How to talk to your husband about divorce? Send him a message: Let’s get a divorce.

"Can I hold you, baby? Let me call you this for the last time. If we are to be separated tomorrow, let me cry happily." A song by Zhang Huimei made countless people cry. It expresses the reluctance and helplessness between lovers (husband and wife) at the time of separation. However, feelings are not a child's play. Once irreconcilable conflicts arise between two people, separation is not accidental.

According to statistics, the number of divorced couples nationwide reached more than 4 million in 2017, while the number of married couples was just over 10 million. The divorce rate continues to rise, while the marriage rate continues to decrease. Not only that, there are as many as 200 million single young people of marriageable age in the country, accounting for about 1/7 of the total population.

Why are there so many divorced couples? Just a few very common reasons. There is a saying that a couple's love lasts for a hundred days. Who doesn't want to be with his significant other for the rest of his life? However, the reality is very cruel. Either the relationship breaks down, or the personality and three views are inconsistent, or the family conflicts intensify, the couple finally chooses to part ways.

When every couple faces divorce, they have various reactions. Below are a few wives who sent their husbands "Let's get a divorce." The replies were heartbreaking and made the screen wet with tears. Heartbroken.

The wife sent her husband "Let's get a divorce." Although the husband immediately apologized and expressed his stance, it was obvious that he was not sincere. The wife was not hysterical, but calmly said she was quitting and letting her husband live a good life with someone else. It can be seen from the husband's words that the two of them had a quarrel about this matter the night before. I think the wife must have completely figured it out in one night. After all, this is not the first time that her husband has been ambiguous with other people, so the wife wants to stop the loss in time. The long-term pain is worse than the short-term pain, and ends the marriage as soon as possible to avoid having children in the future and it will be more difficult to face it.

In fact, if the husband was more sincere at this time, there must be some room for maneuver. Unfortunately, he said something very "straight", and he thought all men were like this. In fact, many men like to use this sentence to evade or make excuses for themselves when encountering this kind of thing. Such people are very selfish. They do not consider their wives’ feelings. If it were their wives who did this, How do they feel?

When the couple was facing divorce, they still quarreled with each other, and the husband was emotional from beginning to end, even complaining all the time and never calmed down. In fact, this state is the worst. Women are emotional animals. When they are emotional, what they actually need is tolerance and understanding from men. Maybe they can be coaxed by saying nice things. It doesn't make sense to reason with a woman who is controlled by her emotions. You must first follow her words and let her negative emotions be released.

Wait until she calms down, and then act with affection and reason. She will reflect on her own and realize how good you are. Many times when women say break up or divorce, they don't really want to do it, but they want to express their opinions and dissatisfaction in this way for a while. If you continue to argue with her at this time, it will often escalate the conflict and add fuel to the fire. When the time comes, the two of you will say things that hurt others and yourself, and it is very likely that the two of you will break up. , even if they are reconciled later, the damage is irreversible.

This husband is also a "straight man". In fact, in the hearts of a large number of men, there is this kind of thinking, that is, as long as he doesn't cheat, it doesn't matter. Moreover, this husband thought that he was going to accompany the boss, so he had no choice, and he only went in and out of some places out of helplessness. In fact, if he had properly apologized to his wife, admitted his mistake, and understood his wife's emotions, the two people would not have become more and more quarrelsome.

Presumably this is a mistake that most men are prone to make, that is, it is difficult for them to take the initiative to admit their mistakes, and they like to defend themselves with various reasons. Haven't you ever heard of a saying? Don't reason with women, women are unreasonable. When communicating with a woman, please put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to look at the problem from a woman's point of view. Don't just be a "straight man" and think that women are making fuss out of molehills and making trouble unreasonably.

You must know that women are very insecure and pay great attention to security. If your performance makes her feel insecure, the first thing you have to do is to rebuild her sense of security.

This couple must be very loving. They can even joke about divorce. Although it is not recommended that couples take such things as a joke, if a couple can If you talk about everything and don't care about each other, then your relationship is definitely very stable. The reason why the wife filed for divorce from her husband was actually a way of coquettishness between them, and the husband was not surprised by it. Instead, he cooperated with the joke.

Isn't the best relationship just "you are making trouble and I am laughing"? There is more than just a marriage contract between husband and wife, but they need to work together to maintain and manage the marriage. If you can maintain a tacit understanding in your marriage, two people will feel particularly relaxed and happy when they get along, and it will be difficult for outsiders to destroy your marriage.

Although the couple could not tell what caused the divorce, judging from their chat records, neither of them made any principled mistakes. The wife mentioned that the two of them were not suitable for each other, whether it was due to different outlooks or incompatible personalities. This marriage must have made both of them feel very tired. This is equivalent to a pair of gears. The gears obviously don't match up but they have to be put together. The rhythm of life cannot match. Can such a marriage be happy?

If the husband wants to have his own career, he will inevitably neglect his wife, so the wife has various dissatisfactions in her heart. This kind of emotion will accumulate, but it just exploded this time. The husband said that he loves his wife very much, and we believe it for now, but we can see that he loves his career more. It is normal for men to have a career, but smart men know how to balance it, but stupid men will lose their bias. There must be gains and losses. If you are not willing to sacrifice part of your working time for the woman you love, how can you call it true love?