocked. That crazy rock weighed me down, too, and I could only lie on the table half the time. As soon as you enter the house every day, you can only lie in bed and can't move; I don't want to see anyone, answer the phone, talk to anyone, or go out. Such a simple thing is simply terrible to me. I began to enter the abyss-like social dilemma, and my hands and feet were completely tied like ropes. I'm beginning to feel that my life is completely hopeless. Later, I learned that I had entered a mild "depressive coma".

I went to hospital after hospital for treatment, but there was no result.

One day, I met a reliable doctor and suggested that I see a psychology department. When I first heard the diagnosis, I thought it was ridiculous. I am a very open-minded and cheerful person. In recent years, I have not had any troubles that make me depressed, and I have no mental illness. Besides, I have physical symptoms. What does that have to do with mental illness? But I went anyway and was diagnosed with depression. All the symptoms are physical symptoms of depression. When I was first diagnosed, the doctor asked me a lot of personal questions, analyzed my cause in detail, and concluded that my last job lasted for three years, and the work was too tense and stressful, and I didn't adjust it in time, which led to the sudden outbreak of fatigue and stress accumulated three years after leaving my job, which led to depression.

The doctor prescribed the right medicine for me. After only two days, my symptoms were almost completely suppressed and I began to return to my normal life. Get up normally, wash normally, talk normally, work normally, sleep normally, and improve mental numbness. It's just that the big stone in my head is still there and I can't get it off. This medicine has also made me extremely dependent. Once I stopped taking medicine for a few days because of the doctor's stop. I felt dizzy and vomited, and my body felt a tingling like electricity from time to time, so I couldn't move in bed. There was a period of insomnia in the middle, and my head was so tired that it would burst in minutes, but I couldn't sleep. I keep my eyes open until dawn every night, and finally I can understand why insomnia can kill a person. Fortunately, my insomnia only lasted for a week.

In this process, the doctor tried many different drugs. Finally, at the end of July this year, the big stone suddenly disappeared, and I felt more relaxed than ever. Unfortunately, I only had a good life for three weeks, and then the stone came back and pressed firmly on the back of my head.

Having said so much, I just want you to know what kind of physical and psychological state depression patients are. Too many people don't understand depression and have misunderstandings about it, so they take an incorrect attitude towards the depressed patients around them. Even if it is well-intentioned, it actually aggravates the other party's distress to a certain extent.

The antonym of depression is not "happiness", just as I am not unhappy. The antonym of depression is "vitality". My body is trapped by illness, which leads to my life being trapped. The energy in my body seems to be drained, which leads to the evacuation of my life. Therefore, don't say "be happy" or "relax" to people with depression. It was not his mood that caused his depression. Being happy and relaxing will not alleviate his pain, not to mention that most people with depression have lost the mental adjustment mechanism of "being happy and relaxing".

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Today, we still don't know what caused Vivienne Liu's suicide, but it goes without saying that many foreign students who have had the same experience can appreciate the difficulties and hardships of studying abroad. Studying abroad is not just sunshine, castles, western food and parties ... in the circle of friends and social media. ...

There are many kinds of success, all of which are different.

Recently, Dong Qing became very popular because of the Chinese Poetry Congress, because she was "poetic and full of books" and moved out of her unknown "Wolf Dad", which made many happy students shudder. She is struggling like a mountain, but she worships, worships and imitates with the example of such a "wolf dad". Her success is completely reproducible.

Just like the "Wolf Dad" of Dong Qing, the national goddess, Ding Junhui's father and Lang Lang's father have all become models of successful education and made a new debut.

But don't forget this scene: a girl, at her favorite age, is not even allowed to look in the mirror. The most painful thing is eating. As soon as the food was served, she was scolded by her father. When she mentioned her father's childhood shadow, the elegant and calm hostess fell down.

However, it is such a cruel story, but it has a halo because the protagonist finally became famous.

What you see is a walking Dong Qing, only infinitely magnified. What you can't see is Dong Qing whose life has been destroyed for thousands of years.

There is also a negative textbook: prodigy Wei Yongkang mastered more than 1000 Chinese characters at the age of two, basically completed junior high school courses at the age of four, entered county key middle schools at the age of eight, got high marks at the age of 13, and was admitted to the Physics Department of Xiangtan University at the age of 17.

Not to mention the tiger mother Zeng Xuemei devoted herself wholeheartedly. As a result, the long-term neglect of the spiritual world made Wei Yongkang unable to integrate into the crowd and arrange his own study and life independently. He lived in extreme pain and depression and was soon persuaded to drop out of school.

Fortunately, at that time, she was married and had children, leading an ordinary life, and she was still cultivating her grandson in the same way. This time, Mr. and Mrs. Wei Yongkang are very firm: I just want my children to live a normal life.

Praised by the media and pulled down rudely. Now he cherishes the opportunity to be an ordinary person more than anyone else and enjoys the role of father more than anyone else.

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We are all summoned to the worship level by the sacred ideal, and we are all re-examined in the cold reality.

Lin Yutang said: I want to have the freedom to be myself and the courage to be myself.

Sometimes, I am often deeply moved by the actions of my friends around me, and then silently admire and admire.

Yin Gucheng, born in 1990, graduated from China Media. Now I am a screenwriter of a film and television signing company. He wrote two novels, four plays and various poems, with more than 3 million words. He is full of energy and physical strength. He was firmly drawn by the ideal navigation mark, but in the end he boldly turned around and became the master of his own destiny.

Since childhood, his entrance examination is almost the first in his class, the top three in his grade, and all the way to college. In his junior year, he decided to apply for the major of contemporary literature in Peking University, so he visited various post bars, Zhihu and Weibo, found various e-books of Peking University's postgraduate entrance examination diary, bought 500 professional textbooks and materials, and devoted himself to it.

At that time, he decided to go to Peking University. He missed the college entrance examination once, so he must not miss the postgraduate entrance examination again. This is his ideal benchmark.

As a result, he missed his dream by two points, but now he is not obsessed with past mistakes, but happily walking on his own track.

Scenery is everywhere, gain and loss are at home!

Wu Yishu became famous overnight after winning the China Poetry Conference. On February 17, just after the opening ceremony of Fudan High School, a group of parents who remembered to compete for Wu Yishu's interview flatly refused. We raised our hands to praise Wu's parents' actions, because this little flower really can't stand the bondage of fame.

Finally, use a poem to encourage you, encourage me, encourage us to be lonely, encourage us to be young, encourage us to bear pressure, and encourage us to run towards the sunshine:

The sun is very strong

Water waves are gentle.

Layers of white clouds cover.

I

Step on the grass

I feel like a completely clean black soil block.

Living among these precious people.

Large soil splash

Slap the face

Living among these precious people.

Humans are as happy as plants.

Love is as happy as rain.

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