There is an awakening called self-realization.

There is a passage on the internet that describes middle-aged people like this:

Deep down, I'm still that 16-year-old child who needs someone to take care of.

I wish someone could hold me in their arms.

But parents are old, children are old, and lovers are cold.

From now on, no one will hug me until I die.

Before, I always naively thought that there were still many people around me to rely on.

Later, it was discovered that when the apprentice is successful, there will be many people to add icing on the cake; Those people all ran away when they were down and out.

It turns out that the people who have been with me for the longest time in my life are not my parents, not my lovers, but themselves.

You should have the ability yourself.

We have been looking for a sense of security all our lives, so we live by marriage or children.

But in fact, no one is willing to guarantee your life except yourself.

After Zhang Youyi and Xu Zhimo got married, Xu Zhimo has been very cold to her, laughing at her as a "bumpkin".

Later, Zhang Youyi was pregnant with his child, but Xu Zhimo was so infatuated with Lin that he decided to divorce.

Zhang Youyi asked tearfully: "Divorced, what about the children in the belly?"

Xu Zhimo said, "Stop it."

"I heard that someone had a miscarriage and died."

"Some people died on the train, and others took the train."

Xu Zhimo said coldly.

After Zhang Youyi gave birth to the baby, Xu Zhimo handed in the divorce agreement. "Quick sign it. I want to pursue my soul mate. It's too late to sign. "

Zhang Youyi was completely desperate, signed it and left without looking back.

She pulled herself together and tore off the label "Xu Zhimo abandoned his wife".

Self-taught German, entered the university for further study, and finally achieved a great career, living to become an unattainable woman of Xu Zhimo.

People are born, no matter who you form a family with, don't forget your own skills.

Only when you have the ability to make money can you win the respect of the other half.

Being strong and independent is always the highest umbrella.

People should fulfill themselves.

Share a story:

Su Dongpo and his good friend Fo Yin visited Lingyin Temple. Su Dongpo was surprised to see Guanyin Bodhisattva hanging rosary in the hall.

Then ask Fo Yin Jackson:

"The whole world is reading the name of Guanyin Bodhisattva, hoping to get her protection. Why is there a rosary hanging on her hand? Whose name is she reading?

Fo Yin Jackson said:

"I also read Guanyin Bodhisattva."

Su Dongpo more don't understand, ask:

"Why does avalokitesvara miss herself?"

Fo Yin, the Zen master, explained that because she knows better than the rest of the world, it is better to ask for help than to help herself, and it is better to rely on herself than to rely on others.

Always thinking that relying on others is not the best policy. No one will be with you unconditionally forever.

Parents get old day by day and will eventually leave you; Relatives should also get married and will not always be by your side; Friends have limited abilities and can't help you every time.

What kind of life you can live is always in your own hands.

A good life has always been achieved by yourself.

Love yourself in your own name.

Life is your own, put your hopes on others, and all the good things are just a mirage.

If you are strong and love yourself, you can live without looking at other people's faces, and you will not be blocked by yourself or attracted by others.

You should love yourself in your own name.

Zang Jianhe, the "dumpling queen", was born in a poor peasant family and dropped out of school to become a nurse at the age of 15.

At the age of 22, she married a doctor with a prominent family.

I thought I would get rid of poverty, but I didn't expect my husband to marry another wife.

At that time, her mother-in-law told her that if she swallowed her words and stayed, she could have food and clothing all her life.

Zang Jianhe, who has a strong personality, left decisively and went to Hong Kong with his two daughters.

A stranger can only start from the bottom.

Go to the teahouse to wash dishes and go to the toilet during the day, go to the hospital as a nurse at night, and sleep for two or three hours every day.

On one occasion, a friend came to see her and repeatedly praised her craftsmanship:

"You can sell this jiaozi on the street!"

She took the joke seriously and pushed the car to the street every day to sell jiaozi. Soon, it attracted many customers, got investment, and the business was booming.

In the end, the "Wan Chai Wharf" she founded became the first brand of frozen food in Hong Kong.

If you put your hopes on others, you have to look at their faces. Being humble, walking on thin ice, and having little sense of security.

Don't depend on others. Although it is hard, it is really practical and secure.

Instead of grovelling in front of others and being said to be melodramatic, it is better to put away your complaints and save yourself.

Yu Hua said:

"No road in the world is repetitive, and no life can be replaced.

Everyone is experiencing their own life. "

Life is a single-handed battle. We need to mount our own guns and face any hardships.

In life, there will be sour and sweet, light and shadow, sunny and rainy.

I hope we have the courage to play it.