Different perceptions lead to different decisions

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Cut your excuses in half and double your actions around your goals. Your efforts will be rewarded, whether big or small, sooner or later, your efforts will never be disappointed.

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On the surface, it is action that widens the gap between people, but this "action" is actually determined by cognitive level.

The lower the cognitive level, the more self-righteous!

For example, when chatting with some people, even if you provide particularly strong evidence, even if you are right, they just don’t believe what you say and insist on their own opinions, which is particularly stubborn.

Another example is some people who are deeply involved in pyramid schemes. If you tell them that it is a scam, they will get angry with you and think that you are blocking their way to make money.

You often see this kind of person. You tell you that you need to work hard and improve yourself, but he tells you about his background and that hard work is useless.

It can be said that low cognitive level is a person's most fatal shortcoming.

With different cognitions, you will make different decisions and lead a different life!

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Practice retelling a short story in 1 minute

"Observe carefully"

When you meet someone, you must observe them in detail;

Each article must be reviewed repeatedly.

"Keeping an eye" means recognizing people from the subtleties.

When Zeng Guofan assigned Li Hongzhang to train the Huai army, Li Hongzhang brought three people to see him and asked Zeng Guofan to assign positions to them. Zeng Guofan just returned from a walk and said to Li that there was no need to summon him, and said: "The person standing on the right is a loyal and reliable person who can be assigned logistics and supply work; the person standing in the middle is a person who is a treacherous person and can only be given insignificant tasks; the person standing on the right can only be given insignificant tasks. The person on the left is a talented person and should be reused."

Li Jing asked: "How did you tell that?"

Zeng said with a smile: "I just said it. When I came back from a walk and passed in front of the three people, the man on the right lowered his head and did not dare to look up. This showed that he was respectful and respectful, so he was delegating the supply work. On the surface, the man in the middle seemed to be respectful, but as soon as I walked past, I immediately looked around, which showed that he was being polite and respectful. , so it cannot be used. The man on the left always stands upright, looks straight in the face, neither arrogant nor humble, and is a general."

The man on the left who Zeng Guofan refers to as "a general's material" is the one who later served. Liu Mingchuan, the famous governor of Taiwan.

Zeng Guofan recognized people from the subtleties and developed his keen eye. The staff of the Zeng Mansion was at its peak. The staff made great contributions in the process of Zeng Guofan's pacification of the Taiping Army.

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The thief’s marketing thinking is so awesome!

Why can the thief achieve almost 100% transaction rate without going short?

Why can thieves steal people's most guarded things?

Why do thieves always attack during the day when there are the most people?

Why are anti-theft slogans everywhere but still ineffective?

Because the thief has perfect marketing thinking, quick adaptability, and strong psychological quality. Based on my personal experience, let me talk about the marketing thinking of a thief when he steals a mobile phone on a bus:

①Market research

? The thief does not just blindly find a place to wait, but Yes, prior market research will be conducted. Therefore, the thief pays more attention to information platforms such as traffic broadcasts and where the bus is than we do, because he needs to know which road is congested. Only on congested roads and bus stops will a large number of people gather.

②Analyze customers

? The reason why thieves attack during the day is not only because there are many people during the day, but also because people have a stronger sense of security during the day and feel that nothing will happen. Dangerous things, so precautions will be neglected. At night, people's security awareness is weak and they will consciously protect their mobile phones and wallets. At this time, thieves have no chance to attack.

③Find the target

? The thief also carefully selects his target, because stealing a 200 yuan mobile phone and stealing a 2,000 yuan mobile phone will make more money. Profits are different. Therefore, thieves will filter the people waiting for the bus in advance. Who has money, who has a good mobile phone, and who is easy to be stolen, the thieves all go through certain selection to ensure that they do not steal.

④Create an atmosphere

If everyone gets on the bus in an orderly manner, the thief will have no chance of succeeding. Therefore, when a thief sees a bus, he will lead the way. Once he runs, others will rush for a seat. If he is afraid that there is no seat, they will follow him, but he will not run too fast. He will run to whichever one has more people, and They ran sideways until everyone blocked the entrance of the bus.

