Should a family with two sons be separated after marriage? How to allocate parents' pension problems?

I think the families of two sons must be separated. As a well-known old man, we should explain the family situation to the two sons in Kaicheng in advance, how to provide for the elderly in the future, and who occupies or uses more resources in the family, so we should pay more power and money for the parents' pension.

Children nowadays are ghosts and goblins. When parents have accumulated, they are unwilling to be separated. When parents have no money, they want to separate. Especially for families with two sons, it's useless to always want to live on their laurels and don't want to support the elderly. Attaching great importance to material things hurts parents' hearts.

Whether it is a son or two sons, it is best to get married separately. Only in this way can we show our son's ability, especially his independence. My classmate is an only child. Separated by parents after marriage. This classmate thought that he would live with his parents all his life, but his parents bought him a set of 100 square meters in another community. His parents forced him to move there and told him about his life. This classmate and his wife are reluctant to leave their parents.

Unexpectedly, both parents retired, and after traveling for half a year, they asked their son to break up. My son doesn't want to move because he has to take care of two old people. Parents called the moving company and asked him to move to a new house by himself, leaving his son and wife to live in the old house. Force your son to be independent and don't depend on his parents.

In the past, classmates were protected by their parents and had no worries about food and clothing. The couple make their own money, spend their own money, and live a pretty chic life. All expenses such as oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea at home are paid by parents, and three meals a day are cooked by his mother, who is a retired teacher. His mother said that when he was old, he would leave his calf alone and be happy for the rest of his life. His mother also said that when she was too old to take care of herself, her son could live with her. If she is ignored, she will hire a nanny, who will take care of her and give the house to the nanny. Force my son to grow up quickly and stop being a giant baby.

Personally, I think that if you are an understanding parent, your son should divide up after marriage, and make everything clear (family property issues, future pension for the elderly) to avoid conflicts in the future.

Now, I will answer questions based on the materials you provided:

According to the information you provided, your in-laws are the family that raised his eldest son (if what you said is true). When old people are able, they will help their eldest son. Logically, when they are old, the eldest son should provide for the elderly. When I am incompetent, I only work for my eldest son. When I'm not up to it, I'll call you again.

If you don't think this kind of life will work now, you can propose a family meeting to express your thoughts, or you can talk to the elderly privately about this problem and see how they plan. Don't be confused. In the end, you can't say anything, which will lead to family conflicts. Don't be embarrassed to say this question!

Now, your eldest brother is confused with the old man, which in itself is a muddled account. If it is not clarified now, it will lay a hidden danger for their future pension problems! If your eldest brother understands, he can take care of the elderly alone in the future. If he doesn't understand, you will have to take care of the elderly in the future, which will lead to contradictions!

What we need to do now is to sit down and separate the family, how to divide the family property, and how parents can provide for the elderly in the future.

In fact, if parents understood, your old man should have been separated from his eldest son a long time ago.

After the separation, since the old man has the ability, you should leave it alone for the time being. The old man loses his ability to work, and you two families share it equally! As for property, it is guaranteed to be fair and reasonable, and there can be no favoritism!

I wonder if my suggestion will help you!

Old people are sensible and children know how to be grateful. This problem is easy to solve. /kloc-when I was 0/8 years old and took over my father's job in the city to eat commodity grain, I called our two brothers together. I went to work in the city, and my hukou became a city hukou. The old house at home was given to my brother, including everything at home, and the other homestead was also mine. Our brother has no problem with it. It's a pity that he is not old enough and the unit doesn't want him. Then I got married and bought a house in the city. My father gave him a suite. My father asked me for advice. I say you give this house to my brother, so that my brother and I each have a suite in the city and a homestead in the countryside. It's basically the same. As for providing for the aged, when my father was alive, the old couple didn't want to live in the city, but wanted to live in the countryside, planting a few acres of land and ordering a few chickens, just as they wished. My father is ill. He has a pension for living expenses and saved a lot of money by scrimping and saving. Basically, our brother didn't spend any money. After his father left, the old mother couldn't take turns to take care of him. She can go to whoever she wants, and then change homes when she is tired of living. Whose expense is it at ordinary times? Just give our brother an average of medical expenses at the end of the year.

