I live with my parents-in-law, but I often don't say a word because I am unhappy about a little thing.

On the second day of the first lunar month, many places in China have the custom of returning to their parents' home. Married daughters should bring gifts to their parents' homes. There are many things to pay attention to when you go back to your mother's house. For example, you must bring even numbers, not odd numbers, usually four. Your mother can't accept it all. Take some with you when you go back to your husband's house. I only have lunch when I go back to my parents' house, and my daughter must get back to her husband's house before dinner. When the daughter goes back to her family, if there is a nephew at home, the aunt must give the nephew a red envelope. Going back to my mother's house is not just on the second day of New Year's Day, but also on the third day of the first month in some places. In China, Shaanxi, Henan and other places, there is even the custom of returning to her parents' home on June 6, which is related to the season of harvesting wheat and threshing. As the saying goes, "whoever harvests wheat and threshes the floor will not look after his mother." On the second day of the New Year's Day in Jinan, Shandong Province, it was the day when the married girl, Lao Jinan, was called "Mrs. Gu" and went back to her mother's province to see her parents. On weekdays, Mrs. Gu usually doesn't go back to her family, and her children rarely go to her house for nothing, and her grandchildren rarely see her. Now, in the first month of the Spring Festival, we are reunited with our flesh and blood, and we are very happy to celebrate our family. It is a very grand thing for an uncle to accompany his wife and children to Yue's home, and several gifts must be prepared first. Wealthy families can go to Taikang to serve Jinhua ham, dried salted duck, longan and xifeng liquor. Most ordinary families have several boxes of cakes and two fresh fruit baskets, which can also be taken out. As soon as Mrs. Gu entered the second door, someone shouted, "Uncle has come to pay a New Year call!" The parents-in-law in the first room quickly opened the cotton curtain and greeted them. Brothers and sisters, etc. Also came out, and the yard was full of laughter. Mrs. Gu arrived first, kowtowed to her ancestors at the table and paid a New Year call to her parents, followed by my uncle. Grandchildren kowtow like garlic and pay New Year greetings to grandparents one by one. Of course, packets of red paper lucky money and handfuls of candy will make children happy. Daughter-in-law is honored as a "distinguished guest", and her mother's family will hold two or three sumptuous banquets, each with chicken and fish elbows, eight plates and four bowls. When sitting, the son-in-law should sit in the first place, accompanied by his brother-in-law and others, and the father-in-law only comes to propose a toast without accompanying him. Qingdao: From the 22nd night of the twelfth lunar month, a married Qingdao girl can't enter her family again. She can't take her son-in-law and children back to her mother's house until the third day of the first month. In the past, they were poor, but they were very particular. When I return to my parents' home, my daughter will go home before noon and leave before sunset, and she is also very particular about the gifts she brings. They will bring chickens to the memorial service on the eve of 30th, but their parents often don't stay because chickens sound "hungry". If my father-in-law is alive, he must bring wine and be prepared to drink it. The newly married new son-in-law came to the door in the first year, and the gifts were six pounds of meat, six pounds of fish, six steamed buns, six boxes of snacks, etc., a total of six sixes, which made up a six-six big shun. Steamed bread is important, and yellow croaker is the most high-grade fish, which is especially auspicious because of its yellow color. The preparation of the family is also very interesting. In jiaozi, at least, jiaozi, who was "delivering new year's goods" on the evening of the second day, wanted to leave some for her daughter, because her former daughter-in-law had a low status at home and might not have enough to eat, so she had to make up for it when she went back to her family. A son-in-law usually eats six poached eggs. In the era of "eggs are good things", six poached eggs are the highest courtesy for son-in-law. Zibo is in Zibo. On the second day of the Lunar New Year, the daughters-in-law returned to their parents' homes. On this day, as parents, they don't receive other guests. Daughter-in-law only returns to her family on the second day of the New Year before her daughter gets married. If any daughter-in-law has a married daughter, then they will use this day to entertain their daughter and son-in-law. And I went back to my mother's house, so I had to change it to New Year's Day or other days. A few days before