Drunk rumors: truth or adventure?

? In the new year, I set myself three things to stick to: keep reading, keep writing and keep exercising. Many friends may think that I am a very self-disciplined person at first sight. But as the saying goes, a person will show off what he lacks. Obviously, the number of books I read last year hit a new low in recent years, and I quit writing for several years. The most important thing is the soaring weight. I can't wait to get a few fitness cards every time I weigh myself. (Every fitness card I run carries those slim and beautiful visions, however, you know) Therefore, I will dream great dreams and want to be in a new one.

? At this point, there must be another friend to accuse me. What does what you said have to do with the topic of drunken nonsense?

? Good question, my friend, because relevance is what I want to talk about in the next paragraph.

? I want to turn my training plan into four things in the new year. After insisting on reading, writing and exercising, I will add one more thing-be careful when drinking!

? Why should I be careful when drinking? Because I'm talking nonsense when I drink.

? Last week, I spent the New Year with some friends I haven't seen for a long time. The atmosphere was very warm. Then everyone's words went from far to near, their faces turned from white to red, and the scales changed from cups to pots. The topic changed from formal to gossip, then the figure changed from clear to vague, and then the next morning.

? The next morning, I had a splitting headache. I pinched my fingers and counted that it should be fake wine, but after consulting other drinkers, I found that what they drank might be true. It doesn't matter. Friends who often drink may know that a good habit of hangover is to form the habit of clinking glasses before looking for a mobile phone the next morning. After finding glasses and a mobile phone, I felt quite complacent. It seems that I just drank some fake wine yesterday, and I haven't turned into a dummy yet. When I opened WeChat, I became a "mute" (I have never felt the word "leng" so deeply): I vaguely remember chatting with a friend the night before, and I couldn't find the chat record in the morning, so I wanted to ask if I had said anything I shouldn't have said after drinking too much yesterday.

? The answer is: of course TM said it!

? But I don't know what I said, because I don't know if I have a guilty conscience or what the reason is. The call record was deleted, and then a red exclamation mark appeared on WeChat (even WeChat laughed at me): The other party is not your friend, please add a friend!

? WTF？

? Then I found that sometimes I don't need sober medicine at all, and I can talk about being hacked. Then I thought about what I said yesterday, to whom, and most importantly, who deleted me after I finished. I suddenly found that a friend sent some zombie fans cleaning software to verify whether he was a friend or not. At this time, I am a little happy. Being deleted after drinking too much seems to be a group behavior. After feeling that people in the same industry can still find people who have been deleted after drinking, it is my thinking about drinking nonsense: drinking nonsense.

? At the moment, my brain is divided into two factions, one is white for positive, the other is black for negative, and there is a fierce debate and game:

? Pro: The truth.

? Tail: big adventure

? Positive argument: As the saying goes, "Speak the truth after drinking". If it is not true, how can it be "telling the truth after drinking"?

? Counterargument: Excuse me, friend, is there a source and theoretical basis for this statement? Where are the data? What's more, I feel fresh and refined, so please don't use "as the saying goes" as an example, which makes you look vulgar.

? A positive statement: I wiped my brother. So you drank it today, too?

? The opposing side argues: Why are you dissatisfied?

? A positive argument: not accepting practice?

? Defense: practice!

? Because the plot developed out of control, the debate turned into an "ideological" duel before the second debate and the third debate, and finally my head was completely smashed.

? Although the "argument" is over, I have been seriously thinking about what the reason is, how to treat it and whether it can be cured. Until yesterday afternoon, I dug out Allen de Botton's "The Charm of Boredom" at home and saw my reading notes, and suddenly I had some profound thoughts on this issue:

? According to De Botton's theory, the space far away from home and office is even "marginal space". Then, the wine table should also belong to such a space. According to the communication habits of China people, this type of space may not be so marginal, but like marginal space, it actually carries our inability to recognize loneliness:

Let's talk about drinking first, let's not talk about drunken nonsense first. Anyone who has had drinking experience and doesn't feel particularly painful will connect wine to some stimulation points, including social function, connecting function, promoting function and emotional attachment function. But no matter what kind of function, wine always appears in social occasions (sometimes he happens to be drunk), so the demand for wine is a tool for us to fight against some form of loneliness. To let go of resentment, you need someone to listen to you; You have something to celebrate, but you need to enjoy it. ......

? However, wine itself is a kind of loneliness.

? We need a link with wine, because we can't face our loneliness. Even if you face loneliness directly, you can't walk out. So we need someone to listen, and we need a way to immerse others in a warm, just warm atmosphere, even if they can't fully understand your expression. We need something that can make everyone detached from reason and face their loneliness. Enter a free state and atmosphere, so, although wine doesn't make us soberly solve problems and get us out of loneliness, it is a kind of loneliness that can comfort loneliness, just like a supply ship can take it to an isolated island: it can maintain nutrition for a period of time and make us feel connected with the outside world, but in the final analysis, the island is still an island, so loneliness is still loneliness, and wine is still wine.

? What about drunken gibberish? Is it true?/You don't say.

? Sometimes it should be true, because thinking in loneliness is the most calm, but sometimes it is also false, because I never think that language can express thinking clearly, and I never deny that we deceive ourselves from time to time, whether it is language or behavior, so if we praise ourselves after drinking, we should feel lonely because we agree with our own values, and have no social cognition, or that social cognition is deviated from our own cognition. If drunken nonsense is confession, it may be emotional loneliness, and there is no real emotional support, so I hope I can let go of loneliness; If being drunk and boasting is swearing, it should be that the marginal space like the wine table can't present the original connection effect, resulting in loneliness, and the loss and disappointment of loneliness can't be separated from social interaction. Therefore, drinking and bragging is a kind of loneliness in itself, so we may not have to consider right or wrong about what lonely people say, whether it is truth or big adventure, because it is just a dialogue between sober loneliness and intoxicated loneliness.

So I said so much around such a big circle, just hoping that my friends can forgive my drunken remarks and have a philosophical understanding of the cure of drunken remarks:

1. Don't drink. (This is basically impossible)

Don't drink too much. (This seems to be uncontrollable. )

Don't talk when you are drunk. I am a chatterbox. I can talk more when I am drunk.

4. Don't send WeChat if you drink too much. You can have this. You can set an unforgettable password for your mobile phone. You can't get it off when you drink too much. )

5. Recognize the loneliness of yourself and others, be a listener and stay lonely.

I wrote the end of this passage with a blue pen today. Maybe the nonsense after drinking will continue or come to an end occasionally, but the self-awareness brought by loneliness will last forever. This is the charm, boredom and loneliness of life.