At work, what would you do if a colleague joined others to isolate you?

What if people are isolated by all their colleagues in the workplace?

It is a terrible thing that a person is isolated in the workplace. On the one hand, I am too young, just entering the workplace, with no social experience or too little experience; Moreover, doing things too "two goals" makes colleagues feel strongly disgusted. Break the conventional rules of the game. Moreover, there are problems with colleagues' language and communication methods, or their attitudes are arrogant and discordant; I am too introverted and inarticulate, and my language expression is defective. I don't know if I have offended my colleagues.

Colleagues together is a kind of fate, don't think you have much ability, the rules of the game in the workplace are particular. With the "two goals" that newborn calves are not afraid of tigers, you will never get along in the workplace. One person says that your "two" is not two, most people say that your "two" proves that you are really two, and everyone's isolation fully proves that you are home. That's it. This hurts your self-esteem.

The workplace is like a battlefield, with team consciousness and spirit. If you want to stand in the team, you must learn to get along well with your colleagues. The frequency of success in the workplace is relatively low. Without anyone in this world, the earth will still run. Snobs abound in the workplace, and there are also villains. Especially interested in new people. It is not surprising that a little carelessness will cause an uproar and make a chorus. Learn essence, talk to people, damn it.

Don't panic, it's not like the leader wants to isolate you.

First of all, we must recognize a common sense; Since you are colleagues, it means that your two positions are equal, and it has been confirmed that you are both competitive and cooperative. This is also normal. If the mentality is balanced, there will inevitably be competitive contradictions in the work, so we should treat it more rationally.

Work ability and personality determine your position in the team, and strength determines self-confidence. We should ask ourselves how you are doing at work and whether your position in the team is important enough. Strength and ability determine the value of your existence in the team. If you have strength, no one dares to ignore your existence.

2. Imagine that there are contradictions between colleagues, how the leaders handle them, and how other colleagues choose to stand by. Leaders are usually a bowl of water, and no one can replace you two for the time being, each playing 50 boards. This kind of competition between colleagues is also the default fact (controllable, as long as it is benign competition between them, everyone's work passion can be activated). As for other colleagues, it depends entirely on your usual relationship with them. The so-called bystander is clear. To find out each other's motives, why isolate you? 1. You unconsciously violated his personal interests, and you behaved so well that you fell behind in every job until jealousy caused hatred. You hurt his self-esteem unintentionally, even if you say a joke, he will take it seriously, because the lost person is always sensitive inside. You don't mean to help your colleagues, but others may not think so. For them, you just want to strut yourself and get back at you. Find an intermediary to coordinate (someone respected by both sides); Have more dinners, close the distance, communicate more, dispel each other's concerns, stop misjudgment, doubt and avoidance, make progress together and work together!

To be a person worthy of the respect of the other party, whether it is a colleague or an opponent, the pattern should be bigger, and it is most important to be yourself whenever and wherever!

Look down on life and death, do it if you don't accept it; Lian Heng, break through the encirclement!

The workplace is vanity fair. Our colleagues and I will inevitably have conflicts of interest and personal conflicts in the Jianghu world. The struggle never stopped. There are always people who think you are doing something wrong, and there are always people who don't like you! Please don't be surprised, angry or flustered if you meet colleagues at work who provoke other colleagues and unite others to isolate you. In the subject's view, just fight back directly!

Show the enemy to be weak, and form the public opinion and facts that the other party deliberately finds fault with you. If a colleague at work wants to deliberately isolate you by wooing other colleagues, it will inevitably expose you, discredit you, form a public opinion offensive around you, and make others have a bad impression on you. Only when the impressions and feelings of both sides are consistent can you be isolated!

In the face of such a person who takes the initiative to discredit you, we should not argue with him too fiercely on the good side, but do our own thing quietly. In fact, everyone is not blind. If you force an excuse, it won't work. When the other person acts excessively, everyone will have an opinion of him, even if he is close on the surface, he will be alienated inside.

In private, he annoys you directly to your face, angers him and drives him crazy. To destroy a person, make him crazy first. To deal with such a narrow-minded person, we must constantly stimulate him, confront him privately and drive him crazy. After his anger accumulates, he will vent it regardless of the occasion and seize a reasonable opportunity to humiliate him severely. When a person often loses face in front of his colleagues because of unreasonable troubles, he loses his prestige and it is difficult to turn up a big wave!