the Spring Festival in Zaozhuang, the married daughter went back with her husband to see her off. In the past, when the economic conditions were poor, most of them would bring some gifts such as candy, fruit (snacks), pork and wine. The number of gifts must be an even number of Geely. When her daughter's home comes back that day, her parents will ask for gifts. The first is vermicelli, which means that you are constantly kissing each other. Followed by vermicelli, symbolizing round and round. There are peanuts, which means there are children and women. Also, give a small part of the gifts your daughter brings. "On the sixteenth day of the first month, every household is called Nizi." On the morning of the 16th day of the first month, the daughter who went out obediently waited at home for her parents and brothers to invite her back, commonly known as "calling a guest". The "guest" here reads "Qi" three times. At this time, the son-in-law generally doesn't go to her house. The daughter only takes the children back to her parents' house for a few days. Before the second day of the second lunar month, my husband will go to her parents' house and ask her to come back. Daughters need to kowtow to their parents and elders when they return to their parents' home. This custom of kowtowing continues to this day. On the 17th and 18th of the twelfth lunar month in Dongying, the new daughter-in-law went back to her parents' house, and her husband's family sent someone to invite her back to "serve", so she was not allowed to go back to her parents' house years ago. On the second day of the first month, the girl went back to her mother's house just to celebrate the New Year, and she was going home after the New Year. The 16th day of the first month is the most solemn day for the newly married wife and son-in-law to return to their parents' home. Weifang is in Weifang City, Shandong Province. On the second day of New Year's Day, firecrackers are set off, which means "opening". Men and women no longer taboo work, and began to take gifts to visit relatives. In the old days, there was a custom of "grandma in the second grade visited her mother-in-law, aunt in the third grade, aunt in the fourth grade and aunt in the fifth grade", but now most of them are "aunt in the second grade and aunt in the fourth grade and aunt in the fifth grade". In fact, most married women in Weifang returned to their parents' home the next day. In the past, the custom of "entering the twelfth lunar month but not entering the maiden's house" refers to married women in rural areas. In the city, on the 23rd day of the twelfth lunar month, married daughters generally don't go to their parents' homes and are followed by many people. Of course, some married daughters enter their families at the age of 30, which is another matter. Before leaving her husband's family, especially her new wife, her mother-in-law has to wrap a red envelope, and the daughter-in-law is not allowed to open it. If there is something sweet in the bag, such as dessert, it means that the mother-in-law is very satisfied with her daughter-in-law. Daughters who go back to their parents' homes should also bring candy and noodles. Candy means wishing a sweet and beautiful life, and noodles mean health and longevity. When the new daughter-in-law returns to her mother's house, she will accompany her husband to pay a New Year call home. The elders of her family will worship, commonly known as "kowtow." Whether she really kowtows or not is another matter. The accompanying person should bring a red blanket and spread it on the ground when she wants to kowtow to her uncle, mainly because his knees can't touch the soil. It is unlucky for the new uncle to get his knees wet in the New Year. On the day when Shandong girls return to their parents' home, they usually eat cakes at noon and jiaozi in the afternoon. The next day, the daughter-in-law brought her son-in-law (if there are any children, how many) back to her family. In fact, the son-in-law is the protagonist. This time, the name is "Bye-bye", and she will be back after staying for one night. As gifts, four cakes and eight lotus seeds are usually wrapped in a bag. These two kinds of pasta are particularly important because they carry the meaning of "foolproof", so they must be brought. In addition, you can bring some wine and peach cakes according to your own economic ability. On the 16th day of the first month, the son-in-law will send his daughter-in-law back to her family. This time, he will leave her at home, which is called "staying at home". Now my daughter goes back to her mother's house for the New Year, which is also on the sixth day. Why did she choose the sixth day? There is another saying: "See my aunt first, then my uncle, and finally my mother-in-law." Although the mother-in-law is the most backward for the son-in-law, she still has to choose an auspicious day to accompany her daughter-in-law back to her mother's