⑤Create conflict

? The thief will keep squeezing someone, and then that person will make a noise about why they are squeezing, and what is there to squeeze in, and then the thief will also yell 2 sentence, so that everyone's eyes are on him, because everyone likes to see other people's jokes. But since it was a crowded bus, everyone took one look and continued on the bus. At this time, the thief had succeeded. What the thief stole was not the person he was arguing with, but the "target" next to him. When the thief was arguing, the "target" turned his head to look at the argument, and then continued to get on the bus. , and at this moment the thief had succeeded.

⑥Escape intact

? When the bus first started, the person who lost his mobile phone discovered that his mobile phone was missing. At this time, his first consciousness was that the person who had just argued was a thief, and his second consciousness was to find that person on the bus. At this time, everyone also realized that the person just now was a thief, but after scanning around, they realized that the thief just now did not get into the car. At this time, the person who lost the mobile phone asked the master to stop the car, but after getting out of the car, there was no sign of the thief. From losing the phone to discovering the lost phone and then looking for the thief, the thief disappeared in less than 2 minutes, which is not slow.

Finished watching it! Thieves are the real masters of marketing. Skillfully use marketing essences such as market research, market segmentation, creating atmosphere, and creating conflicts to know your enemy and yourself and be victorious in every battle.

If you are in business, sales, or marketing, you might as well learn the marketing thinking of a thief. When you have enough understanding of the market and customers, I believe you can "not go short" and achieve a 100% transaction rate.

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Without a dazzling appearance, you can cultivate your inner temperament; without amazing talents, you can enrich your spiritual cultivation; without impressive achievements, you can maintain your past. Without a noble background, you can adjust your mentality to elegance; without alluring love, you can have kind sincerity; without a wandering helmsman, you can enjoy tranquility; without perfection in life, you can reveal your true feelings. A warm heart...

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Once upon a time, I began to like fallen flowers and fallen leaves, because you can always read the purity of a green leaf and the happiness of a blooming flower. And the return of life.

I don’t know why I came to this mortal world, but I know that I have also sent wisps of fragrance and greenery to this world. Come to think of it, this is the most beautiful interpretation and free and easy way of falling flowers dancing lightly. At the end of life, there is nothing more than the peace and tranquility of being born and relieved of death.

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As the saying goes, work does not support idle people, and teams do not support lazy people. The boss's money does not fall from the sky, it is earned through hard work. If you don't work hard and don't bring certain benefits to the company, why should the company pay you a salary? Don't think that being an idler is very leisurely and glorious. In fact, idlers in the company are, to put it bluntly, freeloaders.

Think about it for a second, if you were the boss, would you want your employees to play with their mobile phones, shop online, and goof around day after day during working hours? As the saying goes, do what you do and love what you do. Don’t think about how much you will get paid first, but think about the work you have done for the company. Study hard and think about how to solve problems for your boss, how to make the company your home, and how to make the company more profitable. If you truly do these things, your salary will continue to grow.

Nowadays, it is popular to constantly refresh the circle of friends, hit online dramas, and online shopping is popular, so those white-collar workers either stare at the computer and select items that they are satisfied with one by one; My eyes are glued to my mobile phone, watching my favorite online drama, laughing and crying sometimes. Day after day, month after month, a lot of time is wasted. I did all these non-work related things during working hours, complained about the low salary, and thought about changing jobs. You know, if you don't change yourself, no matter how much you jump around, you can't escape your own laziness and leisure.

The company is not a state-owned enterprise and does not eat from the same big pot. Nowadays, there is a carrot and a trap, and some even have one person holding multiple positions, so you must continue to enrich yourself, and each additional skill will bring you more opportunities. If you are an idle person and have nothing to do when you go to work every day, you can find something to do, or you can learn to recharge your batteries. Don’t blindly shop online or watch online dramas. If this continues, you will undoubtedly be the first to be fired.

