New mothers tend to be angry. What are the three ways to calm down?

Nothing about giving birth to and raising children is easy. Anyone who has become a mother knows that her life changes completely after giving birth to a child.

There was once a joke circulating on the Internet:

After a man has a child: he goes to work, comes home from get off work, entertains the child, plays games, and sleeps.

After a woman has a child: go to work, come home from work to feed the child, change diapers, bathe the child, wash clothes, clean up...

Many people I laughed it off after watching it. Only mothers know the sadness behind it. My friend became a new mother, she has a hot temper, and her husband scolded her

Yesterday I went to have dinner at the house of my good friend A Min, whose child just celebrated his first birthday. Amin and her husband Chen Sheng were busy cooking, while I took care of the children for the time being.

The child makes a sweet sound and is very well-behaved. He looks straight at you with his big eyes and babbles a few times from time to time. It makes my heart melt.

While eating, Amin’s husband wanted us to talk, so he finished the meal quickly and took the children to play in the bedroom.

Amin and I barely chatted before Chen Sheng came out with the crying child in his arms. When Amin saw the child crying, he became anxious and said something to Chen Sheng.

"Why are you looking at the child? I'm just going to rest for a while. The child obviously pooped. Just change a diaper."

I only saw Amin's movements. Change the child's diaper skillfully.

Chen Sheng looked at his wife and said: "Wife, haven't you noticed that your temper has become very bad recently?"

Amin's movements stopped, "My friend also What are you talking about here? I just had a bad attitude. I apologize."

"No, because you are under great pressure recently, I asked you to invite friends over for dinner. You guys can talk while I take care of the kids. Let’s go back to the room first.”

I saw Awang smiling at me and then went back to the bedroom with the child in his arms.

Amin sat down and sighed, "I've been a bit grumpy recently. It's a lie to say that my mentality of raising children is not affected. I've always been angry recently, and Chen Sheng often scolded me."

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As soon as I heard this, I quickly advised Amin, "Your husband has done a good job by doing this. How many new fathers do not care about anything, you should also learn to release the pressure on your own."

"You're right, I bought him a pair of shoes secretly, just to coax him. I really should learn to relieve stress myself, otherwise I always feel out of breath." It's hard for a mother to raise a baby. The mentality is broken, and the baby's father does not understand and makes it worse

There are many people like Amin who are in a bad mood because of raising a baby, especially new mothers who have no experience in raising babies and often make themselves confused.

Amin’s husband has done a very good job. He cares about his wife very much and helps Amin take care of the children all the time. However, Amin still feels depressed because of the changes in his life with the children. It's too big, and many people find it difficult to accept it in a short period of time.

What is more difficult to accept is that the mother has to do all the hard work alone, and the father has not thought about it.

In the conversation, it can be seen that the father of the child does not care about his wife at all and does not understand how his wife takes care of her. The baby’s hard work. He even felt that his wife had become lazy after giving birth, did not know how to pay attention to her image, and began to dislike his wife.

Many mothers say that such a husband is too scumbag and they should get divorced as soon as possible. What I want to say is that we women still need to be self-reliant and learn to regulate ourselves. It’s so hard for a mother to raise a baby, so self-adjustment is the best way

1. Be kind to yourself

Be kind enough to yourself before you can also be kind to others. When you are in an excellent place In this state, you will be able to do anything with ease.

Bringing up children is a laborious job. Mothers must first ensure that they are healthy and in a good mood, so that they can have the energy to take care of their children.

In addition, if the mother is in good health, the breast milk will be more nutritious and the child can grow better.

2. Be lazy when you can be lazy

The laziness mentioned here refers to housework and life. Some mothers are more independent and strong, and want to do everything by themselves.

As everyone knows, this will quickly tire you out. Within the scope of economic affordability, all smart home appliances can be used in the home.

It can be installed on any sweeping robot or dishwasher, freeing up your hands to a certain extent and making it easier for you.

My husband and family will help if they can, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Especially your husband, you must let him participate so that he can truly understand the hard work of raising children.

Besides, raising children is never just a mother’s business.

3. Appropriate shift of the center of gravity

After many mothers have children, their focus is entirely on the children. This does not mean that this is wrong, but it shows that mothers love their children very much, which is understandable.

But there is no need for a mother to spend all day just for her children. She occasionally spends time with her husband, goes shopping with friends, and goes home to see her parents.

These cannot be discarded because of your children. Otherwise, when your children grow up and go to school, you will find that you are estranged from your husband and friends, and you will be very lonely by then.

Of course, the most important thing is that all fathers should pay more attention to their wives. Taking on the responsibility of taking care of the children should not only burden the mother. The father also has the responsibility of taking care of the children.