house, so she chose the "sixth day" which is both backward and auspicious. You need to bring some gifts when you go back to your mother's house. These gifts are all in the bamboo basket. For families with average economic conditions, steamed cakes with six or eight daughters have eight red spots dyed with dyes, which indicates that parents will make a fortune in the coming year; Families with better conditions should also decorate with peach cakes in the store, usually two pounds. Peach crisp is specially made for the elderly. They are wrapped in paper and covered with red paper, which indicates that parents will have a good fortune in the coming year. On the sixth night, the daughter and son-in-law can't stay at home. But this time, my mother-in-law's time is also exquisite, not too early, not too early, which shows that her family is not attentive; It can't be too late, the family will definitely urge their daughter and son-in-law to go home before the sun goes down, which means they will have a good life when they go home in the sun! In the first year of Jining's marriage, the young couple must go back to their parents' home from the second day to the fourth day. This is called "Double Worship Festival". When eating, the new son-in-law should sit as the guest of honor, accompanied by peers or younger generations, and the elders are generally not present. You can't go to jiaozi when you eat, just hold your mouth and don't talk. In addition, every year on the 16th day of the first month, people in her family (usually nephews, those without nephews will go by themselves) will call and go back to her home together. Linyi is in Linyi. According to the formal custom, the 16th day of the first month is a good day for a married daughter to return to her family. You can go back before this, but no matter how many times you go back, you must go back on the sixteenth day of the first month. At noon the next day in Taian, the banquet of the new son-in-law was very particular. No matter how old people are, they should sit down and let the new son-in-law sit in the right seat. At the banquet, there are certain procedures for serving food. Generally, six kinds of snacks such as snacks and sweets are served first (there are also eight kinds of snacks, which are divided into four dry and four fresh), and formal dinner is served after a simple meal. The whole fish can only be served in the middle of the banquet, but as long as the fish is served, a man with an empty plate will come to the new uncle and ask the cook for a red envelope. After the red envelope is delivered, it is the brother-in-law or nephew's turn to "offer" wine. At this time, the new uncle can decide whether to give a red envelope at any time according to the toaster, and generally only give it to children who are close to their wives. Laiwu Laiwu went back to her mother's house on the third day of the first month, because she had not sent her family home on the second day. As a married daughter, she can't see the family dining table. Early in the morning of the third day, the young couple set off with six gifts that had been prepared long ago. Six kinds of gifts include: a knife of meat, two fish, two bottles of wine, two cigarettes, two packs of tea and two packs of snacks, all of which are indispensable. All the gifts are in duplicate. After returning to her parents' home, if parents want to keep it or take it back, they also want to keep it in duplicate or take it back in duplicate. You can't separate them. When I arrive at my parents' home, according to the earlier rules, the new son-in-law will kowtow to her parents-in-law, and so will her parents-in-law. After sitting at home for a while, my mother-in-law will quickly serve her new son-in-law two bowls of jiaozi, which is called "dim sum". After eating "snacks", I began to sit on a big table. The new son-in-law should sit at the top of the table, and her family should find some respected elders and people who can drink to accompany the new son-in-law to show respect for her in-laws. When the table is served, the new son-in-law should take the first bite before others can eat and drink enough wine. If the new son-in-law doesn't have enough to drink, it's best to find a "substitute drinker" who can drink before returning to her family, so as not to be laughed at at at her family. Have a good meal, the sun is already hanging in the west corner. At this time, the new son-in-law will solemnly bid farewell to her parents-in-law, relatives and friends, ask them to rest assured, give her daughter to herself, and then lead her daughter-in-law home. Texas is in Texas. It is the fourth day of my senior year. My daughter and son-in-law go back to their parents' home to pay a New Year call to their mother-in-law. At the other end of the family, it is solemnly called: Waiting for a son-in-law (or a new relative). After meeting their parents at their parents' home, their daughters and children kowtowed to