Have you decided who you want to go back to this Spring Festival to marry a girl?

The girl who is married far away, whose home shall we go back to during the Spring Festival?

"Husband, I especially want to go back to my hometown for the New Year this year, or go back to my hometown!"

"No, I can't go back to my parents' home for the New Year, and I'm embarrassed to go! "

"Why can't I go back to my parents' home for the New Year? Then whoever went to her parents' house for the Spring Festival last year is biased. Otherwise, you go back to your home for the New Year and I will go back to my home. "

"How do couples spend the New Year apart? If they don't visit your parents at your home after the Chinese New Year, that's settled. This is a matter of principle. "

"I have been married to you for five years and have never been back to my home for the New Year. It's not fair! I don't care. Anyway, I'm going home for the Spring Festival. Besides, how can I go to my house for the New Year? "

This is a dispute between a colleague of mine and her husband to discuss who to go back to for the New Year. She is 32 years old and has a 3-year-old child from Gansu and her husband from Hubei. Now a family of three lives in Guangzhou and usually only goes back to Hubei for the New Year. I used to take care of my children at home before going to work, and I still had time to go back to my parents' house. Now that the child has gone to school and she has gone to work, the chances of returning to her parents' home are getting less and less, and colleagues are very distressed.

Many people say that age is not a problem and distance is not a problem. In fact, only when you really experience it will you know that there is a problem.

Because my colleagues have lived in Guangzhou for a long time, they seldom go back to Hubei. Every time I go back to Hubei, in the words of my colleagues, I've "gone to another world". My colleague's husband grew up in the countryside. Every time he goes back to the village, the children and the old people in the village look at him like spectators. This circle is full of arguments, and colleagues simply don't understand what to say. I can only laugh silly, but fortunately, I also made a lot of jokes and embarrassment.

She may seldom go home, and her colleagues want to show it in front of her mother-in-law, but she doesn't understand anything her mother-in-law says, and she plays dumb if she doesn't understand. But she was very upset, because she was not used to eating and living, and she was embarrassed to bring it up. Every time she eats, she pretends that she is full, but she is still hungry. Then every time she goes back to her mother-in-law's house, she will buy a lot of snacks, but her mother-in-law always says that she wastes money and asks her not to buy them.

Remembering that I used to eat, drink and sleep well at my parents' house, my mother always prepared a lot of delicious food for her because she was afraid that she would not eat and sleep well outside. In the morning, she slept until she woke up naturally. Every time she returns to Hubei, she feels that it is the beginning of her "punishment". She wants to make up for the treatment she received at her parents' house, get up early in the morning to clean up, greet her parents-in-law after dinner, and wait for them to clean up the dishes and mop the floor after dinner, otherwise she will be detained by others.

Although her mother told her to be kind to her parents-in-law and be diligent and polite after marriage, it was not so easy to change her 30-year habit and adapt to a completely strange environment at once, which made her panic. She even complained a little about why she hasn't stopped her from getting married so far. Maybe because I chose this road, I will walk on my knees!

Maybe I was young and impulsive, thinking that as long as you love me, I will love you for nothing. I remember the first time I spent the New Year in my husband's house after marriage, she hid under the covers and cried secretly again and again because she missed her parents. In the previous New Year, she and her parents talked and laughed and were very happy. Although they were talking and laughing at her husband's house, she didn't understand a word. Coupled with a table of strange dishes, she felt that she could not completely integrate into this atmosphere.

Since childhood, her parents have given her a very simple life, as long as she is healthy and happy. Suddenly she became a daughter-in-law, which made her a little overwhelmed. She suddenly felt that the world was complicated and profound. She wanted to escape, but there was nowhere to go.

Later, every time she returned to Guangzhou from Gansu, she was in a particularly bad mood. Every time I leave my parents, I can't see the next reunion Every time I leave my father, I will insist on sending her to the station. I will take care of her like a child. From the first time she left home to study abroad to getting married and having children, I will help her carry her luggage to the car and buy her delicious food. I also didn't forget to tell the driver to drive slowly and pay attention to safety. When the car leaves, my father will stand on the side of the road for a long time, watching her leave until it becomes a black spot and disappears from sight.

I remember the first time she took her husband home, and her father sent them to the station as before. At the moment she got on the bus, her father secretly shed tears. She sat by the window and saw her father's rickety back secretly wiping away tears. The softest part of her heart collapsed at this moment, and she felt strongly that she was leaving her parents, the place she knew very well and the so-called man she loved, to live in a completely strange place. Her tears poured out uncontrollably, as if all the tears were not enough to vent her inner anxiety and sadness, so she wept silently all the way from Gansu to Guangzhou. Going home from now on is her softest concern!

Listening to her story, I remembered a roommate in college. Her sister got married just before the Spring Festival. She cried in the dormitory for a day and a night. At that time, we didn't understand and made fun of her. We think it's a good thing for her sister to get married. We can accept her sister's brother-in-law's red envelope. She cried and said to us, "My sister won't be at home with me for the New Year in the future. I can't bear to part with her!" Now we all understand. ......

We thought family ties were simple, and we didn't know it was so difficult until we left home. In this world, there should be many parents hiding in the dark and crying silently, and then quietly wishing you a smiling face in the distance forever, but we don't know that missing is always in your casual place, and time has become the farthest distance.

Long-distance love is the concern of parents, perhaps it is because of distance that we know more about love!