Parents' emotions determine their children's future reading experience.

Parents' Emotion Determines Children's Future is a paperback book written by Luo Pei and published by Jiangsu Phoenix Science and Technology Publishing House. The book is priced at 49.80 yuan, and the number of pages is 192. I hope to help some readers.

Reflections on Parents' Emotion Determining Children's Future (I): Family Education with Full Dry Goods

Stabilizing emotions is good for children. "Parents' emotions determine their children's future" is a wake-up call for countless parents, telling parents and friends that your emotions have a far-reaching impact on their children's future development.

Don't let bad emotions ruin our cherished parent-child relationship, and don't let bad emotions drag down your life. The book Parents' Emotions Decide Children's Future is the work of psychological counselor Luo Pei. She said that parents want to change their children because they have expectations for them, but when the children they see are different from their expectations, in the process, either the children's emotions are out of control or the parents' emotions erupt.

This situation is not uncommon. As parents, we have also encountered such a situation. Especially when tutoring children and checking homework, there is always a puzzling fire. We look at children from the perspective of adults and feel that children are procrastinating and inefficient, so they are inexplicably anxious. I often hear such "jokes". Some parents helped their children with their homework and got sick. Although it is a joke, this kind of experience may have been experienced by many parents. How to avoid it, you have to stabilize your emotions or simply get out of sight.

But raising children is nobody else's business. Every parent cannot escape. To face it, we must first enlighten ourselves, how to stabilize our emotions and how to be a qualified parent. This is our compulsory course. The book tells us not to blame ourselves for losing our temper. Everyone will be angry. From the standpoint of parents, let us understand that we are not 100% parents, but we are ourselves. We can have bad emotions, but we must accept our emotions to solve the problem. If you realize that you have negative emotions, you need to do something to help yourself feel better, that is, release your negative emotions.

Children need psychological counseling when they have bad emotions, and parents also need psychological counseling and self-awareness to understand the feelings of accepting children. We are very demanding of our children and often of ourselves. Don't force yourself, lest you force your children. Take good care of yourself in a busy life, so that you can take better care of your children. Now I understand why many parents get angry easily when they come home from work after a hard day, because we are busy with work all day. If we go home at this time and see that our children misbehave or do things that make us dissatisfied, we will find an outlet to suppress our emotions for a day, because we will be angry.

We should learn to manage our emotions. If negative emotions appear, let them flow and find other ways to release them, instead of venting them on children. Because bad emotions not only make children afraid, if they are not handled well, they will also let children learn the same way to deal with bad emotions.

The suggestions and methods given in the book to solve bad emotions are worth learning. Moreover, the book also tells us how to improve ourselves and our children and make them walk more steadily on the road of growth.

Reflections on "Parents' Emotion Determines Children's Future" (2): Being a good child is good for you, you should cultivate yourself first.

Being a parent is a kind of practice. Many parents have expectations for their children. If there is a gap between children and their own expectations, parents will inevitably have a gap in understanding, which is easy to produce bad emotions. "Parents' Emotions Decide Children's Future" focuses on the influence of parents' emotions on children.

Everyone has bad emotions, but we often control and adjust ourselves in time when facing outsiders, but for children, there may be too many intimate relationships, and we always think that children are young and out of control, and only when we yell a few times or get angry will children converge.

Because we don't care much about children's thoughts, we often realize our disorder after getting angry, and then realize how bad it is to lose our temper with children.

Don't blame yourself after losing your temper, but explain it to your child. Why not take a deep breath and pause before losing your temper? As the book says, "controlling emotions is the premise of effective change."

Some people may ask, when the anger comes up, how can we control our emotions and suppress the flames? The book makes sense, "Take care of yourself first". No matter what happens, take care of yourself first and don't let yourself accumulate negative emotions. In today's society, many parents do their best for their children, not only giving them too high expectations, but also giving themselves overload pressure. If the string collapses too tightly, it will break easily. So do people. When there is too much pressure and too many negative emotions, it is easy to break out.

Therefore, parents should first accept themselves, allow themselves to relax, calm their emotions, and don't lose their temper with their children.

Why do parents get angry is because parents expect too much from their children. But if you force your child blindly, it will only be counterproductive. As parents, to see their children's abilities, we can't just ask them, let alone teach them how to improve.

"Parents' Emotion Determines Children's Future" discusses not only emotional management, but also how to improve children's ability and let us see their talents. The last four chapters of this book are about this.

First, clear goals and find ways to make children realize that learning is a happy thing.

Second, cultivate children's good habits, such as time management, concentration, self-care, reading and so on.

Third, allow children to make mistakes, because every mistake is a kind of learning.

Fourth, in addition to learning, children also need to cultivate good character. Cultivate children's great character from all kinds of small things in life.

There are examples in the book, and these opinions and suggestions hit the nail on the head, so that parents can love their children in an appropriate way and let their children have inner strength.

Reflections on Parents' Emotions Determining Children's Future (III): Children raised by parents with stable emotions are more caring.

This year is the sixth year of parenting for novice mothers. /kloc-after 0/8 years old, children feel that they have made new growth in all aspects. On the way to raising children, we will encounter different problems every year and meet new challenges every year.

Keep learning on the road of parenting. Parenting at this age is more about cultivating children's habits and how to correctly handle their emotions.

"Parents' Emotion Determines Children's Future" is a parenting book recently written by national psychological counselor Luo Pei. This book collects nearly 80 common problems encountered by parents in the process of child-rearing, presents the child-rearing problems in the form of cases, helps parents understand the logic behind the problems, and gives positive solutions so that parents can learn to raise their children correctly.

