What do you think of doing white things in the countryside, which is very grand and pays attention to ostentation and extravagance?

Personally, I don't think this practice is desirable and can't be advocated. Young people are filial to the elderly, and the most important thing is to work hard on raising them, and then do something big after the old man dies, just for the living.

According to rural people, the three most important things in a person's life are birth, marriage and death. Therefore, the occurrence of these three things is a great event for rural people. But no matter how much attention you pay, you can't compare with others. Is it extravagant and wasteful? Besides, some peasant families are not rich, so they are afraid of outsiders' jokes if they don't do so. Therefore, selling iron is also big.

Jiaodong rural rules, "red things call, white things arrive." When people "fall", they don't need their own people to plan. My uncles will arrive soon. Help decorate the spiritual bed, make sacrificial bald cakes, and inform Master and friends and relatives everywhere. Generally, every village has its owner's arrangement, who will inform relatives, who will go to the grave and who will contact what, and all kinds of arrangements are orderly.

In my hometown, the simplest "free food" more than 20 years ago was the nephews who came to help. They cooked a large pot of stewed vermicelli with cabbage and tofu in a large iron pot, and then stewed a large pot of rice, as long as they were full. However, with the improvement of living standards in rural areas, the meals eaten by "white things" have gradually become varied. From stewing cauldron to frying cauldron. The variety of vegetables has also changed from one to eight (eight people at a table).

Personally, I feel that my family has recently lost relatives. This simple and frugal way of eating is not only a respect for the deceased, but also an understanding of the grief of family members, and it is also in line with our frugal tradition in China. People can't be resurrected after death, and the wind of comparison is unacceptable. It's better to do what you can.