If you want to divide, you must divide, or you won't get along well. It is better to divide it earlier than to divide it.

Should a family with two sons be separated after marriage? How to say the problem of parents' providing for the aged?

Trees split when they grow up, and children split when they grow up. Parents of families with many children, even if they are separated, can hardly keep a bowl of water even.

There are two neighbors and five sons. One way is that parents build a house for the boss to get married, and the boss is responsible for building a house for the second child to get married. Finally, the five brothers live with the old man and take care of him, and the five brothers share the money equally. In another family, parents built a house for their five sons to get married, but the house was built, the old father left, and the old mother lived well in her later years.

How about two sons? I feel that one son is definitely not as good as the other. It is very difficult to educate two children at the same time. How many children can be filial? If two children have conflicts, not to mention the issue of providing for the aged, they can both become enemies.

Children have the obligation to support their parents, so parents should have two sons to support them whether they are separated or not. In the future, if parents still live in the eldest son's house, should the younger son at least give the minimum alimony? One pays and the other contributes. If you want to go to a nursing home or other old-age care institutions in the future, then both sons have to pay. As for living in my eldest son's house before, my parents paid and contributed. I don't think you can care so much about your parents. After all, parents have worked hard all their lives, and who they like to live with is also their choice.

Must be separated! It doesn't matter whether it is divided or not.

A family cannot have two hostesses. The so-called one mountain can't accommodate two tigers. People say that women are tigresses and there are two women. Aren't those two tigers? Besides, women are really difficult to get along with, especially sisters-in-law, who will quarrel over trifles and produce contradictions. Even if we get along well on the surface, there are actually many problems, so we must separate.

Everyone's habits and lifestyles are different. When a large group of people live together, there are bound to be many contradictions, not to mention the young and old. What should two families do if they have children? Why are they all crowded together? Do primitive people in ancient times still live in big pits? Obviously, it is unrealistic. Nowadays, many young people want to have their own small families.

As the saying goes, three women, a play, where there are many women, there are more right and wrong. If you don't want to quarrel and make conflicts, just split up as soon as possible!

Two generations in my family are two sons and daughters, my father and uncle are not separated, and my brother and I are not separated!

Let me tell you a joke first. When I was young, I didn't even know what divorce and separation were. Later, when I grew up, I realized that separation is a matter for two brothers and divorce is a matter for husband and wife.

Why didn't my father and uncle separate? Because I talked about working in the city, my father stayed in the countryside to farm. But some people, even if they work outside, have to go back and divide some property. My family is special, and my grandfather is also a public official. I met my grandmother when I was working in the village. Therefore, our family's land share is not much, and my uncle was underage when the land reform was carried out! In addition, due to various reasons, soil erosion is serious. When I was a child, the problem of food and clothing at home was difficult to solve. My uncle comes home to visit us several times a year, and he pays our tuition almost every year.

But then again, the cash crops in rural areas are more valuable now, and it is also because my uncle is kind that I don't go back for a share. We still eat and live together like a family, and we will share whatever is in the countryside!

My brother is a civil servant, and I have a stable job. Neither of us went back to the countryside to farm, and now we are taking our parents to the city. Many times, my brother's doll and I have to eat and sleep together, just like a family. They all regard cousins as brothers and sisters and don't know that we are two families. Their grandparents are also very satisfied!

Our two generations are not separated. Mainly related to our own situation. Doesn't mean everyone.

I think it would be better if both brothers were in the countryside, mainly because there would be no economic contradictions.

There are also two nearby families that are not separated in the countryside. Both families have yards and gates, and the houses are built together, and the family lives in half!

Therefore, it should be enviable to unite, and it will be difficult to separate after quarreling!

Finally, I'll send you a word: brothers and families are prosperous! Regardless of the points! Fight the tiger, brother. In short, the two brothers should not have contradictions, understand each other and support each other! There must be a prosperous family business.