Since the other party wants to isolate you, don't be idle. Make friends with some colleagues who have little contact with him and involve little, and gradually expand the circle of interpersonal relationships. As I said at the beginning, everyone in the workplace is linked by interests, and he wants to mess with you as a colleague. Circle of influence, you also have the influence of the corresponding position. If someone like him wants to isolate you, he will choose to start with himself. Don't be idle, take the initiative to use the influence of his position to establish contact with some people around him, so his isolation strategy will fail. Then, people who pass through your circle gradually expand outward, and in turn isolate each other through acquaintance and communication!

It is best to start a dialogue at a critical time, which can solve the contradiction. If you can't solve it, let others see your open attitude. Of course, everyone believes in contradiction, including your leader. When your contradiction escalates to the surface, you can take the initiative to talk and communicate with each other when others know, let others know that you are not a troublemaker and build a good person. If the other party accepts the proposal of reconciliation, leaders and colleagues will think that you are broad-minded and understand the overall situation. Who doesn't want to deal with a person with sunshine in his heart? If the other party disagrees, you will be patient and he will pursue them. This shows that the other party doesn't care about weight, and affects the working state with subjective emotions. After a long time, someone will come to clean them up!

First of all, you should understand that you are here to work, and your mentality should be adjusted. Secondly, why did the boss call you? Come to hold a group? I suggest you work hard. They only use value in groups, and you are valuable in yourself.

Two days ago, I just answered the question of how newcomers can spend the adaptation period in the new workplace and avoid being squeezed out and suppressed. You can find the relevant content in my question and answer. Here, I want to talk about my views on this issue.

It's your fault to be isolated by everyone. Don't complain about anyone, be yourself first. In the meantime, even if you do a little less, you should be a good person.

The topic said that the new couple was isolated because they were "too hard" and "unable to speak". What I want to say is that hard work and ingenuity, hard work and wisdom in the workplace. I don't think I will be isolated because I work too hard. It should be that the place, timing or direction of my efforts are wrong, which has aroused the dissatisfaction of my colleagues. Like offside. Regarding the problem of not being able to speak, I think this should be an important reason for being isolated. Enter the new workplace, see more and listen more, ask questions appropriately and talk less. Because I don't understand the situation, the composition of interpersonal relationships, inappropriate words, irrelevant opinions, unrealistic and unpleasant suggestions, and even accidentally offended people.

Newcomers in the workplace should not only act positively, but also be good at acting; I'd rather not say anything wrong, not delicious or hurtful. Remember, if you talk too much, you will lose, and disaster will come from your mouth.

Since we realize that we are isolated, we should sum up our lessons and continue to work hard, but we should not be stupid and make things right. A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts in June. Be careful what you say and do, learn to communicate with colleagues, be kind, be kind to others, be good at talking, establish good interpersonal relationships, gain a foothold, take root and go far in the new workplace.

Choke water and learn to swim. I had a similar experience in state-owned enterprises; Later, I went to a private enterprise and was once isolated by my colleagues. However, it was through unremitting efforts that I finally turned the tide.

Decades of workplace experience and lessons tell me that "newcomers will not be isolated because they work too hard"; At least the leader will appreciate you. However, "not being able to talk" can easily lead to fire and offend colleagues around you. In this case, the subjects had better start from "learning to speak" and believe that the relationship with colleagues can be gradually improved.

"Newcomers work too hard" is not the main reason for being isolated, but probably because they are too ostentatious and like to "show off" and "grab credit". There is also not paying attention to "old-timers", and so on. At that time, my failure lesson was because I didn't understand the workplace rules of "advanced temple is old for three days"

As the saying goes, "No pains come, no complaints come", among which being wronged is an important factor. If newcomers in the workplace can bear all kinds of intentional or unintentional misunderstandings and bullying, it shows that they have begun to mature. At this moment, getting out of the predicament is not empty talk.

To sum up, it is all about treating people; In fact, the competitiveness of newcomers in the workplace is also very important. Only by constantly improving their work skills and strengthening their business ability can they be "irreplaceable" to a certain extent in the unit; It's inevitable to be like a duck to water at work.

