I get nervous easily. When I speak on the stage or in front of many people, I am often too nervous to speak. I just laughed embarrassedly.

Hello! According to your situation, your stuttering problem is mainly due to the nervous and anxious spirit of strangers, which leads to muscle spasm of the pronunciation organs and hinders the melody. To put it bluntly, there are three reasons for your question:

First of all, we take strangers too seriously, that is, strangers are better than us everywhere, so when we meet many strangers or people, or in important scenes, we will be particularly nervous and excited, so that we can't express ourselves smoothly. In the case of meeting a stranger for the first time, I am a little nervous like you, hehe, this is normal psychology. In this case, if we can summon up the courage to express our inner tension to each other, such as "I'm a little nervous to see you, please forgive me!" " ""I'm a little nervous when I first came out to apply for a job, please forgive me "and so on, then our nervous mentality will soon calm down.

Secondly, you take yourself too seriously, that is, you think that you will attract others' attention wherever you go, so when you meet a stranger or a large number of people or in an important scene, you will feel that all eyes are fixed on you, so that you are always worried that you will not speak well, afraid that others will laugh at you and see others gossiping, and you will be very sensitive and feel that you must be talking about yourself. The more sensitive the result, the more fearful and anxious you are, and the more difficult it is to say. In fact, in most cases, they are busy with their own affairs and pay attention to themselves. Generally don't care too much about others. If you don't believe me, then give a speech on the bus, hehe, see if it's what I said, hehe! If you can make a successful speech on the bus, you will really feel great, with a sense of accomplishment and pride, and then you will achieve such an effect. You can easily do things that you didn't even think about before, and then the problem of eating when you meet strangers will be solved.

Finally, I think you pay too much attention to your "stuttering with strangers", but you use strong desire to get rid of it, use strong actions to overcome it, and mobilize all your thoughts to get rid of it desperately. As a result, you put this feeling of anxiety, tension and uneasiness on your body, which further caused stuttering.

In view of the above three situations, first of all, we need to know the connotation of "no one is perfect, and gold is not enough", which means that there are no perfect people in this world, and everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. Psychological research shows that people don't like those who are perfect in front of others in interpersonal communication, and the most popular ones are those who expose their true selves in front of others and have some small shortcomings. Therefore, when you are with strangers, don't care too much about their influence on you, and don't care too much about your own shortcomings. As long as you are polite and sincere, then my goal will be achieved.

Secondly, we know that all people in this world are afraid of the unknown, which means that people with strong social skills will be nervous and anxious before making friends with strangers. When we know this fact, when we meet strangers again, we will also ease our tension and anxiety.

Third, those who are elegant and generous in social life are tempered by countless friends. Although I feel a little nervous and anxious when making friends with others, it is the normal state of my growth. When you think like this, your tension and anxiety will be much less.

Fourth, don't overestimate each other and think that you are inferior to him or even useless. You should think more about your strengths. For example, your recruiter is very powerful, attractive and extraordinary, but because they are busy making money and socializing, their cultural literacy and moral background are likely to be lower than yours, which can enhance your self-confidence and thus achieve the purpose of eliminating and relieving tension.

Fifth, when dealing with strangers, leaders, elders and strangers, don't think too much about their identity, status, age and gender. You might as well treat these people as parents, brothers and sisters at home and make yourself emotionally closer to them. In this way, you can get along with them freely, and you will no longer be nervous. Of course, the stuttering problem will be eliminated naturally.

Sixth, don't care about others' approval. When you can't get the approval you want, it will make you very depressed and miserable, and it will cause self-frustration and hurt your self-confidence. After all, praise is not an essential need of human beings. Excessive pursuit of praise will make you spend a lot of energy in words and deeds and prevent you from communicating freely. Therefore, you don't have to care too much about other people's comments, you should believe in your own ability and don't pursue perfection.

Seventh, express your nervousness and anxiety directly to each other. For example, when you visit a customer in a strange place, you can say "Hello! Nice to meet you, but I'm a little nervous to meet you, because I admire you very much. Please forgive me! " When you express your feelings to each other, your nervousness and anxiety will disappear.

Eighth, don't think about who you are talking to, don't be stiff, worried, too serious, and don't think about it in advance. Just open your mouth and say what you want to say, whether they understand your own language or stutter. Just say it. This is an effective way to overcome tension and anxiety. Therefore, when interacting with strangers, don't look back and forth, don't think about whether what you said is right or not, and don't think about what others think of what you said. As long as you communicate with others, you can say whatever you have to say, so that you have the opportunity to show your talents and elegant demeanor, take the initiative to attack, and of course, you can reduce or alleviate your tension and anxiety.

Ninth, get into the habit of speaking loudly. Depressed and timid people have obviously low voices and lack self-confidence. Pay attention to raising the volume and get into the habit of speaking loudly. The explanation of scientific comparative experiment is that speaking loudly can relieve depression-it can mobilize all potential, including those suppressed potential, and at the same time, speaking loudly can expand your courage.

Tenth, treat it with a normal heart, that is, when you feel nervous, anxious and stuttering in front of strangers, don't take it as a big deal, just like treating the change of the weather-let nature take its course and do what you should and can do well.

Eleventh, positive self-suggestion. Always use positive inner language to hint at yourself (such as short positive sentences to respond to your negative thoughts, such as "everyone likes what I say", "I am particularly attractive to others" and "I am relaxed and happy when I am with strangers"), instead of denying or labeling some negative comments. At the same time, tell yourself in your inner language: all people are the same, no matter what you do, so am I. He can do it, and so can I. As long as you read these positive sentences several times a day, spend a few minutes in your heart and imagine yourself changing while reading, it won't be long before you have the results you imagined.

Twelfth, take the initiative to participate in sports, entertainment and other collective activities. With the intensification of physiological function and blood circulation, people's psychology will also be open, which is more conducive to him to vent his bad emotions and of course increase interpersonal communication and harmony. When the interpersonal relationship is harmonious, let more people understand and support you, so that you can dilute or eliminate the tension, anxiety and stuttering in front of others in harmony and care.

These are just some of my views and suggestions. Your friend Yang Yonglong, please criticize for reference.