I know very well that the company does not support idle people. When I first arrived at this technology and Internet company, I was full of enthusiasm. I was the first to go to the company to clean the house every day, and I tried my best to do everything. The lean and bespectacled young man sitting opposite me was a technician who had nothing to do all day long, either reading novels or playing games. On the first day I saw him playing online games, I was worried that my boss would find out. Unexpectedly, my boss seemed not to notice him when he saw him playing games. I was puzzled, but didn't ask any more questions. The next day, the young man was still very leisurely. In addition to playing games, he also wore headphones and watched movies. So I became suspicious of the saying, "The company doesn't support idle people." This person might be a relative of the boss. One morning a week later, dozens of computers in the company suddenly became paralyzed. If they were not restored to normal in time, millions or even hundreds of millions would be lost. The boss was so anxious that sweat broke out on his forehead. Under the urging and worry of his colleagues, he finished it in only two hours. The boss was filled with joy and clapped his hands. You know, the losses he recovered for the company were nothing compared to his salary. It suddenly dawned on me that the company did not support idle people. As the saying goes, it takes a thousand days to raise an army, but it takes a while to use it. Sure enough, the company does not raise idle people.

Are you an idler? If you are, but you don’t want to lose the job in front of you, please correct your habit of doing nothing immediately. Even if your boss doesn't arrange it, you still have to find something to do on your own. If the boss arranges it, then it should be even better and try to be as perfect as possible. If you really can't find anything to do, then enrich yourself and don't play on your mobile phone or watch online dramas during work hours. Do something meaningful and don’t waste your youth carelessly. Time is limited, so please cherish it.

You receive a salary from your boss every month. If the boss gives you more money, work more, otherwise, work less. If your boss treats you well, do more. Otherwise, do less. Work more when the boss is in the company, otherwise work less. You must think you are working for your boss. But after more than ten years, you find that you can't do anything, and nothing can arouse your passion except money. From that point on you have eliminated yourself.

Don’t forget! We always work for ourselves, to improve the quality of our lives, to be responsible for our families, and to prove our worth. The boss only provides a platform, a system for value and price transactions, and an opportunity to achieve career development. So, you have to create everything yourself!

① Either work hard or get out early. Sooner or later, someone will take action on you if you hang around in any position. You have to understand that running a business is not charity. If you are willing to be charity, I suggest You go and beg for food.

②Don’t treat your boss and superiors as fools. Just because he’s pretending to be stupid doesn’t mean he’s really stupid. If you don’t hold him accountable, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t remember. It’s just that he gives you a chance to hone your little tricks. You are hundreds of times more professional, otherwise he would not dare to sit in this position.

③Don’t just talk about how miserable you are when you meet people. If you talk about it for a long time, you will definitely become the one who suffers the most in the company. If you have been suffering for so long and still can’t come up with a solution, it only shows that you are not intelligent. The problem is that your emotional intelligence is defective, because no one cares about your painful process, only your happy results, including yourself.

④ Be true to your word when it comes to your work. Every time you do something, who else will believe that you can do a good job? Why should the company give you the best resources?

⑤Don’t think you are awesome. If you really think you are awesome, show your work results. This will be more convincing and more recognized by the company than bragging ten thousand times.

⑥Flatter less. I believe that no matter how loud or cool the flattery is, it cannot equal one-tenth of the performance of your outstanding work.

⑦Don’t worry about small money. No one cares about your three dollars and fifty-two cents. People who care too much about small money will worry about small money all their lives, because thinking about small money will easily become a habit for you. Investment is not only It's stock market funds and gold.

⑧Loyalty to the leader is the lifeline of your existence in the company. Without it, you can still exist without performance or results. Without it, no matter how awesome you are, you are nothing, and you will soon become infamous. Clearly.

⑨Be tough on yourself and force yourself to work hard. In five years, you will thank yourself for being tough today and hate yourself for being lazy and inferior today.

⑩Please stop saying "I have no merit but hard work". Please remember that hard work is a burden on the enterprise, which will slowly make the enterprise forget that credit is the condition and value of your existence.

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If your friend list is never updated and you cannot make 5 new friends or partners a year, your career may be stagnant.

If you observe a person playing games, in many games nowadays, you can unlock an achievement after playing hundreds of hours.

You can also go to watch a football game or movie together to see what he thinks about the game or movie.

Is he someone who desires success?

Do you want to show your personal strength?

Do you want to make more money?

What are your thoughts on success?