A newcomer who suffers first and enjoys later will eventually be popular in any unit.

Xiao Wang has worked in an enterprise for 10 years. He has always been conscientious and hard-working, and he does whatever the company leaders and employees ask him to do, and he is never picky.

But Xiao Wang's biggest hobby is eating durian, stinky tofu and croton in the company. Sometimes 12 hours a day, he can spare four or five hours to eat durian and stinky tofu, and he likes to gasp after eating stinky tofu.

At first, everyone put up with it, but for seven or eight years a year, it was unbearable. Many employees began to oppose him, and sometimes there will always be some cases of bullying Xiao Wang.

Xiao Wang is also very helpless. He just ate some durian and a stinky tofu in the office. It's really unnecessary to have a hard time with me.

First, the situation in the workplace is not uncommon.

I once said that working in the workplace is, after all, a collection of competing interests. Since there is competition for interests, there are bound to be problems and troubles of one kind or another.

Factions are often in the workplace, and your group and ours don't like each other, or there is a competitive relationship between this department and that department. Whether it is vicious competition or benign competition, it always belongs to the competitive relationship.

In the face of such a competitive relationship and such a goal relationship, there is no need to be too serious.

But the crux of the matter is, when many people start to target you, when many people start to crowd you out on the surface, you should consider whether you have done something wrong. It is precisely because of this wrong thing that they have no place in the workplace.

The reason is very simple, because the competition between departments can be regarded as the competition within the enterprise, but if all departments compete with you and overwhelm you, then nine times out of ten, it is because you did something wrong.

Second, deeply introspect and draw a clear line.

Since this has happened, don't worry, don't panic, take out your mobile phone and take a quick shot.

If many employees start to be hostile to themselves at work, and many employees start to suppress themselves, then it is necessary to see if they have done something wrong at the first time. If they really touch the interests of the vast majority of people, then take the time to correct them.

However, the point is that if you have done nothing wrong, you need to draw a bottom line. If anyone dares to suppress himself or be hostile to himself at this time, you should refute it at the first time and strive for your own initiative.

Er Yu believes that in order to be isolated in the workplace, there are three ways to deal with the current situation of being isolated by colleagues: emotional ABC rule, harmony as the most important thing, and timely stop loss.

First, the reasons for being isolated by colleagues. The workplace itself is a stakeholder. Companies have company interests, departments have departmental interests, and individuals have personal interests. If one's own interests are not damaged, the state of getting along with colleagues is hello, I am good, and everyone is good; Once the interests are damaged, the most common phenomenon is that colleagues start to form teams, which leads to their isolation.

In the workplace, everyone's personality and style are different. Some people are outspoken about things, not others. Some people are thoughtful and secretive, and they are more likely to offend related colleagues if they don't know their colleagues well enough. For example, leaders seeking opinions at meetings may inadvertently offend others and cause dissatisfaction among colleagues.

Second, the negative impact of being isolated by colleagues Xiaoyun tasted the taste of being isolated by colleagues, which affected the progress of work. Xiaoyun is a department assistant, and the company needs new online activities. There was another colleague who was in charge of docking before, and she asked for leave because of something at home.

When there was no one at the moment, the department manager asked Xiaoyun to temporarily replace the colleagues on leave to dock the activities, and let an experienced old employee take Xiaoyun with him. After contact and communication with the old employees, the two sides reached an agreement that the old employees should be responsible for docking and Xiaoyun should be responsible for the related work after docking. However, only one week before the activity, the old employees still didn't get the activity materials, which made Xiaoyun's work unable to be carried out.

Xiaoyun asked many times, and the old employee said that the other party had never given an answer. Because it is a cross-department, Xiaoyun knows that his contacts are limited. Xiaoyun went to the manager for help in order not to affect the progress. I didn't expect the manager to say that the relevant information has been given to the old employees, so Xiaoyun should do it quickly, otherwise the work progress will be affected.

Being isolated by colleagues is no better. Although there are no sincere friends in the workplace, people are social animals, and they are more willing to choose the kind side than being isolated.

If you are isolated from the world for a long time, you will feel that everything you do will be criticized and you will gradually become cautious. In the long run, you will not only feel depressed, but also affect your health.