their parents and grandparents to pay New Year's greetings. The son-in-law should accompany his father-in-law or the older generation to drink and eat. After eating and drinking, the son-in-law got up and kowtowed to his father-in-law. Although the parents-in-law and other old people also humbly said "forget it, forget it" at this time, they were quite willing to accept this kowtow gift. Then, under the leadership of his father-in-law or uncle, the son-in-law pays New Year greetings to the elders in nearby families or close-knit families. My daughter pays New Year greetings to people who usually have good relations with their neighbors. The children of the younger generation have their own daughter-in-law, and whether they flatter you or not, they should give your son-in-law lucky money (called "lucky money" in recent years); But sometimes the money is paid by the daughter-in-law, and when the daughter comes to pay a New Year call to her parents, she is not allowed to stay. It is said that she is afraid of eating poor at home. There must be a jujube cake from my parents' home as a gift when I come back, and the bigger the better, which symbolizes that parents wish their daughter to climb higher step by step! Early in the morning of Liaocheng New Year's Day, the young couple who just got married or had children began to make careful preparations for leaving their parents' home. The women are all dolled up, the men are all dolled up and the children are all dolled up. Then the daughter-in-law will often tell her husband and children some manners that should be paid attention to, and then go straight to the destination happily with gifts after everything is done. The bride's family will often stand at the door and greet her daughter's son-in-law and her family with a smile. Those who have children will also get some lucky money. Binzhou is in Binzhou, mostly on the second day of the first month. It is only decent for a daughter-in-law to have her husband with her. The most grand return to my parents' home is the first time after marriage. This time, the new son-in-law came to the door, no less than the new wife got married. As soon as the new son-in-law got home, his parents-in-law had already greeted him before he entered the house. When entering the house, the son-in-law will kneel and kowtow to the old man, but the first kowtow is generally not allowed, and the father-in-law will help him up. Then the son-in-law gave four kinds of gifts, nothing more than chicken, duck and fish, each with a double copy, which means yes-man. Then I sat down to eat, and the food was ready. My uncle sat down, invited the elders at home, and advised him to finish the first cup in one breath. Heze is in Heze, and the Spring Festival is celebrated on the second day. When I returned to my parents' home during the first Spring Festival, I brought even-numbered gifts: four or six. In addition, there are some small gifts to be put in special gift boxes. The gift boxes are hierarchical and each floor cannot be empty. There are cakes, steamed bread, dried noodles and so on. , and some are for money. However, the bride's family generally does not accept the things in the gift box. The old rule here is "add half at a glance". If you open the box and accept the gift, not only will each gift be returned twice, but others will also laugh at your greed. The son-in-law is much taller than the girl this time. He is the guest of honor in her family and will sit in the red chair specially prepared for him. Every time a dish is served, the new son-in-law takes the first bite with chopsticks. No one can touch this dish unless they move chopsticks. Eating vegetables alone is not enough, but also drinking. Since the son-in-law is the protagonist, drinking is indispensable. In order not to get drunk and make a fool of himself, the son-in-law will bring two people to drink instead, which is called "carrying baskets and barrels" here. This man has a glib tongue and an excellent capacity for drinking. In the wine field, they drank most of the wine for their new son-in-law After all the dishes are served, the cake is served at last. These cakes are all brought by guests, and they are specially patterned cakes. The cake on the table should also be eaten by the new son-in-law, and the snacks brought by each guest should be served again, and the cake should be served as many times as the guests come. Every time a cake is served, someone will introduce which relative brought it and what is the relationship with the son-in-law. If the new son-in-law tastes a variety of cakes, it is estimated that his stomach will be full, so he just moves chopsticks and puts one on the plate, even if he has tasted it. You can't go back too early when you go back to your mother's house this time. After dinner, talk to the old people, listen to their parents-in-law's instructions, and invite two old people and brothers and sisters to your home, and then leave for home.