Did you shoulder the expectations of your parents when you were a child? Did you receive a good education and training?

As a reminder, when a boy watches a movie for the first time in love, he should observe the woman carefully, but do not behave in an indecent way. Because even the staff can see it under surveillance! Also, let’s talk after we go out after the movie! Stop chatting in the cinema!

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If you have nothing to give up, you will achieve nothing. A person, the only one who can hold on to hope is himself, and the only one who can give up hope is himself. Resentment and jealousy will only make you lose more. Regardless of success or failure, we all have reason to cheer for ourselves! It doesn’t matter if you fall or lose, get up and continue to walk through wind and rain, singing and walking. Keep your eyes open and don't let confusion confuse you. Only when there is a shore in the heart can there be a ferry, a ship, and a tomorrow.

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There are three treatments for depression. The first is drug treatment; the second is psychological counseling; and the third is self-adjustment. First, drug treatment. If the somatic symptoms of depression significantly affect the patient, it is recommended that the patient take medication because the drug takes effect relatively quickly. The second is psychological counseling, as depression is related to personality. Taking medicine can improve symptoms, but it cannot improve the patient's thinking pattern. The counselor can lead the patient to self-awareness and make effective changes; the third is self-adjustment. For example, athletes, no matter how good the coach is, still have to rely on themselves for the final practice. Therefore, self-awareness and self-adjustment still require patients to face the problem themselves and sort out their own hearts.

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Don’t give up easily on someone you miss every day. You will never meet many such people in your life. Even if we have to endure a lot of hardships together, we will get over it just by gritting our teeth. The pain of life will fade away with time. But time cannot wash away the pain of losing a loved one. What can still make your heart ache years later is the true love you gave up so easily back then.

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Only by setting off can it be possible to arrive. If you never start, your dreams will never come true. If you are already on the road, I will happily cheer you on. On the road to my dreams, I have another companion, which will give me more courage to continue walking. I also like to see more and more people’s dreams come true. Happiness is the realization of every small life wish.

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The most fearful thing in a relationship is that

One person is very busy and the other person is very idle

The circle of one person is very large

And the other person is only him

One person is sensitive

But the other person doesn’t like to explain

The relationship between them is gradually alienated < /p>

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This life is so long. Some people have missed it, let us understand that love and possession are two different things, and whether they are suitable or not is more important than whether they like it or not. Perhaps the best arrangement for everything was that we were not together later. Fortunately, I met you a long, long time ago.

It’s not someone else, it’s you. If you want it to get better, you can start by trying to change yourself, and then try to find that Mr. Right. The ideal is always full, but the reality is always skinny. In addition to persistence, we must also be rational. If you can't meet the right person, it's often because you can't change your wrong self. No one has ever helped you in times of need. When one day you get used to being alone, maybe someone will come to make things better for you.

If I can't waste my life on the person I love, I'd rather waste it on myself. I would rather loneliness embrace me and let me immerse myself in the beautiful loneliness of a person than touch those bodies I don't like, respond to those words I have no feeling, and embrace those things I have never been moved by. soul. Love is an amplified freedom, but being with these people is a constant constraint for me. Everyone who we swore to love when we were young always thought that this time we would be able to make it through life and death. In the end, we were only unscathed. We were arrogant and domineering. But everyone has experienced different things, met different people, and accepted the unacceptable. Only when you understand what you cannot understand can you live in the way that is most comfortable for you at this stage. Stop pretending to be perfect and start learning to be self-defeating. Stop chasing fame and fortune, and start enjoying the happiness of family. No longer daydreaming aimlessly, but down-to-earth doing every little thing. Admit your cowardice and stop pretending to be strong. Don't be afraid of offending your friends and dare to cut through the mess quickly. Every life you choose is another kind of power. Every change seen by outsiders is just the best choice made by the parties involved using their time. I found that I may have changed and no longer care about people who disrespect me. I found that I have indeed changed, and I no longer like having to explain everything.

After all, no matter how others evaluate you, it is not more important than your own happiness.