One: Controlling emotions is the premise of improving parent-child relationship.

We often see such content on social platforms. Parents lose their temper with their children because of something beyond their control. After losing their temper, they felt that they should not, and they blamed themselves.

Everyone has their own emotions, so do parents, especially overworked parents. There will always be times when they feel too tired to control their emotions. At this time, some behaviors of children will always become the switch for parents to vent their emotions.

In fact, when we start to have bad emotions, the most important thing to do is to accept our emotions and admit that it is normal for us to have bad emotions. We accept it, and try to transfer and control it, and don't vent bad emotions on children.

Two: Good habits are the competitiveness of a child's life.

Good habits need to be cultivated from an early age, especially time management and concentration, which are especially needed by many parents when helping their children with their homework. For today's parents, accompanying homework has become a thing that every family must face, and too many parents can easily run into a wall on this matter.

It is normal for many families not to do their homework, but there are ways to accompany them. Problems such as inattention and delay in homework can actually be avoided by helping children develop correct habits.

Cultivating children's concentration can be assisted by some small games. Take away things that will affect your child's attention, avoid things that will destroy your child's attention, and don't constantly criticize and criticize when your child's attention is not concentrated, but give priority to encouragement. There are many ways to help children develop good concentration and naturally get twice the result with half the effort in learning.

A * * * of parents' emotions determines that the future of children involves many daily problems. Through the combination of cases and pictures, it is not boring at all, but very lively and interesting, so that parents can master parenting skills in a relaxed reading atmosphere, and they can also read with their children and discuss problems in life. * * * is a small guide for parents to ask for answers.

Parenting is a long process. In this process, we need to face some of our own problems and solve them first, and then educate our children with a gentler attitude and scientific methods. This is a process of accompanying children to grow up and also a process of reversely nourishing ourselves.

Reflections on "Parents' Emotion Determines Children's Future" (IV): Parents' Emotion Determines Children's Future!

You used to have

When you are "crazy" by children?

As a parent, do you have such troubles?

Children cry loudly in public places, but don't listen to any advice;

Children always explode, like to lose their temper and even hit people;

Reasoning with children, not listening to anything, 1 vigorously unreasonable. ...

Faced with these situations, parents often rush to the top of their heads with anger, and they can't control themselves if they don't agree with each other.

"If you cry again, mom won't like you!"

"What do you want to do? Don't be ignorant! "

When you think parenting is painful, it's because you use the wrong method. Parenting should believe in science and not rely on instinct.

The author of this book, Luo Pei, has been engaged in family education for many years 10. The book collects the common problems that nearly 80 parents encounter in the process of child-rearing, and presents the child-rearing problems in the form of cases, which is vivid, interesting and not boring. Hand-painted cute cartoons, comfortable font size and spacing, make reading easier.

Through theoretical guidance, children can be helped to master correct learning methods and cultivate good living habits. After reading this book, I understand why children in some families are confident and self-disciplined, while children in some families rely on their parents to exert external force to supervise them.

The process of parenting is also a process of nourishing yourself, and your state determines the state of your child. Parents should first take good care of their emotions in order to take better care of their children. The standard of a good parent is not to scream and not be angry, but to know what to do even if you are angry.

Fortunately, it is not too late for parents who have finished reading this book in time to change it from now on.

If the general parents are emotionally unstable, it is easy to turn their children into two extreme personalities.

First, the personality becomes withdrawn, self-abased and insecure. If parents are often angry at home and yell at their children, it is easy for them to feel insecure. Over time, personality will become more withdrawn and sensitive, or more inferior than children of the same age, and it is easy to be afraid to express their thoughts because of fear, resulting in certain personality defects. And this kind of personality defect is often difficult to change with the child's life.

Second, disobedience and rebellion. Children can't beat and scold often, otherwise it is easy to have another extreme, and some will get used to it. Stick education has no effect on him, and he has become fearless. Especially in adolescence, children are more difficult to discipline and it is easy for them to go astray.

In addition, children who are educated by their parents' bad temper will easily become people like their parents in the future. Family education has a subtle influence. In such an environment, children are likely to follow the old path of their parents.

Emotion is contagious and will affect others. A good mood is in a relaxed atmosphere and a happy mood. And a bad mood is like living in a depressing and boring space, which makes people breathless. Children's living environment is very important, and all this depends on their parents.

A person's mood reveals a person's pattern and determines a person's future. Research shows that people with bad temper are usually more difficult to succeed, even if they are smart. If you can't control your emotions and think calmly, it's easy to make a wrong decision. Only by maintaining a stable mood can we solve the problem in an orderly and leisurely way.

What can parents with unstable emotions do to cultivate excellent children?

1. Before losing your temper, think of yourself as a role model for your child, and think of the possible consequences before doing anything. Calm yourself down before making the next decision.

2. Be patient with children. It is common for children to make mistakes, because their thoughts are still immature and need the guidance and education of their parents. In the face of children's mistakes, don't rush to blame in advance, but teach patiently. Point out the child's shortcomings and actively help the child analyze the causes of the mistakes and the ways to correct them.

3. Know how to appreciate and affirm your children. Education is a science. Although children make mistakes, don't blame them blindly. Learn to discover the advantages of children and affirm, criticize and praise them. Knowing proper praise may be easier for children to accept than blindly blaming education.

4. Don't interfere excessively, education needs to be reasonable. Children's world is different from that of adults, and sometimes they have their own ideas. Don't ask them from the perspective of adults. Too much intervention will only make children lose their initial heart and have no own thoughts and pursuits.

I am a new father, and I am very confused about my children's future education. This book has taught me a lot. It's really good.