What should you do if your family is poor and looks down on you?

There is such a person, when he was laid off, his family was very poor and he couldn't live. On one occasion, he paid tuition and miscellaneous fees to the children who went to school, and he couldn't even get 100 yuan. There was no way out, so I borrowed it from my relatives and didn't find anyone else. As a result, his brother-in-law opened a small factory in the county. Although he is not rich, he still can't afford a few hundred dollars, but he is worried that they can't.

No one asks if you are poor in the city, rich and have distant relatives in the mountains. Obedience may be human nature, but sometimes you go too far.

China's greatest diplomatic genius, Su Qin, a strategist during the Warring States Period, experienced such a thing thousands of years later. However, his experience is even worse than the one I mentioned. Even his family bullied him to what extent.

Su Qin, a native of Luoyang, Henan Province, is said to be the apprentice of Guiguzi, the most mysterious academic master in China. After graduating from Guiguzi Academy, I figured out the world situation and felt that Qin was most likely to realize his life value after Shang Yang's political reform.

He made up his mind and went west to the state of Qin. He was lucky enough to meet Qin Huiwen, the first Qin Emperor. After the meeting, he made his own strategy for Qiang Bing, a rich country.

However, Shang Yang had just been executed by King Qin Huiwen at that time, and there was a high voice in China against outsiders taking charge of Qin's state affairs. So, no matter how good Su Qin's plan was, King Qin Huiwen refused on the grounds that I didn't know, and those who were not full of feathers couldn't fly high. He regretted that Teacher Jin had traveled thousands of miles to teach him and was willing to teach him another day.

Let's talk about it later. Was politely refused.

When Su Qin lobbied for the first time, he was rejected unrealistically. It doesn't matter if he refuses, but he spent enough money on lobbying Qin this time, and almost all his fortune went in.

If it doesn't work this time, it's over. Shoes are broken, hats are broken, and bodies are ... no, mink is rotten, gold is used up, and resources are used up. I went back to the state of Qin, and I was so poor that I went home in such a mess.

In everyone's mind, home is a warm harbor. When people are frustrated, they always get some comfort when they go home. It's a pity that the family is too cruel to Su Qin, and to what extent.

Just like a poem written by a loser when he came home in the Tang Dynasty:

I don't like it when I come back. The yellow dog is affectionate and wags its tail when the door is lying.

Just because I didn't get into the exam, I became a nuisance as soon as I got home. Only the dog I had when I was a child talked about feelings. I wagged my tail happily when I saw it.

People, sometimes no matter how powerful, are not as good as a dog.

Su Qin didn't get the fame and fortune that his family imagined. It's great to be back this time. His parents don't talk to him, and his wife doesn't take him as her husband. What about his sister-in-law? There are also curses, driving chickens out of dogs and eating without giving a good voice.

People live to this point, their hearts are dying. But what about Su Qin? To tell the truth, this is the difference between great men and ordinary people: why did I get to this point? I just don't have fame and status. So, how did I get fame and status? Others gave it to me, not my own efforts.

The reason why the king of Qin doesn't need me must be that I'm not skilled enough. Since I am not skilled enough, I will continue to work hard.

This time, I really worked hard. I dug out the squire Yin Fu that the teacher gave him in the bookcase. Combined with the situation in the world, I study at midnight. Tired, I pricked my thigh with an awl, leaving a much-told story.

In this way, I have the cheek, endure the cold eyes of my family, strengthen my study and strive to improve my skills. A year later, I clearly know the general trend of the world, with incisive insights, so I pushed the book:

This is really the king of the world.

All the way from the thoughtful Zhao to Yan, he finally gained trust, worshipped him on the spot, and entrusted him to lobby the other five countries to carry out Su Qin's * * * against Qin and Lian Heng.

This time, Su Qin was quite successful. Wherever he went, he wore the national seals of the six countries and won the trust of the monarchs of all countries. Not only do you learn from others, but even Zhou Wang should bow his proud head and receive him with the most honorable etiquette.

At that time, Su Qin was probably the most successful and beautiful politician. He realized his ambition in life, and of course he received the most honorable treatment. On the way to the State of Chu to lobby Chu Weiwang, Su Qin passed by his hometown.

This time, the attitude of the family has completely changed. Parents personally clean the official road and have a big banquet. His wife dare not look him in the eye. Even my sister-in-law, who had the worst attitude before, knelt on the ground and kowtowed repeatedly, too scared to get up.

Su Qin deliberately asked, "Why should I be respectful?"

Why were you so arrogant before and so respectful now?

His sister-in-law honestly replied:

At that time, I said, "Respect the position of the season and win more gold medals."

Just for the brother-in-law, you are a big official and extremely rich.

This shows snobbery.

So Su Qin said, "Well, poor parents have no children, and rich relatives are afraid. In this world, you are in a position of wealth, but you can't hide it. "

This sentence needs no explanation, which is enough to alert our descendants.

Who can rely on in this world? Living up to your expectations is the last word.

References:

Warring States policy