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Only when you are drunk do you know who you love

There is a question:

“Why don’t children like to drink? ”

The answer is:

“Because children can be happy without drinking”

There are too many grievances and helplessness in the adult world

Not being able to get what you want

Not being able to go to the far place you yearn for

And not being able to hug the person you miss most

When you are awake

< p> Always tell yourself to be free and easy and strong

Learn to forget and let go

But wine is like bottles of makeup remover with malicious intentions

Let People lose their disguise and have nothing to hide

I used to wish that I had flesh and blood, dare to love and hate

But after having a face-to-face encounter with love

I wish I was A rag doll

Can’t cry or laugh

Even abandoned, I don’t know

How much I want to forget someone

How much I want to see someone

This can only be admitted when a person is drunk

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There are three aspects of maternal love Levels, the first level is natural maternal love, which is reflected in the mother's satisfaction of the child's basic needs such as food, clothing, and health;

The second level is social maternal love, which is expressed in the mother's knowledge of the child, Behavioral education;

The third level is spiritual maternal love, which is reflected in the mother's encouragement of her child and respect for her child's personality. Only maternal love at all three levels can be transformed into a child's self-confidence and self-improvement.

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#energeticmanagementshare#068

Emotional control of energy management

01 Learn to understand and accept your own emotions, especially It is to quickly realize your negative emotions, accept them and change them.

02 Train positive emotional muscles.

Emotional muscles can be trained just like physical muscles. You need to find your true points of interest and invest time in them. The quality of the time invested is sometimes more important than the length.

Running, yoga, reading, painting, calligraphy, everyone has different interests, but once you find your point of interest, you must develop a sense of ritual and devote high-quality time regularly.

03 Find the source of your positive emotions.

Emotional energy needs to be constantly balanced and regenerated. Some people are good at obtaining positive energy through the external world. Chatting and interacting with friends is a good way. Some people like to achieve this by being alone, thinking or introspection. Inner peace and beauty.

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Lists are a way of life and a conceptual change. Use lists to get things done consistently, correctly, and safely, and get rid of the chaos, disorder, and confusion in high-speed life.

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There is a kind of fate between people, a kind of communication between heart and heart, a kind of feeling between love and love, and a kind of feeling between love and love. It is a sincere heart, and there is forgiveness between mistakes. Life is such a kind of communication. Everyone has self-esteem, everyone has difficulties, and everyone has his own ideas, practices, and ways of living. Different ideas and different practices lead to different ways of living. There is no need to change others, just be yourself.

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In the information age, everyone’s information and behavior traces may become weapons for attacks by people with ulterior motives, or they may be a barrier to protect ourselves. Therefore, each of us should think rationally and not be controlled by emotional garbage when facing negative news, and should not judge others from the moral high ground. Don't understand everything and don't make judgments easily. When you are angry, take a deep breath and adjust your emotions before making a decision.

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Remember three principles: ① Do not defect actively ② Counterattack after being attacked ③ Stop retaliating as soon as the other party chooses to cooperate again.

Those who separate friendship from competition are real masters.

If you have a personal relationship with your opponent in the past, you can still maintain the relationship during the competition, greet his family, and send some small gifts to his children after the holidays. This can numb your opponent on the one hand, and also on the other hand. Pave the way for the future.

Sooner or later, the competitive relationship will end. If you show friendship in advance, there will be the possibility of repairing the relationship in the future.

Summary: First of all, don’t turn your opponent into an enemy casually, distinguish these two roles.

Secondly, don’t make the first move or be ruthless. But don’t be afraid of conflict, and don’t stupidly give the other party a cold signal first.

Finally, the nine-character mantra for facing conflicts:

Don’t stir up trouble,

Don’t be afraid of trouble (? The key to not being afraid of trouble is when you are attacked and plotted by the other party. , be sure to fight back in time. Don't be timid in the face of war. Your opponent's attacks are based on suspicion. You have to ask your leader to find out who is slandering you. Don't just say "the one who cleans himself will clean up". If you take a counterattack stance, the leader will understand that this subordinate of mine has a very strong temper. If you want him to continue to work with me, you can't bully him casually.)

If you can solve the problem (there is an old saying among us Chinese) , called "When is the time to retaliate?" When the opponent begins to show a cooperative attitude, retaliation can stop? ).