Third, how to deal with the isolation of colleagues? For example, Xiaohong and Xiaohua both participated in the promotion of department heads, and both of them lost the election at the same time. Xiaohong's view is that although she lost the election, she has made a lot of progress through this period of study, which is also a blessing in misfortune; Xiaohua feels that she is working hard and that she is very capable. Why did she lose the election? She felt that she was not elected on purpose.

The same thing (a), Xiaohong's personal opinion (b) is that it is good to work hard, and Xiaohua's personal opinion (b) is that the leader deliberately does it, which leads to different results (c).

Being isolated, although we can't influence others' actions, we can change our inner subconscious views and adjust our mentality not to be affected by negative emotions.

China people pay attention to harmony, advocate harmony to make money, and think that only a peaceful atmosphere can have more room for development.

Man is a perceptual animal. When they treat others badly, the most common reaction is to fight back. If you treat me badly, I will treat you even worse. If you adjust your mentality, you don't care about each other's isolation, but live in harmony with your colleagues. After a long time, the other party will find it boring.

Actors dance on the stage and the audience applauds under the stage, so that the actors on the stage will be more motivated; If no matter how hard the actor dances, the audience under the stage will not pay the bill, and the performance on the stage will become a one-man show. After a long time, no one "joined" and felt bored, so they naturally "quit".

We can't change others, but we can stop losses in time.

Being isolated and depressed for a long time is not only not conducive to the advancement of work, but also affects a person's physical and mental health and development. The best way is to stop loss in time and change to a new environment.

Conclusion: Er Yu feels that it is normal for the workplace to be isolated. Sometimes we don't have to bite the bullet to solve it. You can choose the soft way to change the status quo first. Because there are many people involved, if it is really difficult, you might as well stop in time, change to a brand-new environment, learn from previous failures and avoid into the pit again.

There are four kinds of relationships in the workplace: allies, centrists, opponents and allies! Only by recognizing the essence of this joint isolation can we better deal with it! The first kind of allies are colleagues who are on the same side with us. They are often like-minded, highly cooperative, and even partners who can * * * when encountering problems!

The second kind of competitors often compete with us in some aspects, which may be both competition and cooperation! For example, the partners who are in charge of different regional management in the same department have a competitive relationship in business performance, but this relationship is not necessarily an enemy, but it has to be a matter of life and death!

The third kind of centrist has little direct contact with you and no benefit, and can only get in touch with you when special things happen. Such people are often the objects we strive for and can be transformed into our allies when the time is ripe!

The fourth relationship is the enemy. People who often attack us and dig holes for us may belong to different political factions in the workplace, and sometimes they may target you everywhere for a certain purpose, hoping to kill you. This kind of person personally thinks that it is a minority in the workplace!

In view of what you said, a colleague has isolated you with others, and you can judge the relationship between your opponent and your enemy at the same time. Need careful analysis, which type it belongs to!

If it is a rival relationship, perhaps this so-called isolation is the process of cultivating feelings for our competitors in order to make better performance and get more resources support. This situation does not belong to isolating you! For ourselves, I suggest actively strengthening communication with relevant colleagues in our daily work, striving for their recognition and understanding, leaning towards you appropriately and supporting your work under the limited resources! The common method is to buy some special products for these colleagues when they come back from business trips. If they work in an office, give them a cup of milk tea occasionally. If you have the opportunity to communicate privately and communicate more, then even if this colleague wants to unite with others to isolate you, it is futile!

If you belong to the enemy's relationship and the people you work with belong to the same faction in the workplace, as for you, I suggest you become a corner of a certain field of the company and let the top management of the company know you first under the condition of improving your skills. Secondly, if you don't have a faction, you can join this faction, so that the family will not say a few words, and naturally you will not be isolated! Of course, if this trick doesn't work, you can go to the rival faction of this faction and get the support of the allies of another faction, so it will be difficult for them to isolate you!

If all the above methods are useless, there is still a zero choice in the workplace, that is, walking is the best policy, so you'd better jump ship quickly!

In view of the above analysis, if you encounter isolated imagination, first analyze the relationship between this situation and the workplace, and then take corresponding measures. Only in this way can you get better survival and development! Finally, good luck!