My mother-in-law said to me: Without your food, you can order takeout yourself. Can I stay in this family?

Reader Lili told me the story of her divorce:

When the marriage dies day by day, Lili's only hope is to get together and break up, not to quarrel, not to go to court, and the family will end peacefully. However, it was not until the divorce that she realized that she was too naive.

During the week from when she filed for divorce, to when the divorce agreement was drawn up and signed by both parties, her ex-husband didn't even look at her, blacked out Lili's WeChat, and only used SMS to connect with Lili about divorce.

They made an appointment for a Friday afternoon to go through the divorce formalities. At noon that day, Lili sent all her luggage ***8 packages, and sat in the empty small study, quietly waiting for the departure time.

the familiar voice of mother-in-law cooking came from the kitchen. Lili thought that she had been very kind to her mother-in-law for two years since she got married, and she never cared about the price when she bought things for her mother-in-law. Last year, her mother-in-law was hospitalized for more than half a month, and Lili took a leave of absence to take care of her mother-in-law. When her relationship with her ex-husband broke down and the quarrel was the fiercest, she didn't lose her anger or mistreat the elderly.

So, this meal, the last meal before the divorce, Lili thought, she should have something to eat. It is not that she is short of food and drink, but that if she is a mother-in-law, she will definitely take this last chance to thank her daughter-in-law for her warmth, although it is short-lived.

in the end, Lili was naive.

After a while, when the meal was cooked, Lili's ex-husband also went home from work. The mother-in-law, father-in-law and ex-husband sat down and ate, talking and laughing. Lili was like air.

Lili was a little sad and speechless. Just as she was thinking about how to solve this lunch, her mother-in-law pushed open the door of the study and said with a straight face, "Well, who doesn't have your meal, order take-out yourself."

When her mother-in-law finished speaking, she went back to the dinner table. The family continued to eat with laughter, but Lili's tears came out unwillingly ...

Lili was in tears. After eating the takeaway, her ex-husband drove to the Civil Affairs Bureau alone, and Lili took another taxi. After the divorce procedure, the ex-husband left without saying a word. Two years of love between husband and wife, once given a lot of true feelings, suddenly became a stranger, no, an enemy, more fierce and ruthless than the breakup between ordinary couples.

Lili said to me, "I don't know why, but my heart is always a little blocked. My imaginary divorce is not like this. Even if I really die of old age in the future, there is no need to make it so explicit at this moment. No matter what, I have paid my true feelings. Is it worthless to pay once? Must be trampled like this?

I suddenly feel that marriage is ridiculous. That piece of paper, sacred to say, is actually just a ticket to a tourist attraction. With it, you can enter this door, and someone will receive you. Once you lose it, you will be worse than a stranger, and even the last meal will not be yours! "

in the cases I have been in contact with, there are not many that really get together and part. Only a few couples can get along like friends after divorce. Although divorced, they are still parents of their children, continue to cooperate in parenting and fulfill their responsibilities as parents.

most couples, when it comes to divorce, even if they are still snuggling up one second, they will turn into black faces the next. Those who go to court because of divorce, but also mercilessly kill each other, very anxious to eat each other alive to feel avenged, the oath sworn in person at the wedding ceremony has become a great joke, and children have become the irony of this intimate relationship.

That's the cruelty of marriage-I don't love you, but I can marry you. I don't love you, but I can have children with you. I don't love you, but I can do everything related to love with you. Once this marriage is dissolved, I can openly hate you, insult you and erase all my past efforts.

I remember that four years ago, I went to Hengdian, Hubei Province to interview Yu Xiuhua and talk about her divorce story. Her ex-husband never loved her, and he didn't have the ability to love at all. He always humiliated and ignored Yu Xiuhua, and never took money to support his family, but he dragged his feet and didn't divorce.

is it because of love, responsibility and reluctance to leave? No, he wants money.

Finally, Yu Xiuhua took out the first royalty in her life and gave her ex-husband a large sum of money, and her ex-husband got a divorce certificate with satisfaction. You know, before Yu Xiuhua became famous, before this royalty, she was always poor, just an ordinary peasant woman. This money was the first bucket of gold in her life. For her, it was more than meaningful, and she was willing to give it to him.

After the divorce, Yu Xiuhua and her ex-husband went to eat a hot pot together, and they laughed and forgot their enmity.

this hot pot is full of human feelings and fireworks. Even though he never loved her, all he gave her was humiliation and tears. Even after the hot pot meal, the two of them would die of old age, and she would like to solemnly thank this fulfillment, his fulfillment, and her fulfillment of her own destiny ...

I was deeply moved by Yu Xiuhua at that time, and she was so thoughtful! So, from then on, "Let's have a hot pot after getting the divorce certificate" has become my ideal divorce template.

Unfortunately, apart from Yu Xiuhua, I have never seen such a divorce. Almost no man has Yu Xiuhua's mind and generosity. What I see is that more men kill their wives with the knife of divorce, just like Lili's ex-husband, who confidently puts on a face of kindness and righteousness.

What hurts Lili most is that this disloyal face declares the truth of this marriage: there is no love at all, only the conclusion in the legal sense. When the conclusion in the legal sense ends, the fig leaf in the name of love is torn to pieces.

however, what if Lili never gets divorced? She can't see anything under the fig leaf all her life, and she will always be kept in the dark, dedicating, paying, forbearing and waiting for this marriage ... < P > The sun and people's hearts are the most inaccessible things in this world, but people's hearts are even more inaccessible than the sun. I hope that you will never look people in the eye, that the people you love just love you, and that you can have a hot pot together when you get divorced.