What if you find someone speaking ill of you behind your back?

I ignored him. People who can speak ill of me behind my back must not be my friends. So there is no need to pay attention to him. Where there are people, there are right and wrong. I don't participate in right and wrong, and I don't need to care what others say.

When I was young, I always cared about what others said about me. I feel sad when I know that others speak ill of me. There is a male classmate at school. I don't know what I did wrong and made him angry. He wrote me a very vicious letter. And this note passed through the hands of many students, and they all saw what was written on it. I was really angry. I didn't offend him, but he spoke ill of me. I cried in class.

I told my friend about it. My friend told me that not everyone in this world will like you. You don't have to care what others say about yourself. I was suddenly enlightened. Maybe I always want to please everyone, so I always care about other people's comments. There is no need to let a small matter affect your mood, which is not worth the loss.

When you have experienced more, you will find that even the closest people around you may speak ill of you. I have a friend whose grandmother treats him badly. His grandmother always likes to speak ill of others behind their backs. Even speak ill of your grandson. In fact, I feel very sad, because you treat him as a relative, but he treats you as a stranger. Why do relatives speak ill of each other? Shouldn't relatives support each other? But some people can't. Later I learned that his grandmother really didn't like him. My friend moved out because of grandma's language pressure. After leaving grandma, he became more cheerful and lively. He doesn't care what his grandmother says.

When you start to care about other people's comments, you lose. Because you will be led by other people's comments. When one day he doesn't know you, your trust will collapse, and you will feel that everything in your world suddenly disappears. When you don't pin your hopes on others, you will live more easily.

Whether studying or working, there will always be people gossiping behind their backs. At work, there were always people in the company who spoke ill of others behind their backs. I've never been involved. Because I know that if I participate, I may be the next person to be spoken ill of. There is always right and wrong, but don't judge others easily. You have only seen the surface of the matter, and you may not know the truth. There used to be a person in the company, and everyone didn't like him very much. But my tutor told me not to look at the surface of things. What he did may be unpopular, but it is good for the company. So don't listen to other people's opinions, listen to other people's suggestions.

Speaking ill is a very annoying thing. I didn't respect the fact itself, and I didn't prove it. So don't care what others say about you, just be yourself.